How does "a back-bone growing" throw you off?
ChelseaScott
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are we inactive or what?
by inactive? ini would like someone to discuss some issues i have.
i understand all are welcome here, so i am sure some elders or former elders could help me.
i was a pioneer for 7 years, before that i was a regular auxiliarry pioneer for 3 years, i have been a witness for 17 years.
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are we inactive or what?
by inactive? ini would like someone to discuss some issues i have.
i understand all are welcome here, so i am sure some elders or former elders could help me.
i was a pioneer for 7 years, before that i was a regular auxiliarry pioneer for 3 years, i have been a witness for 17 years.
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ChelseaScott
Inactive,
What you have written here makes me very sad, angry and so very thankful I am no-longer associated with that religion. You and your husband have done nothing wrong. You sound like great, caring people. What baffles me is how they have treated you, shunned you and basically called you guys theives and you still believe in the religion. To me these people don't sound like faithful servents of any sort. If these are the types of people representing this religion, it makes me question how they can say they are the truth. They teach so much about being kind and forgiving and yet they have kicked you folks to the dirt and discarded you, when you have no reason to be ashamed, and have done nothing wrong. Your daughter has no reason to be ashamed, for she has done nothing wrong. She has chosen to live her life the way she wants, as we all do.
My adivce to you is to get out. If I were you, I would be questioning what sort of orgainzation I was in. You can lead a happy, faithful life without the religion (that goes for all religions) and certainly without being shunned and critizied! Whatever you do, don't stop talking to your daughter. I think that is probably the biggest mistake anyone can do. My dad has done that with my brother and myself and I know he will regret it one day. We have done nothing wrong, nor has your daughter.
So keep the faith, keep being a good person, I am sure whatever higher power is up there, they won't be upset with you.
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poll for the ladies....
by sweetstuff ini noticed alot of polls of what the guys prefer..how about the ladies?
do you prefer blonde, redhead or dark?
how about height?
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ChelseaScott
I have always made my own money and have lived pretty well. I think my pride would be hurt if I let a man be my sugar daddy. I can support myself and have been doing so.
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poll for the ladies....
by sweetstuff ini noticed alot of polls of what the guys prefer..how about the ladies?
do you prefer blonde, redhead or dark?
how about height?
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ChelseaScott
As long as they are taller then, I am happy. I like dark hair, not to picky about eyes. Not super hairy, built but not to much... you know, I like when guys can put their arms by their sides and not walk like apes. And if they can make me laugh, all the better.
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How did you measure how close the end was ?
by JH ini recall buying a new car and thinking, "this car will still be around when the end comes" .
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then i recall when they were building the molson center in montreal where the montreal canadiens hockey team would be playing, and i was thinking to myself, "they will never play there.....cause the end will come first".. .
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ChelseaScott
As a kid I just prayed I would be dead before Armagedon and just wake up in the new world. I was so scared of armagedon.
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fader's wife expresses 1st doubts....
by sweet pea intalking to a friend (ex-elder) today whose wife was (is) a close friend of mine .
she's still a jdub but won't talk to me now i'm df'd (apparently it hit her very hard when we left) and so she busied herself with ministry and meetings in search of comfort and affirmation of her faith.
this didn't work for her and she came out with an unexpected question... .
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ChelseaScott
The unknown scares people. Someone once said to me "God is an imaginary friend for grown-ups". Although I do believe there is a higher power out there, I do believe that statement as well. People need to believe in something... it doesn't seem like they would get by without beliefe in something.
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JW I believe is an accult
by shrlblnch inthey teach you eve spoke to a snake.. i failed to find that in my bible.!!!.
i believe it was sex..a 3 somesome what ya think?
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ChelseaScott
I would say all religions are a form of cults. That is just my opinion from being a JW and am now an ex-JW... and I am thankful I am an ex-JW.
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How Many Are...Or Have Been Going To Therapy?
by new boy ini only went twice right before i left in 2001.. my then jw wife.... thought in would be a good idea.
she thought all "my angry issuses" were against my dead nazis jw mother.....they were really about me living a lie for over 10 years... so anyway...i went to this dr. and in just 2 visits, told him my whole life story,begining to end.
he did't really say very much.. at the end of the whole thing i said "well doc...you can see that i'm pretty much screwed no matter what i do...if i stay in the cult i'm screwed...and if i leave i'm screwed!.
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ChelseaScott
One of the main things I learned through therapy and well just living it is, family isn't always who you are related to. Family are the people, blood related or not, who care about you and who are there for you. Honestly the only blood relatives I have that haven't basically disowned me are my mom and brother. Everyone else I consider family, are great friends and people I have met since leaving the religion. I would love to still be incontact with my blood relatives, however they obviously don't feel the same and are to brainwashed and blind to see what really matters. Just because I am not in some silly religion where I go to meetings 2 times a week, book studys and door to door, doesn't make me a bad person. I still have beliefs and my own idea of faith, they are just different. I don't need some organization to tell me how to be a good person and live my life.
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How Many Are...Or Have Been Going To Therapy?
by new boy ini only went twice right before i left in 2001.. my then jw wife.... thought in would be a good idea.
she thought all "my angry issuses" were against my dead nazis jw mother.....they were really about me living a lie for over 10 years... so anyway...i went to this dr. and in just 2 visits, told him my whole life story,begining to end.
he did't really say very much.. at the end of the whole thing i said "well doc...you can see that i'm pretty much screwed no matter what i do...if i stay in the cult i'm screwed...and if i leave i'm screwed!.
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ChelseaScott
I remember when my mom, brother and myself were all on the way out (just before we actually did leave), my mom thought it was a good idea for us all to go to therapy. However the "elders" though it was a horrible idea! They thought it was brain washing (how very hypocritical). They basically said they rather see all of us on some sort of medication instead.
In the end when we did leave, all three of us went to councelling / therapy. I feel it certainly helped. I remember feeling oh so guilty, that Jehovah was going to strike me down where I stood. It felt fantastic to get rid of that guilt. I can say, since leaving I have never been happier. I have great friends, a great family (minus my dad and his side of the family who have disowned me) and well, just a great life. Lovin' every minute of it!
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ChelseaScott
I feel I should applaud you on being an ex-JW. So happy ex- JW! May your life be full and successful without the lies of the WT religion.
And ofcourse... Happy 1 year here!