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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Hi Pete, to answer your questions:

Pete Zahut5 minutes ago

Is she really behind or are you afraid that she's behind?

Yes, she got a 20 on her spelling test and a 44 on her math test last week.

Was she concerned or did she ask for help?

The teacher had me sign her tests. I take that as the teacher was concerned, and rightfully so.

Could you be overdoing it because of your JW experience with education?

Yes

Are her accomplishments directly tied to your feelings of worth as a parent?

If she doesn't do well in school, I take it very hard, even personally. So, in this particular situation, yes. I say that because when she doesn't do well I feel like I've failed her as a mom.

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Thank you Dune. She's good with sounds (except for th, wh, etc, alphabet and numbers.)

Last week I thought she was doing great in addition, until she got questions like, "5+_=10".

Learning lesson for me in how to deal with her homework better...

Her spelling test had, "what, with, you, your, then" things that you couldn't just sound out...

I really should have worked harder with her over the summer... Ugh...

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Hi Sabin - This is something I've been aware of for years now. I've tried the best I could to get her ahead of the game; however, that pretty much worked for kindergarten...

She has issues paying attention. Although, she is very well behaved.

Mostly her issues are with spelling/reading. Math is a secondary issue.

I've learned the way I work with her is not the best way. I try to do everything at once instead of a little at a time - just more redundant. I've just implemented changing that and hope it helps.

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Thank you Afrikan. Sometimes it's hard to figure out balance when you've grown up in a cult. You wind up second guessing things...

Glad I have this forum for feedback... :)

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Thanks Pete. I go as long as I can until she complains, then I give her a break everyday except Friday mornings - because it's the day of the test.

Ava is 6 years old.

I usually wake her up at 5:45am because she needs breaks during homework; however, once she has a tutor I will let her sleep until 6:15-6:30, so I can ease up in the mornings a bit.

I had to get her to bed early, to wake up early because my 3 year old wouldn't interrupt us as much in the mornings.

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Warwick news

by Rattigan350 in

http://www.warwickadvertiser.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?aid=/20151001/news01/151009998/warwick-seeks-amendment-to-town-code.

supervisor michael sweeton also sought a resolution to reduce the performance bond from pledged collateral account control agreement with the watchtower bible and tract society of new york, inc. from $22.6 million to $7.3 million and to authorize the release the difference to the organization.the watchtower bible and tract society jehovahs witnesses world headquarters is advancing in its new construction.

the 45-acre development site on the tuxedo-warwick border, in sterling forest, is set to be completed by the end of 2016.the motion passed..

cognac

"reduce the Performance Bond from Pledged Collateral Account Control Agreement"

What does this mean?

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

Thank you Dissonant. The school didn't recommend the tutor, but, that's what I'd be doing if I didn't have another kid trying to climb over my head at night.

It equals out to about 2 hours of studying a day, for a 1st grader.

Ugh, if I get the feeling she's not happy, I'll have to figure something out. But, she enjoys learning as long as she gets breaks and playtime. She's actually excited when she does well and is proud of herself.

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JWs and Education

by cognac in

jw
friends

my parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".. i was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.. this not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

fast forward to me having my own kid.

ava is not doing well in school.

cognac

My parents were always of the belief that, "the end is right around the corner".

I was a zealous kid, with a learning disorder, so my parents never gave me a hard time or pushed me in regards to my education.

This not only hurt me, but, pissed me off insanely.

Fast forward to me having my own kid. Ava is not doing well in school. I already work with her 1/2-1 hour a day. She just got signed up for after school help on Mondays and is having a core evaluation done.

In addition to my help and the schools, I've hired a private tutor for 1 hour a day.

My mom thinks it's way to much and I'm bombarding my daughter with to much education.

My feeling is since the extra help is dispersed throughout the day (15-30 min after school, 1 hr with the tutor at 6pm and 1/2 before school) she won't get to overwhelmed and will like school more because she understands what's going on.

If she doesn't get more help then what I'm able to give her, she will fail. What else am I supposed to do?

But, I keep second guessing myself trying to make sure I'm not putting my own personal issues on my daughters shoulders.

Thought I'd ask to get some outside opinions. Thank you.

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You have to admit, the carrot is pretty alluring.

by John Aquila in

there were several families that were visiting my mom today and i was sitting in and just listening to all of them talk..

they started talking about the recent shooting at the university.

and its so easy for them because all they have to say is;.

cognac

Same as if every answer I gave you was, "I'll give you a billion dollars and your own private island."

Actually, it's an even bigger lie...

Fun to hope, hurtful when you are on your deathbed and it hasn't happened and you've wasted everything...

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My Mother Died Two Weeks Ago

by Perry in

jw
friends

none of my jehovah's witness relatives called to tell me or my family.

just found out this morning.

cognac

I'm so, so sorry. Can't even wrap my brain around your relatives not calling you. How shockingly cruel. I'm so sorry... :(