Just wondering if you can be in a JC for being on apostate sites. I'm not talking about if you clicked on something by mistake. Anybody know? Does it say it in the elders book?
Posts by cognac
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43Baptised and on this or other apostate sites - DF'ing Offense???
by cognac injust wondering if you can be in a jc for being on apostate sites.
i'm not talking about if you clicked on something by mistake.
does it say it in the elders book?.
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Its not the people on here or wherever
by angel eyes ini was talking to a baptised friend, and they dont like the idea of me being on here..i told them that ive mentioned it to an elder and that a few know im here,afterall im heeding the warning .
anyway, i explained to them that we are drawn out by our own desire,its whatever is in our heart....... hmmm did that come across ok???
so what im saying is yes negative thoughts or comments whatever we are warned against can harm us but its up to us what we listen to and if our heart is right we shall remain in gods love.
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AE - Your baptised and on this site??? Yeah, I'm with Mouthy on that... I'm pretty sure you should be facing a JC... I'm gonna post a new topic on this cause I'd like to know...
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Need help on how to deal with BIL...
by cognac inhe's a complete a$$ to my sister.
it's sometimes very shocking how much of a jerk he is.
when i say something, i get, "be careful cognac" and he's told me before that there marriage is none of my business.
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Between the two of you, the only one who can do anything about him is your sister. If you confont him, he'll bully your sister into avoiding you. You can build your sister up and encourage her to stand up to him. If he's hitting her, you should call the police.
She never sticks up for herself. And he's an a$$ right in front of me. What am I supposed to say, nothing??? I try to be as nice as possible when I do say something... I don't think he's hitting her because there has never been any signs of physical abuse... The PITA thing about it, is that she ALWAYS wants me to go to her house. She's a homebody and is constantly cleaning or cooking or something. So, it's hard to avoid him...
Is your sister asking for help?
research abuse on the internet, print out the signs of abuse and drop them in front of her. Let her do the rest.
She hasn't asked for help. However, she has just started talking about it though. Yesturday, I was actually afraid of him. So, that could be because it's gotten worse???
What a hard situation. You love your sister so much, but feel helpless to assist her. How strong is she, as in, if he tells her NOT to see you anymore, would she listen to him or stand up to him? You might want to just 'be there for her'. She probably senses the tension between you and him, so it may make it harder on her if you say or do anything.
I've stood up to him before and he's never been able to separate us. I know she senses the tension between me and her husband. I think she could sense that I was getting REALLY pissed yesturday. She even offered me a beer, she usually doesn't do that...
Blacksheep - Thanks for the advice. I will go look for that book tomorrow.
In my experience with women who choose to stay with abusive men and you try to help, YOU will be end up being the bad guy eventually. Offer her help as already suggested and leave it to her. Let her know you are there for her at anytime and could even take her in if she ever needs it.
As for him, you could try to semi joke about his abusive comments telling him how you would never put up with such a thing but that can backfire as well and he could attempt to limit your time with your sister. He in all likelyhood will not change but she can change how she reacts or if she even stays. If he is being a jerk in your home you certainly have the right to say such behavior is not allowed in your home. But then he may leave and take her with. What does your husband say about this? Maybe he needs to show the bil what a loving husband is by his actions/words with you in front of the two of them.
I've offered my home to her before. I've done the semi joke thing. My husband can't stand him is has tried to show him what a real husband should be. My husband has even said something to him. Now, my husband hates going over there because he can't stand how he treats her and get's frustrated that she just puts up with it.
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Need help on how to deal with BIL...
by cognac inhe's a complete a$$ to my sister.
it's sometimes very shocking how much of a jerk he is.
when i say something, i get, "be careful cognac" and he's told me before that there marriage is none of my business.
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He's a complete a$$ to my sister. It's sometimes very shocking how much of a jerk he is. When I say something, I get, "Be careful Cognac" and he's told me before that there marriage is none of my business. The thing is, is he's a jerk to her right in front of me. I can't just let him talk to her like that...
In general, he treats women like they are inferior to him.
The thing is, is that my sister and I are really close. I have this habit of keeping my distance from him when he's been a jerk, but then as time goes on I warm up to him again. Then, he does it all over again.
I mean, the way he can acts can be really vicious and degrading to her. It's really upsetting. Has anybody else dealt with this situation? How did you handle it? Should I completely cut contact off with him and only be around her? I feel that would hurt my relationship with her and then she wouldn't have anybody to go to about it....
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Christians vs. Atheists...
by cognac init's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!.
just thinking about how jws can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... jws can be annoying!.
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A seal popped its head up and looked at us with those big eyes. She whispered to me its grandma, everything is okay.
awwww
Well said Flipper and AllTimeJeff.
I agree...
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what do you think would annoy me?
by John Doe inwhat would you say if you wanted to piss me off?
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cognac
Your threads suck. lol
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Christians vs. Atheists...
by cognac init's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!.
just thinking about how jws can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... jws can be annoying!.
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cognac
She pointed to two examples that I couldn't deny.
What were the examples?
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Christians vs. Atheists...
by cognac init's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!.
just thinking about how jws can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... jws can be annoying!.
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Christians who insist
I wish some atheists could understand
Yup, it's not just JWs...
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Christians vs. Atheists...
by cognac init's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!.
just thinking about how jws can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... jws can be annoying!.
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cognac
It's nice that you can respect both viewpoints and not think you are better then the other one, huh!
Just thinking about how JWs can spew crap and the second you view things differently your screwed... JWs can be annoying!
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That pic is so gross. Yeah, I'm waiting for the end of the BORG already...