Posts by Velvetann

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For Those of You Trying to Quit Drinking - Even Temporarily...

by cognac in

jw
friends

figured i'd do a topic for it.

i'm trying to quit for at least a month - just found i was drinking a bit to much with all the stress.... anyways, its been 10 days since i last had a drink.. how long has it been for you?

how long are you trying to go without drinking?.

Velvetann

Anewme

Thanks for sharing your story. I am so happy for you that you have found happiness and don't need to self medicate anymore. You are a good example for all of us who are struggling with it.

Velvetann

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For Those of You Trying to Quit Drinking - Even Temporarily...

by cognac in

jw
friends

figured i'd do a topic for it.

i'm trying to quit for at least a month - just found i was drinking a bit to much with all the stress.... anyways, its been 10 days since i last had a drink.. how long has it been for you?

how long are you trying to go without drinking?.

Velvetann

Thanks Cognac for listening

It is something I don't admit to anyone and to do this on this open forum is very embarrassing and humiliating for me. I know some people I really like on here and respect are very anti booze.

I would like to do a support thing with you and whoever else is on here that wants to do it. I know as you said we might fall down sometime but its a very good incentive.

So do we do it open forum or maybe privately also on PMs.

Oompa you did so well - 10 weeks WOW. I knew you talked about it a few months ago but then I didn't hear anything more about it. Here you did 10 weeks and we should or I should have been cheering you on. You can get back to it, I know you can.

I am in touch with a very sweet exJW lady in Georgia, I met her on another exjw group, she has been suffering terribly with her pain at having left the religion (10 years ago) and losing her family to it. We have been emailing back and forth and she said she was drinking too much and everyday. She joined AA 2 weeks ago and then she started drinking the very next day again so AA went out the window. I didn't admit to her that I had a problem. Now she says she hasn't had a drink in 8 days and is feeling better. I think I will email her and admit that I need to stop too. Thanks Cognac for starting this.

Velvetann

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For Those of You Trying to Quit Drinking - Even Temporarily...

by cognac in

jw
friends

figured i'd do a topic for it.

i'm trying to quit for at least a month - just found i was drinking a bit to much with all the stress.... anyways, its been 10 days since i last had a drink.. how long has it been for you?

how long are you trying to go without drinking?.

Velvetann

Cognac you are doing so well, and I am hoping you are feeling better because you are not drinking. Thanks for sharing this with us and maybe helping us drinkers to wake up and see that its not healthy to drink everyday.

I didn't know you drank, you are very brave coming out with this, and if you can admit then I decided I can admit it. I have waited 2 days to do it since I saw your post.

I do drink wine every evening. I don't get falling down drunk, just sleepy. I use it as a way to relax. I have recently become disabled and have pain whenever I stand or walk so that is my excuse right now to drink wine at night. I dont think its helping. I am getting sicker, and I think drinking is not good for my chronic disease. I can't seem to stop. I feel embarrassed about this and I do not like admitting it. Also I don't find it makes me happier, it just makes me sadder. WHY AM I DRINKING??? I think its a bad habit. I started drinking when I left the Borg many years ago to numb myself. Its become a very bad habit.

I would like to join you on Monday in this No alcohol marathon!! I need help and encouragement. I would like to help you and others too by Not drinking.

Velvetann

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Hi I'm new here - a bit about me

by Fishbulb in

well where do i start?

i am 34, male and gay.

when i was about 15 i was exposed to the witnesses teachings.

Velvetann

Welcome Fishbulb

I felt so bad for what you had to go through when I read your story. You tried so hard to do the right thing and it shows you have a good heart.

You didn't deserve to be shunned, but in the end you will be better off without that self righteous religion

I too had problems getting my life partner(s) to understand how having been a JW affects you even after. You cannot get rid of the guilt, pain, fear and loss just like that. It takes years and sometimes never totally leaves you. I joined this group in January of this year, before that I still had nightmares of Armageddon and lived with guilt and fear even after being faded for 25 years. I had not seen what was on the internet until recently. This group is the best source of information and support for exjws in my opinion. You find out that you are not alone and that thousands of us have suffered at the hands of this religion.

