dear friends and fellow forum members...it has come to the point in my planning of the 1st annual apostacheesefest at my home; that i really haven't the faintest idea of how to run this thing.
i am actually quite "socially retarded" and have not had a large gathering at my home since...hmmmmm...since i don't know when!
so i beseech anyone out there who has attended or put on an apostafest...what are some good ideas to make it easy for me and yet fun for everyone.
Dear friends and fellow forum members...it has come to the point in my planning of the 1st Annual Apostacheesefest at my home; that I really haven't the faintest idea of how to run this thing. I am actually quite "socially retarded" and have not had a LARGE gathering at my home since...hmmmmm...since I don't know when!
So I beseech anyone out there who has attended or put on an apostafest...what are some good ideas to make it EASY for me and yet FUN for everyone.
My husband is complaining that I am becoming obsessed with putting this on and I suppose he doesn't want to have to commit me to the psychiatric ward before this event. (That's PSYCHIATRIC not GERIATRIC).
HELP?????
cathy l. (of the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Type)
P.S. Please do not put this under apostafests. I need this to go out to a broader range of people. Thank you for your support.
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((((((((((David)))))))))...I came across your topic and it touched my heart because I lost my dad 21 years ago June 3...and yesterday for some reason was really, really hard, as compared to other years. He was only 64 and died from a massive heart attack. No time to say good-bye.
I wish I could follow your advice and give my mom the love I would like to give her, she is 84 and shuns me. So much wasted time and lives.
Being only a year since you lost your mum...it must be very difficult. It is true that time helps...but it always still hurts.
im df'd and i have a family member who will still go to the bar with me, come to my house and hang out with me, but in certain situations, he wont because the witnesses may may see.
places like restaurants where the witnesses frequently go, it wont happen.
My husband's brother and mother are still somewhat "active" JW's (though not pioneer material), and have never shunned us or treated us poorly. In fact, I think my brother-in-law is closer to my husband now more than ever before. They go to concerts together and I don't think he cares if they're seen by JW's or not. (But...we aren't DF'd or DA'd either...so this could make a big difference, but even then I think they both would treat us the same). But they are the only ones left in our respective families who still treat us like human beings.
We had a dear friend pass away last summer and he was one of the only elders I ever knew that stood up against a whole body of elders. He was, of course, removed as an elder when he "stayed the course" and refused to go along with the hypocritical actions of these other elders.
My husband and I dreaded going to the funeral at the KH; but just felt we needed to do that in respect for this friend. It was dreadful being back in a KH and being shunned by most; but we even decided to go to the meal afterwards, since my husbands brother went with us so we had someone to sit with.
It would have to be someone else very special to get us to go into a KH again for a funeral, or even just a funeral home for that matter. It was pretty hard and somewhat sickening to be among so many of our former "loving friends".
a few times me and my family have had it out about the cult,and my parents{especially my mom}who are now 50,get all craxzy sometimes.she almost acts like she's physically sick,or haveing a heart attack or something when things get heated.now i understand sheis emotional to begin with,thats what got her into this crap .but is all these factors a reason to hold back feelings?i often find myself tip-toeing around how i talk to her.i feel the fanatic state they kept thier kids(especially us o0lder 3 of 5}really had detrimental effects on us.it's not so much of what they believed,but how they held us kids back from normal growth.i don't want to make her feel terrible,but sometimes it's hard not to say things.she still clings to her meeting on sunday,and basic principlkes of the bible,but i at times feel betrayed because of her cntinuing to support that reloigion.i guess you just have to take it as comes.has this happened to anyone else?sometimes i care,sometimes i don't.i want my parents to know exactly how wrong the way they raised me was.i guess it was worse because i was so trusting.at a few times in my life,i actually beli9eved.when the rug got pulled out for me,i was left emotionally scarred.it is very difficult for me to forgive and forget.it's just the more you think about how ridicoulous there way of raising children was,the more angry i get.. its my little brothers 21 birthday tonight,and we are all going out to eat and have a few drinks{but it's not a birthday party}.i couldn't do crap in all my childhood.they taught me to hate.they used warped scare tactics on young children.they held me back socially in everyway.they caused,thru that cult,soooooo much pain,that still lingers today.will i ever truly forgive and forget,i dont think so,but thier age may spare them my full disdain.its a fine line i tread with my parents,one between love and hate.. should age matter when it comes to confronting people on this subject,one that runs deep for many of us children of the watchtowers 1980's /early 90's pinnacle of fanatisism?stp
My mother-in-law, at the ripe old age of 92...listens intently to my husband when he visits (which is frequently, as we live next door and his dad has altzeimers, and though she can get very upset when she now hears the crap that the JW's teach that is so hypocritical (UN, protecting pedophiles, etc.)...she seems to be standing up quite well. Though she says that she will never change religions or quit the JW's at her age...she still listens with an open mind and has never shunned us for expressing our "new" belief system.
EF...I am always sad to hear the experiences of the gay X-JW community and the hell that you and others must have had to endure as JW's growing up. I feel so glad to NOW be able to respect others choices in lifestyles. Big hug EF!!
I think many JW parents HIDE behind their age just so they don't have to face the truth about the "truth". A very convenient escape route.
I think the most important thing in any relationship is just being BEST friends. When you choose to spend your life with someone and hope that it IS forever, until death puts an end to it...if you don't LIKE the person as the years go by; you're doomed. Sex is important; but being friends is more important .
I'd say "wait a minute please"...go in and call the cops (because we told the elders they couldn't come here anymore) and then talk to them until the cops showed up to escort them off our property.
Or maybe I would just spit on them and kick em in the balls.
