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  i'm leaving this site forever

  by stan livedeath in

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  as the title says--i'm out of here for good.. the site is full of atheists, communists, 7th day adventists, creationists, believers, deceivers, receivers, football supporters,.

  dodgy types, cantleave---and assorted wankers.. so no place for me--because i'm none of the above so dont fit in.

  so--this is goodbye forever my friends--its been almost average knowing you.

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  Cangie

  Buh-'bye...
  
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  LifesNotOver - Part Four

  by LifesNotOver in

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  so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

  anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

  not a good jw mind you.

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  LifesNotOver...You are not in denial, in fact you are getting a reality check. You realized the truth about your relationship 12 years ago, when you ran away. Although desperate, it was a brave action to take, but you found the strength to do what you had to do at that time, and you will again if you have to.

  As far as counseling, please google the number and address of your nearest Crime Victims Council, or Victims Services Organization, and ask if they have therapy sessions available for you. I receive counseling with the Crime Victims Council, and it is free. They also provide advocacy and support for people who have to go to court, and they might be able to connect you with other support groups or even temporary housing if you choose to leave. At any rate, get help from professionals who will help you create an "escape plan" in case it becomes necessary. If more immediate action is required, go to your nearest emergency room at the local hospital, and tell them that you are being abused. It is now required that hospitals and many doctors offices screen patients for abuse/domestic violence, and they will have you speak to a Social Worker or DV counselor to access services. There is so much out there to offer you help. You never have to live a miserable life with an abuser, just waiting for him to die. Whatever you do, DO NOT tell the JW's what you are planning to do, and NEVER trust elders or anyone else at the KH to help you with your problems. Move quietly and swiftly and use the services of people who can actually help you.
  
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  LifesNotOver - Part Four

  by LifesNotOver in

  1. jw
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  so ... i don't know if any of this is even of interest any more, i know i'm getting kinda bored with it :) so many other more interesting stories out there.

  anyway, limped my way through 17 years being a jw until now.

  not a good jw mind you.

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  Cangie

  Ahhh...LifesNotOver...the fact that you are afraid of your husband's anger explains so much. As hard as it may be to accept, the fact is that you are being abused by your husband. There are 5 basic ways to be abused---physical, verbal, emotional, financial and sexual. At minimum, he is verbally and emotionally abusing you. (name-calling..."Apostate Witch" sent chills down my spine) And the dramatic, out-of-control threats to commit suicide are a troubling, manipulative behavior, used to keep you in your place. Just because he has never hurt you physically does not mean that it will not eventually escalate to that point. I know...I was married to an abusive elder and am a survivor of domestic violence. And know that the elders and the organization will give you ABSOLUTELY no help in that situation. In making a decision to go forward with your plans, please keep this in mind because leaving (or in your case, "divorcing" the organization) is often seen as abandonment---especially since you describe him as "needy." Please line up resources to assure your safety if it becomes necessary to have support when you make a decision on your plan of action. (((hugs)))
  
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  A QUICK STORY for you

  by TerryWalstrom in

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  gallery memoriesit was 1982.. california summer.. the entrance of creative galleries.. the limousine arrived and she emerged.. there is a word i’ve been saving for the sort of story i’m about to tell you.

  she debouched from the limo.

  (she deserves a special word.).

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  Cangie

  Thanks for sharing your visit with this talented lady with us, Terry. I was a young girl when Peggy was in her prime, and I remember this song. As a child growing up as a JW, I had no dreams, goals, expectation of surprises and a golden life. So I had already reached, at that young age, the realization that this was going to be "all there is." And that was not, even then, enough for me. This song is even sadder for me now, because I am probably more than 2/3rds of the way through my life, and I am very aware that on my deathbed I don't want to have the regrets that cause me to ask if this is all there is to life. *sigh*
  
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  To UK members that go to meetings - did Brexit cause a spike in meeting attendance last weekend?

  by freddo in

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  i went to the mid week meeting and looked at the attendance figures on the noticeboard for the three congregations that share the local kingdom hall.

  i wrote down the three previous sundays attendances and this sunday (after the referendum) too.

  cong c. (95 pubs) 74/82/73/90.

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  Chicken Little: "...a-a-and it was shaped like this...and it was BLUE!

  Maybe he was hit by a "JW.org sign that blew off the nearest KH?
  
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  I Didn't Belong

  by Nihilistic Journey in

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  i remember an art project when i was six years old.

  the teacher handed out felt pine trees that we glued to burlap sheets.

  everyone then attached little pieces of colorful material to the felt trees.

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  Cangie

  I'm so sorry NJ, for the times in your life that have been so rough. You are not alone anymore, and now you DO BELONG---to us! (If it's any consolation, so many of us have been through the same things, and other stuff as well, so we truly do get it.)
  
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  EdenOne, Mrs. Eden & Son: DISASSOCIATED!

  by EdenOne in

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  great news!.

  we are free!.

  as of the 9th of june, me and my dear wife mrs. eden handed over our letters of disassociation at bethel in portugal, thus making official our departure from the jehovah's witnesses.

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  Cangie

  This is genuine "good news." Thanks for sharing it with us...we are happy for you and your family.
  
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  For Dog Lovers-- Meet Stanley!

  by Sail Away in

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  have you ever had a dog that was dumber than a box of rocks?

  i have; his name was dave matthews.

  we loved him anyway.

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  Cangie

  Oh Sail Away...thanks for sharing your adorable Stanley with us. But, I don't see what the problem is...I'm 65, have OCD, forget OTHER people's names at times, and don't answer when I don't want to be bothered either. Stanley and I have just learned to "tune out the noise." lol
  
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  Meet Joy Grant - Struggles of Jehovah's Witness Women

  by JT-LadyC in

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  Cangie

  I listened and was glad I did...it was like visiting with 2 new friends. Thank you both for giving us your time and for sharing your memories with us.
  
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  What were you never going to do in "This system" But did it?

  by karter in

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  finish school.. finish my apprenticeship (why are you doing that brother karter you will never finish it in this system).. buy a house.. pay the house off.. karter..

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  Cangie

  Retire. According to the May 1969 Awake, I wasn't supposed to graduate in "this system." But I did---one month later. I also got married, had 2 children, owned 2 houses and 2 co-op apartments, divorced, survived through tough times, became a grandma twice,, learned TTATT and got out!