I had a lot of various dissonances and conflicts building up over the years. The major one was Governing Body worship. They would say in meetings how giving excessive attention to something, like sports, is idolatry. Then I see how virtually every WT, study, and prayer included mention of the GB. Isn't giving excessive attention to the "discreet" GB a form of idolatry? This really bothered me.
The other thing that really bothered me was all the talk with Consentration camps in WWII. JWs are so proud with the JW stance and how thousands died. I remember articles discussing this, even parts in assemblies smugly bragging about it. Well, yes thousands or JWs died, but MILLIONS of Jews died! What disrespect to brag about the thousands but ignore the millions who had died!
So one service meeting night in December 2007 one brother commented about the brothers in WWII, yet again, and literally that moment switch was flipped, and I had that "a ha" moment. It was then I realized I was no longer a JW. I signed up for JWD that night and told my wife a few days later. I've been only to a few meetings since, but have otherwise been out ever since.