Posts by gypsywildone

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Home school

by Globetrotter in

my son told me the other day that he and his sister are just about the only kids at the kh their age that go to public/private schools.

almost all the other kids are home-schooled.

i was rather shocked.

The one jw friend I had was taking correspondence courses in high school. I felt at that time she was ripped off & it was a way for them to keep more control of her & isolate her. I still feel that way. There were many jw parents doing all kinds of things to keep their kids out of public school at the time. It's another way they ended up not feeling "connected".

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How to tell my JW mum that I'm Pagan

by Sirona in

after about 3 years of being part of a pagan religion, i'm finally realising that this is the time to tell my jw mother.

the question is, how do i put it over to her?

i'm wiccan, and it is true that wiccans refer to themselves as witches.

gypsywildone

What's the matter with "My spirituality is mine, and it's personal, I don't go shoving it up everone's . . ."

Seriously, why do you want to tell her the specifics, & what do you think the result will be? Are you at a point in life where if she shuns you, so be it?

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Did you ever lead a double life?

by imzadi in

those of you who are now x-jws, did you ever lead a double life while you were "in"?

did you have "worldly" friends, watch r rated movies, drive fast cars and do other things you weren't supposed to do, yet believed you were a "good" jw because you belived in the truth, "put in time", and attended meetings?

if you did, how long did it take you to see the truth about the truth and leave?

gypsywildone

My mother got into that cult when I was 13, & I just went insane! What was I rebelling against? Whaddaya got? It gave a sort of rebel without a cause, a cause. My mission: To horrify the jws & drive them nuts. My crimes against jdubbery are too numerous to mention here now, but sufficie it to say I tried every drug known to mankind at the time (no Ecstacy or Special K), dyed my hair wild shades of eggplant (this was big stuff at the time), got in HUGE trouble at school, & did not go down! I refused to cave! I saw some teenage jws lead a double life. I had one good jw friend & we used to drink cheap wine & dream of the day we could get away. She's an inactive, head tripped jw today. I only tracked her down about 2 years ago via the net, & she believes. I refused to enter a kh again after age 15.5.

I saw others sit next to some geek one too many times & find themselves engaged to a kid they hardly even knew. The jws were afraid they'd have S-E-X, so they married 'em off young. Undereducated, unprepared for real life, but safe.

What a bad trip! But most of those teenage marriages ended in divorce & scandalous partner swaps, dfings, & just disaster. Living well IS the best revenge.

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the latest discussion between the wife & I

by Winston Smith :>D in

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edited to keep private in case is ever read in future by wife who escaped the borg .

pm me if interested in offering advice.

gypsywildone

Coulda been an exchange from my parent's marriage years ago, 'cept for the cell phone.

I'm sure this gets tedious, & you sure don't deserve it!

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Growing up in a divided household

by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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i am new to this forum.

i needed to tell all of you how much you have helped me.

i too, have been hurt by the jw's.

gypsywildone

Welcome SFF. I am so glad I was already 13 when my mother got into this cult! I am sooo glad I wasn't raised this way & I knew there was real life out there! I watched this insanity you describe go on between my parents, & bided my time. What you are describing is child abuse, plain & simple. I think most of those jw women treat their "unbeliever" husbands in the same manner. In the end, it does backfire, because kids get older, & forge a strong relationship with their dad, & do the "fade" from their mother.

Your dad is a true inspiration, & I am so glad you are able to have him in your life! His education is the best example you could have had. Enjoy your dad & your freedom!

hugs, Gypsy

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Disassociated

by Euphemism in

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i just found out that the elders announced meia's and my disassociation at the service meeting this week.

they'd called me on monday and told me that they were going to; i fired off an appeal letter the next day, and hadn't heard anything, so i thought they might have postopned the announcement.

i just found out, however, that the meeting was held on monday this week because the other congregation had the co's visit.

gypsywildone

Sorry about this Euph! They really are unreasonable, that's for sure! Hopefully, your families won't get extreme on you!

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Anyone here ever been homeless?

by maybesbabies in

i am curious, our family was homeless on and off for several years.

i am trying to communicate to my little brother that growing up this way does not preclude one from a normal life.

is anyone willing to share a story that i can pass on to him??

gypsywildone

It was embarrassing at the time in a way. Everyone else's parents seemed to be nice & actually taking care of their families (worldly friends, I had only 1 jw friend), & sending them to college, and I know I looked really stupid out there on my own. It made me look like I had made very foolish choices in life, & it actually DID make me make some really foolish decisions. Most people that age do not have the tools to be out there fending for themselves at that age. I know I didn't! But you get by, sigh.

Then it made me bitter & hateful for a spell. I felt ripped off & couldn't understand the hand I was dealt. It did make me a stronger person, but you can't just dismiss it like that as if it was some bad fairy tale with a happy ending. I was very intelligent & could have gotten farther than community college, had I had the backing of a decent family.

It gave me a certain empathy & understanding of poverty & poor people, & how they got that way. It gave me an appreciation for everything I have had ever since & I am never so arrogant to think that I will never be there again. And it made me a better parent.

But you know what? I didn't NEED it. At all. I could have become a strong, appreciative person without witchtower's interference in my familie's life. It was kind of fun while I was there to meet all kinds of weirdos & experience the wild side of life. But it is certainly not the way to take care of a family.

Anyone can be successful though, even with a rocky start. You must have the drive, & sometimes it is fuelled by anger. But the college is out there, some government grants are out there, the student loans are out there, & anyone willing to work hard & not lose focus can do it! When these people deal you a bad hand, it's all you CAN do!

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