Thanks everyone... your consideration is MUCH appreciated. I'm going to take a few days and get my thoughts together. My head is all 'whirly' right now. I just need to come to the realization that my mom has never been a real 'mom' and never will be. Once I come to terms with that, I'll make an attempt to get everything out in the open so we can move on. I just can't help but wishing she'd be there too. But I can't change her. And she'll never change.
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SIGH... Mother troubles again...
by Elyse867 inso i opened up my laptop last night, to check my email and such, and my mom had obviously just checked hers... she was still logged on, which has never happened before.
i felt like i needed to look in her emails, which is not something i would normally do, as i hold privacy as something sacred.
as some of you know, my mom lives with my hubby, me, and my kids.
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SIGH... Mother troubles again...
by Elyse867 inso i opened up my laptop last night, to check my email and such, and my mom had obviously just checked hers... she was still logged on, which has never happened before.
i felt like i needed to look in her emails, which is not something i would normally do, as i hold privacy as something sacred.
as some of you know, my mom lives with my hubby, me, and my kids.
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"When I said stay far away, I was referring to uncomfortable situations, of course, not you or your hubby."
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To those with 'other' bibles... help me out!
by Elyse867 inif you have a bible other than nwt, could you please post what yours says at job 1:4,5 and then job 3:1-3?
just looking for different translations... thanks!
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Thanks everyone! The help is MUCH appreciated. I've been using these scriptures to prove that birthday celebrations are okay. :)
The New Living Translation translates this way:
Job 1:4 Every year when Job's sons had birthdays, they invited their brothers and sisters to join them for a celebration. On these occasions they would get together to eat and drink.
Job 1:5 When these celebrations ended-and sometimes they lasted several days-Job would purify his children. He would get up early in the morning and offer a burnt offering for each of them. For Job said to himself, "Perhaps my children have sinned and have cursed God in their hearts." This was Job's regular practice.
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SIGH... Mother troubles again...
by Elyse867 inso i opened up my laptop last night, to check my email and such, and my mom had obviously just checked hers... she was still logged on, which has never happened before.
i felt like i needed to look in her emails, which is not something i would normally do, as i hold privacy as something sacred.
as some of you know, my mom lives with my hubby, me, and my kids.
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So I opened up my laptop last night, to check my email and such, and my mom had obviously just checked hers... she was still logged on, which has never happened before. I felt like I NEEDED to look in her emails, which is not something I would normally do, as I hold privacy as something sacred. As some of you know, my mom lives with my hubby, me, and my kids. What I found made me so angry and hurt... it makes it hard to look at her now. She's written a bunch of emails to her 'boyfriend' (who happens to be an Elder) about being "forced" to take care of my kids... WTF? I've asked for her help a handful of times, when I really needed it, and she wasn't doing anything else. She said she's a mother all over again, "raising another litter."
What made me MORE angry, though, is that she wrote countless times, "this isn't where I'd choose to be." She doesn't want to "be with unbelievers." We opened up our house to her RENT FREE, in our three bedroom house, so that two of our children sleep in my and my hubby's bedroom, so she could have her own room... We've helped her with money when she needed to fix her car, also taking it to the shop while she's in service with OUR car or whatever... We've taken her on our vacations, out to dinner, (she won't go with us anymore, and now I know why) I've overlooked the horrible mother she was to me growing up...
What made me laugh a little is that she wrote, "What if I'm still here when the end comes?" As if Jehovah, their 'loving' God is hurling fireballs at all the non-Witnesses, and aims for me and my hubby and kids, and misses and hits her... They say, put your trust in Jehovah, bla bla bla, but they don't think Jehovah will spare them if they happen to be in the vicinity of an 'unbeliever?' <huge sigh="sigh">
So now, part of me wants to tell her to get her crap and get the 'f' out of my house, and part of me is still attached and desperately wants to NOT hurt her feelings... so what do I do now?? I'm thinking of writing my DA letter, and one to my family, staring from the very beginning, telling them all the reasons I don't believe in the 'truth' anymore. Maybe it will 'force' my mom out of the house and we can start living our own lives. I just wish I didn't love her so much. It's obvious I love her more than she loves me.</huge> -
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To those with 'other' bibles... help me out!
by Elyse867 inif you have a bible other than nwt, could you please post what yours says at job 1:4,5 and then job 3:1-3?
just looking for different translations... thanks!
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If you have a bible other than NWT, could you please post what yours says at Job 1:4,5 and then Job 3:1-3? Just looking for different translations... Thanks!
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+++ VIGIL - TUESDAY 27TH NOVEMBER +++
by Sad emo inplease join in sending your prayers, good thoughts, reiki, healing vibes, lighting a candle or just taking a moment to think of all those named and unnamed who are fighting cancer or in any other need.
also their loved ones and caregivers.. - has been fighting mantle cell lymphoma for three years.
he received an allogeneic cell transplant and his latest blood and bone marrow results have shown no trace of cancer!!
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Will be lighting a candle for you all....
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So, who has a MySpace??
by Elyse867 ini have one, and was wondering who else does... if you want my url, pm me.
(can't let the lurking elders find out who i am... until i da myself... muhhahaha)
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Mmmkay, I sent everyone requests, or messages. My name on myspace starts with a J, just to let you know. :) Thanks!
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So, who has a MySpace??
by Elyse867 ini have one, and was wondering who else does... if you want my url, pm me.
(can't let the lurking elders find out who i am... until i da myself... muhhahaha)
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I have one, and was wondering who else does... If you want my URL, PM me. (Can't let the lurking Elders find out who I am... until I DA myself... MUHHAHAHA)
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Thanks to PEC and Barbie Doll!!
by Dagney infor arranging the thanksgiving day meetup in carlsbad.
we had a great time meeting up with elyse and her family and look forward to more good times together!.
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It was very nice meeting you guys. :) I like surrounding myself with sincere people. :) (((PEC, BarbieDoll, Dagney)))
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Tried to get my mom to watch the NBC segment last night...
by Elyse867 inshe wouldn't watch it... i told her all about it, and she of course started defending it before i was even finished.
then we got into a long discussion, which was pretty one-sided, her telling me why the wts has the 'truth'.
i told her all my concerns, and tried asking the 'if the wts is god's one and only 'channel' to earth, why all the changes in doctrine' question, and she of course gave me the 'light gets brighter' bs answer.
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Thanks everyone for the support. It's so great to know I can come here and know I'll be understood. I feel 10 times more love here than I ever felt as a JW. :) :)