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  Anyone else have Jekyll/Hyde parents?

  by tribalgirl in

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  anybody else have a parent or parents that acted loving and happy at the kh, but turned into angry, abusive weirdos at home?.

  my stepdad was like this.

  it was so strange to see him shaking hands and smiling, laughing even, at the kh.

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  Yes. My dad was a wonderful loving elder. He gave food to needy ones in the hall, we helped older ones with chores. We always pioneered in the summer and had bookstudy and FS meetings in our home. He was a likeable person and had friends everywhere. We traveled all over Ut, ID, and WY to give talks and do Hall builds. He did the sound for builds and conventions. We were perceived as the perfect family. I was on the convention programs 3 times being interviewed. But...

  At home he was abusive, beating us with belts, hangers, sticks whatever he could get. He beat my brother up regularly, throwing him into walls, punching him, etc. He was also an alcoholic. And from 1977 on, every 5 years or so, he would have close "friends" from work. Mom was no better. She waited for dad to come home to tell him all the things we had done. We would be scared to death at 5:00 everyday. And for some odd reason she can't remember hearing my brother begging dad to stop.

  I learned perfect is a fallacy. We aren't perfect parents now according to JW's, but my kids are happy when their dad comes home. And they don't flinch when I raise my hand to pet their heads.

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  homosexuals and JWs

  by solidergirl in

  1. jw
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  i have no problem being around gay people.

  but bring it up a car group and omg its like the number 1 sin in the world.

  it got to point where i wanted to stand up for them.

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  I am reminded of a brother in my old circuit in Utah. At the time I knew him he was in his 50's probably. He was a very feminine man, and it was common knowledge that he was gay. He was also married and had a son. The son had a heart defect and it caused his lips to be blue, due to poor circulation probably. Anyway, the son died in his early 20's. Now this brother and his wife are alone. I am only assuming, as he was gay, that he and his wife have a practical marriage. I feel bad that he did not have a chance to be true to himself and felt he needed to be married to hide it. I don't know where I am going with this. But we all know the attitudes towards gays in JWland. I guess I am saying this, I hope the tradeoff he decided on was worth it. There. Whew, that was hard. My brain isn't functioning well today, sorry!

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  What would you tell CHILDREN of Jehovah's Witnesses?

  by Magick in

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  a lot of us grew up as jehovah's witnesses.

  we had no choice.

  our parents made the choice for us.

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  This is a hard one.

  IF the kids came to me and asked, and they were old enough to do something about it, I would tell them to research the religion, pray and read the Bible without WT publications. I would also tell them the same things I told my neices and nephews, not JWs; sex at 13 is not worth the bother and risk, go to college, play the field, when you know what you're doing sexually use protection. Be honest and trustworthy, work hard and be a good friend. Be a grown up when you get married.

  Now for me, as painful as my childhood was I would not change it. The abuse made me a better parent, getting DFd at 16 gives me a story for when my daughters are in "love" and I don't understand. Being in an influential Witness family gave me knowledge of inner workings and secrets. Almost dying from not taking bood gives me first hand knowledge and an experience to share. I choose to make the pain something beneficial, because it did make me me.

  Instead of going back to childhood, I would go back around 2002 and tell myself to get the h*** out. Before my kids got this old.

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  shunned

  by lovelylissa in

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  i got disfelowshiped when i divorced my husband and altho we both went on to have relationships with other people he didn't get disfelowshiped as he wasn't going to meetings.

  we have since then got back together and i find it so frustrating that i still get treated like a leper being shunned by his family and all the other witnesses but he still gets invited to dinner and works with them.

  i don't want to be best buddys with any of them i just hate it when they cross the road to avoid me .

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  What if we all say GTFA?

  Shouldn't you be getting ready for or already be at meeting?

  This is a place for support and information. You provide neither, why are you here?

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  Questions From Readers: Hunting/Fishing

  by inkling in

  1. watchtower
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  i guess this means you can maim and kill animals all you want, just so long as you don't enjoy it too much.. sorta like being a isrealite warrior who makes a living killing people but yet is commanded to "hate violence".

  [inkling].

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  Skeeter,

  I was raised in SLC so I grew up with Mormons. They have classes for newlywed women teaching them household management, like use less soap in the laundry. Ever since they came to Utah everything they did was governed. What to plant, where to plant, where you live, you name it. But that helped them survive in the desert, so they figure it has to work now too. They used to be told not to have caffeine, but they bought into Coke or Pepsi and now they can have cold caffeine. O the stories! I've never heard about the meat in the summer one, I'm going to ask Grandpa next time I talk to him.

  When I was researching the Watchtower I actually began to get confused if it was them or Mormons I was reading about.
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  We Should Give Newbies the Benefit of the Doubt

  by flipper in

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  considering what has gone on at this board the last couple months, i thought this would be good to discuss !

  it's true that some here are somewhat jaded and untrusting of others because of the deception pulled by " trevor" and the whole " trevorgate " thing.

  that being said and acknowledged however , think about what makes us not trust others as ex-witnesses.

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  Well that helped alot, Outlaw. Showoff!!
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  Dating a Disfellowshipped Chick

  by SonoftheTrinity in

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  i'm this orthodox christian dating a disfellowshipped jw chick.

  my priest says there's hope because she's been disfellowshipped and to give it 6 months.

  one minute says she wants to become a citizen, the next minute i tell her that if she does that as an american i would expect her to salute the flag and especially vote if she naturalizes, and then she talks about going back to her own country!!.

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  Sounds like these are huge differences. Unless you can BOTH compromise I see no hope. Compromise is vital in marriage. If you do continue with her, I suggest you research the Jehovah's Witnesses.

  Just to let you know, I was raised a Witness and have been married for 15yrs.

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  We Should Give Newbies the Benefit of the Doubt

  by flipper in

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  2. friends

  considering what has gone on at this board the last couple months, i thought this would be good to discuss !

  it's true that some here are somewhat jaded and untrusting of others because of the deception pulled by " trevor" and the whole " trevorgate " thing.

  that being said and acknowledged however , think about what makes us not trust others as ex-witnesses.

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  Thank you Mr Flipper. I was welcomed as a newbie, but I also hid nothing. I have disclosed identifying things about my self. Some are too scared to and have come here looking for help. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If they come here with wrong motives that will show itself in time and then can be dealt with.

  I was truly saddened by why has happened on the "shunned" thread with lovelylissa. Suppose for just a minute that she really came here for support. I hope she didn't get scared away when I really believe there are people here who could help and support her.

  I understand having different points of view, and I love that here we can be honest. But there is a difference between honesty and rudeness and don't think some here know that.

  my 2 cents,

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  shunned

  by lovelylissa in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i got disfelowshiped when i divorced my husband and altho we both went on to have relationships with other people he didn't get disfelowshiped as he wasn't going to meetings.

  we have since then got back together and i find it so frustrating that i still get treated like a leper being shunned by his family and all the other witnesses but he still gets invited to dinner and works with them.

  i don't want to be best buddys with any of them i just hate it when they cross the road to avoid me .

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  Rosalee,

  Please go to meeting tonite and forget this thread ever existed. Do your empty worship and imagine that you are a better person than you really are.

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  I turn 44 today...my JW roommate did wish me a happy birthday

  by oppgirl63 in

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  when i got up this morning...she had it written in big letters on the bathroom mirror with her red lipstick.

  made me smile.

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