My present partner in life knew I used to be a JW but he was of the opinion that you could just "forget" it and bury it. He said why do you talk about it and let it bother you. So I didn't talk to him about it much and let it smoulder inside me. We have been together 3 years now. Then I found this group and He was upset that I was spending so much time on this discussion group, thinking it was not good for me. I told him this was good for me and to be patient with me. Now I am telling him about what I am reading on here. He is getting to know everyone through me and to understand just how it affects people. he is a big Sci Fi fan and now he jokes with me that the JW religion is just like one of the shows he likes. I think its Stargate but he compares the JW elders to the Oari (spelling?). He got me watching the show and now I see how good a comparison it is. He now understands and it helps.

My point is, your partner may not understand what you are feeling right now about the JW's but he can come around to understanding it. I think like a few others have said that just relating others experiences to him once in a while will show him what a cult it is and that you are lucky to have come out of it.

Again I am glad you found this place and please keep us updated on how you are doing

Velvetann

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Personal Experience I've Never Shared - I Hope it Helps Some Here !

by flipper in

jw
friends

o. k. how do i start ?

i will preface the start of this first by saying this happened many years ago - in 1985 when i had just become a new father myself to my dear son flipper junior, i'll call him.

when i explain this to you, some of this may appear comical, in fact, now that i overcame it years ago, i can laugh at it, but when you see the totality of the story- when it happened then to me- it was no laughing matter.

Velvetann

Mr. Flipper

You had EVERY RIGHT to be upset. That was just a horrible humiliating thing to do. I had to reread the first of your story to make sure you were talking about JW men. That was so wrong in front of children never mind in front of anyone. In my opinion it was totally unappropriate and they obviously were not very theocratic followers of the Watchtower Society. I know tons of worldly people since I have left the religion and none of them that I know would ever think to do such a thing. I have seen rowdy, drunk men believe me, my deceased husband used to hang out with a lot of men friends, they got really rowdy at baseball tournaments, golf tournaments, poker parties etc, but Never did they ever do such a thing like that.

Thanks for sharing that, Its good insight as to how just because a person is a JW doesn't mean they are a good person.

Velvetann

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Myspace is bad

by JimmyPage in

jw
friends

someone told my wife that the myspace site is bad.

they said it will be brought out more in the upcoming assemblies.

a lot of dubs have gotten themselves in trouble on the site.

Velvetann

WTWizard

Would you tell me what your space url is I LOVE APOSTATE profiles. PM me if you can. I want to add more to make it Apostate and your opinion would help

www.myspace.com/velvet14

Velvetann.

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Gas Prices In Your Area?

by sacolton in

$3.69 in oklahoma city, ok ... and going up!.

even though the new book study arrangement starts january 2009 - i wonder how many witnesses will begin to stop going this year to save on their gas budget?

.

Velvetann

Its $5.54 per Canadian Gallon here right now. (We are priced by the litre) so $1.22 per litre then mulitply that by 4 to get how much it is a Gallon.

Then our Gallon is larger than your gallon in the US so I calculated that into it and it works out to $4.62 a US Gallon.

How much are you paying over in England and Europe, Austrailia, South Africa???

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Has a song "GRABBED" at you pulling your soul in?

by FreedomFrog in

jw
friends

it doesn't happen to me much but when it does i can't get enough.... i was driving home from a friends house trying to figure out how to work out my finances/home/college/kids and then the song "eye of the tiger" came on.. i've heard this song many times.

this was one of my fave's growing up but it didn't catch my soul like it did tonight.

i was in awe to the point of needing to hear it 6 times already.

Velvetann

Josh Groban has some beautiful meaningful music and a beautiful voice. I don't listen to him much now but when my Husband died suddenly in 2002

I played this song at his funeral

I played it over and over for a year after until the pain of losing him started to fade.

To Where You Are

Lyrics by Linda Thompson

Who can say for certain
Maybe you're still here
I feel you all around me
Your memory's so clear

Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You're still an inspiration
Can it be (?)
That you are my
Forever love
And you are watching over me from up above

Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are

Are you gently sleeping
Here inside my dream
And isn't faith believing
All power can't be seen

As my heart holds you
Just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me everyday
'Cause you are my
Forever love
Watching me from up above

And I believe
That angels breathe
And that love will live on and never leave

Fly me up
To where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
To know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are

I know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are