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  FW: WHAT A SISITER SACRIFICED TO SERVE JEHOVAH

  by moomanchu in

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  witnoid e-mails goin around.. all i can say is wtf.. japan assembly experience.

  date: tue, 22 jan 2008 15:58:51 -0500. .

  convention experience from japan!

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  searchingforfriends

  I actually heard this experiance read at a convention a few years ago. I guess the speaker had e-mail too...
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  Poem from dub friend.

  by searchingforfriends in

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  i got this in an e-mail from a childhood friend that is still an active jw.

  i found it to be very upsetting and was wondering if anyone else gets the kind of e-mail forwards from friends/family that are still in?

  and how you handle it.

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  searchingforfriends

  LOL loosie, that was great, ty.

  Crapola, I'm sorry to hear that, unfortunatly it is all too common within the dubs. I had several years of hell on earth with a "good" witness man and am finally free and happier than I have been in years, maybe ever.
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  He's got the whole world in his hands

  by moomanchu in

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  has this video been posted before?.

  http://youtube.com/watch?v=ekrl3lluq7a&feature=related.

  jw's ruin a nice song.. .

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  searchingforfriends

  Interesting that it targets out churches protecting molesters, isn't that the pot calling the kettle black???
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  Poem from dub friend.

  by searchingforfriends in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i got this in an e-mail from a childhood friend that is still an active jw.

  i found it to be very upsetting and was wondering if anyone else gets the kind of e-mail forwards from friends/family that are still in?

  and how you handle it.

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  searchingforfriends

  Thanks you for all of your comments. I did reply:

  "That’s a sad poem. It strikes a nerve for me because of what I have personally been through. I think we should keep in mind that those things can happen regardless of who you marry. For example I married a brother that according to his entire elder body is in good standing (I spoke to them when we were dating) and you probably wouldn’t believe everything that happened to me even if I told you. In fact he is still in good standing. My point is, that this type of very bad situation can happen to anybody, and the only way to even try to prevent it is to really know who you are getting married to and not to just think you know them and even then you may end up in a bad situation through no fault of your own. That being said I also don’t think it would be right to go through life being afraid that every person we meet is going to give us AIDS or beat us. I much prefer the messages of hope to the ones of fear. I am done living in fear."

  I don't think she got the point though, cause her response was something like:

  " The possibilities of our marriage mate having a STD, not taking care of their family, hurting their mate, etc. are greatly reduced when you get involved with someone who loves Jehovah and his principles and honesty & earnestly practices those things in their life."
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  Poem from dub friend.

  by searchingforfriends in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i got this in an e-mail from a childhood friend that is still an active jw.

  i found it to be very upsetting and was wondering if anyone else gets the kind of e-mail forwards from friends/family that are still in?

  and how you handle it.

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  searchingforfriends

  I got this in an e-mail from a childhood friend that is still an active JW. I found it to be very upsetting and was wondering if anyone else gets the kind of e-mail forwards from friends/family that are still in? And how you handle it. I'm sure it came to me cause I recently told her about my relationship with a "worldly" man.

  He doesn't Serve Jehovah!
  
  
  I'd like to tell you a story, about true love at last.
  It's very informative and has an interesting cast.
  So pay close attention, it's sad but true,
  And don't ever think this can't happen to you.
  
  I met him during lunch break on a sunny day,
  He sat next to me and smiled, as I was about to pray.
  We talked on and on. He was such a gentleman.
  I wished that this moment would never end.
  
  Ah, but then it came to be the end of my lunch hour.
  I tell you when he stood up; he looked just like a tower!
  We met again and again. Our souls began to cling.
  I pondered in my mind, "Is this the REAL thing?"
  
  He doesn't smoke or drink, or gamble away his money.
  He doesn't do drugs or things like that and he's nobody's "honey".
  Let's face it, he's fine and he's really got a great "bod".
  The only thing that's missing is he doesn't serve Jehovah God.
  I'll just give him a chance, he'll change in time.
  I won't mind being "his", if he'd like to be "mine".
  My friends tried to warn me. I didn't listen or care.
  Little did I know my life would be one of despair?
  
