Ahhh...LifesNotOver...the fact that you are afraid of your husband's anger explains so much. As hard as it may be to accept, the fact is that you are being abused by your husband. There are 5 basic ways to be abused---physical, verbal, emotional, financial and sexual. At minimum, he is verbally and emotionally abusing you. (name-calling..."Apostate Witch" sent chills down my spine) And the dramatic, out-of-control threats to commit suicide are a troubling, manipulative behavior, used to keep you in your place. Just because he has never hurt you physically does not mean that it will not eventually escalate to that point. I know...I was married to an abusive elder and am a survivor of domestic violence. And know that the elders and the organization will give you ABSOLUTELY no help in that situation. In making a decision to go forward with your plans, please keep this in mind because leaving (or in your case, "divorcing" the organization) is often seen as abandonment---especially since you describe him as "needy." Please line up resources to assure your safety if it becomes necessary to have support when you make a decision on your plan of action. (((hugs)))
Cangie
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LifesNotOver - Part Four
by LifesNotOver inso ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.
anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.
not a good jw mind you.
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A QUICK STORY for you
by TerryWalstrom ingallery memoriesit was 1982.. california summer.. the entrance of creative galleries.. the limousine arrived and she emerged.. there is a word i’ve been saving for the sort of story i’m about to tell you.
she debouched from the limo.
(she deserves a special word.).
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Cangie
Thanks for sharing your visit with this talented lady with us, Terry. I was a young girl when Peggy was in her prime, and I remember this song. As a child growing up as a JW, I had no dreams, goals, expectation of surprises and a golden life. So I had already reached, at that young age, the realization that this was going to be "all there is." And that was not, even then, enough for me. This song is even sadder for me now, because I am probably more than 2/3rds of the way through my life, and I am very aware that on my deathbed I don't want to have the regrets that cause me to ask if this is all there is to life. *sigh*
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To UK members that go to meetings - did Brexit cause a spike in meeting attendance last weekend?
by freddo ini went to the mid week meeting and looked at the attendance figures on the noticeboard for the three congregations that share the local kingdom hall.
i wrote down the three previous sundays attendances and this sunday (after the referendum) too.
cong c. (95 pubs) 74/82/73/90.
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I Didn't Belong
by Nihilistic Journey ini remember an art project when i was six years old.
the teacher handed out felt pine trees that we glued to burlap sheets.
everyone then attached little pieces of colorful material to the felt trees.
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I'm so sorry NJ, for the times in your life that have been so rough. You are not alone anymore, and now you DO BELONG---to us! (If it's any consolation, so many of us have been through the same things, and other stuff as well, so we truly do get it.) -
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EdenOne, Mrs. Eden & Son: DISASSOCIATED!
by EdenOne ingreat news!.
we are free!.
as of the 9th of june, me and my dear wife mrs. eden handed over our letters of disassociation at bethel in portugal, thus making official our departure from the jehovah's witnesses.
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Cangie
This is genuine "good news." Thanks for sharing it with us...we are happy for you and your family.
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For Dog Lovers-- Meet Stanley!
by Sail Away inhave you ever had a dog that was dumber than a box of rocks?
i have; his name was dave matthews.
we loved him anyway.
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Cangie
Oh Sail Away...thanks for sharing your adorable Stanley with us. But, I don't see what the problem is...I'm 65, have OCD, forget OTHER people's names at times, and don't answer when I don't want to be bothered either. Stanley and I have just learned to "tune out the noise." lol
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What were you never going to do in "This system" But did it?
by karter infinish school.. finish my apprenticeship (why are you doing that brother karter you will never finish it in this system).. buy a house.. pay the house off.. karter..
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Retire. According to the May 1969 Awake, I wasn't supposed to graduate in "this system." But I did---one month later. I also got married, had 2 children, owned 2 houses and 2 co-op apartments, divorced, survived through tough times, became a grandma twice,, learned TTATT and got out! -
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Courtesy Towards Senior Bicyclists, or First Time Riding in 45 Years!
by compound complex ingreetings, fellow posters:.
i bought a nearly new 7-speed bicycle at a yard sale for $30 last weekend and took it out this morning on our paved local bicycle/walking trail.
the last time i rode was in my early- to mid- twenties when i used a bicycle to get to and from the kh for my pioneer service.
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Cangie
The idea of so many "mature" posters bike-riding makes me happy that I am not alone. Since I don't like standard exercise but I loved bike-riding as a kid, I thought I would get a bike when I move to another state soon. I have been influenced by my son and DIL, who are semi-pros (participate in races, have a "team", build their own bikes, etc.), but I will only be able to tool around town for fun. It is encouraging that you don't forget how to do it even if, like me, you haven't done it in about 40 years. (Wish me luck as I start slowly...) -
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Quotes JWs Don't Like...
by JW_Rogue in"you miss 100% of the shots you don't take".
"you always regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did".
"think for yourself, question authority".
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"A man is accepted into a church for what he believes and he is turned out for what he knows."
Samuel Clemens