hi there julia ! hope you well , iwas only 14 when i was first pressured into sex by my abusive 17 year old boyfriend , i hated it and didnt bother again till i was 17 with a loving nice boyfriend ( it was much better with him ) your problem of course is that if your son is only 14 , just how young is his girlfriend ? maybe you should have a chat with her and make sure she is capable of understanding what she is doing (i wasnt at that age , i remember saying to my boyfriend "if you had just stayed still instead of moving up and down all the time it wouldnt have hurt me so much !!!!) you could encourage her to talk to her mum about being safe ! my 19 year old son is a med studant and goes round schools teaching kids about contraception and stds etc , i think he only recently lost his virginity but my 23 year old daughter was actually pregnant at 13 by her 43 year old abuser (she lost the baby ) and i never found out till she was 20 ! she would never have dreamed of talking to me about sex at 13 and just hoped she would not get" caught out " think yourself lucky he was able to confide in you , he must love you very much , hope it turns out ok and you can talk him into waiting till its legal xx
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by headisspinning inhello all.... some of you have been following our story from the beginning - and even those of you who haven't should be able to relate to my quandary.... last week my 14 year old son told me he no longer wants to be a jw.
we laboured over telling his jw dad all week.
well, on friday night he finally came clean.. but in a bizarre and unexpected twist, after having sex with his girlfriend for the very first time - in his father's home that very afternoon.
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grim up north ! (north yorkshire )
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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tha,kyou hopscotch , what a great way of looking at aspergers x that might help my mum x
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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hi jamie , he is not on disability or have a social worker or psychiatrist , but he is fond of my daughter who is going to put a book through his door tomorrow as im not close to him unfortunatly , he is only close to my mum . thanks all of you real good advice as usual x
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by pearlm ini am new to the site and wanting some encouraging friends.
i am a baptised mother of 3 boys, one 22, one 14 and one 16 months old.
yep, i know well spaced out!
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welcome x
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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lol, terry , my brother is known as a"a bit of a character " and always been known as a "deep thinker" also glad you and your son are ok now , i will keep in touch with you about this if thats ok , in case i need some advice x
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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oh dear terry sorry to hear son had a breakdown at just 14 , how is he now and does he still suffer depression ? my brother had a breakdown at 17 and he went away for a while and had tests done but aspergers wasnt known about in the early 80s so nothing came of it , he had another breakdown 2 years ago .
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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kimbo , yes thats the book ive decided on , there are quite a lot on the subject but i thought that was what would be suitable for him !
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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thanks for your advice so far people , morbid you hit the nail right on the head with your description of aspergers , and that is my brother all over ! hates change to his routines , either dosnt talk to some in the family at all (thats me !) or phones my mum every day going over and over the same subject (at the moment that is an issue with the police , after he was arrested after someone accused him of stalking her ! it was all sorted out but it has been reported about his "odd" behavior before , as he tends to stare at people without realising or not look them in the eye at all ) he has talked of suicide before as he feels so different and asks my mum why people think hes odd but she wont tell him as she thinks he will be "tipped over the edge " ive done so much research and also i work with people with autism so i know what he has and have thought of lending him a book by a guy with aspergers in the hope he will self diagnose .
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does anyone have a relative or know someone with autism/aspergers syndrome ?
by looloo ini know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?
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i know this subject is not jw related but , i believe my older brother in his 40s has aspergers but my mum wont except it and says its depression , i want to help him but how can i without my mums support in getting him diagnosed ?