I've posted many times on the "help" I got from Elders.
Having been a JW for 25 years, in 1996 I had a breakdown, attempted suicide, later diagnosed as "acute clinical depression".
I spent six weks in a psychiatric hospital.
Two weeks after coming out of hospital, I appeared before a Judicial Committee and was "privately reproved" and removed as a Min Servant.
This I learnt only a couple of years ago was against their own Elders manual, that states that those JWs who are depressive and/or suicidal, should not appear before a JC.
Their "help" as usual consisted of "attend the meetings and go on field service" , not one Elder or any JW offered any contructive help or support to me of my family.
Six months on, they decided I was not making progress and got my wife to get me to leave the family home. Later learnt this was they considered me a "spiritual danger" to the family. Had to move to next town and different congregation, even found be a flat to live in.
Even in this new congregation, the Elders were even less helpful, the only "shepherding visit" I got was to "encourage" me to "do more".
It was this totally lack of help and support that hit me, causing me to question what happened to "Jehovahs loving organisation".
It set me on a path of research into the Watchtower, discovering things which by 1999 had me no longer believingwhat they taught, so I stopped attending meetings in August.
I did not receive one visit, phone call, or even invite to Memorial from that moment until September 2001. Two Elders called, I was out but they spoke to my son, who was now living with me. Turned out they were on a campaign to get "inactive ones" back , as their numbers had dropped.
This angered me by the fact that it showed that all I was, was a number, no interest in my welfare.
So that decided me to disassociate, that caused my JW wife , who I was separated from at the time, and two JW daughters to stop having any contact with me. Which it has been for the last 8 years. Not even being invited to one of those daughters wedding.
Because of this two of my children who were JWs also disassociated, their mother and sisters don't speak to them either, another three never became JWs at all.
So in their way of thinking and method, it backfired on them, eventually causing them to lose six members.
That is a summary of what "help" from the Elders can do.