  The wedding was fine. The judge married us in the fall.
  You see, I couldn't have a wedding in a Kingdom Hall
  My dad, no, he didn't give me away.
  With the pain in his heart, he didn't have much to say.
  
  Mom listens to me, please don't cry and whine.
  Don't worry about us, we'll be just fine.
  I've got a good man and he has a good job.
  The only thing is, he doesn't serve Jehovah God.
  
  Everything is going fine, but recently at night.
  When it's time for the meeting, we just fuss and fight.
  He says, "Who's this God, breaking us apart?
  Don't go tonight dear, please follow your heart."
  
  So I listen and stay, to keep peace at home.
  But now oftentimes, I feel so all-alone.
  I don't associate with the friends much at all,
  To keep peace at home, I don't go to the Hall.
  
  Service and Meetings, all that's history.
  Today, I decorated my first Holiday Tree.
  The holiday celebrations are now part of my life.
  You see, I must obey my husband, for I am his wife.
  
  The brothers would call. I wouldn't answer the door.
  I don't read the magazines. Reading is such a bore.
  Marrying out of the Truth, it really sets you "free".
  "Free" from Jehovah's love that once was in me.
  I just got the news! I'm having a "little one"!
  I can hardly wait to tell my dear "Hon".
  He was in a bad mood. He lost his job that day.
  He told me as he hit me, "That's just one more bill to pay!"
  
  Then he apologized, "I'm sorry, please forgive me Dear"
  You see, I've heard those words more often than I'd like to hear.
  I have two jobs now. I must support my household.
  My husband says he'll find work, but now that's getting old.
  
  I'm tired. I'm stressed. I'm feeling very strange.
  My schedule at both jobs, I'll have to rearrange.
  I should be very happy; the baby is due any day.
  Things just have to get better, somehow, some way.
  
  I'm married to this man, for better or for worse.
  The only problem is, he doesn't put Jehovah first.
  The baby came today, she's so little and so light.
  She's not crying or making noise, something's just not right.
  
  "What could be wrong?" I thought aloud as I lay in bed.
  In came the doctor looking sad, and then he shook his head.
  "Mrs. Unbeliever," he said, "there's something I must confess."
  You and the baby tested positive to the new HIV test.
  
  I started crying. I couldn't believe the words the doctor said.
  To know that in a very short time, my child and I'd be dead!
  Listen to me! All of you! I'm telling you to your face!
  To marry an Unbeliever, is a TOTAL DISGRACE,
  
  To Jehovah, our loving father, who provides for his sheep.
  That's why he sets the guidelines for us to hold and keep.
  Wait on Jehovah. In his due time He'll set things straight.
  Be patient and He'll give you a Theocratic mate.
  
  One who loves Jehovah and you know that he'll do right.
  One who'll be there with you when it comes to "Meeting" night.
  A worldly man has nothing to offer - really nothing at all
  But unhappiness, sadness, sorrow, and a very serious fall.
  
  So be wise my Sisters, and please don't try to rush things.
  Wait patiently on Jehovah, and accept the blessings he brings.
  Don't look to worldly men as mates, at your job or at the Mall.
  REMEMBER! Brothers that serve Jehovah are at the Kingdom Hall.
  
  
  
  Author Unknown.
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  Had a visit last Saturday from an elder....

  by gymbob in

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  2. friends

  he said he was just checking addresses because my house was on the "do not call" list, and he was checking to see if the same people lived here or had moved away.

  so i told him that nobody that lives in this house has asked jw's not to call, and that it was probably at the request of my ex-wife who knows i don't attend anymore.. so he gives me that ookaaayy look..... i'm out working in the yard and so we sit down in the garage to have a chat..... he doesn't know me, but i remember him from a different cong., and he doesn't know i da'd myself over 5 years ago.

  he also doesn't know how much i've learned and how long i've been waiting for this day!.

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  LOL, Good Job! I moved and didn't tell anyone in the cong so they can't "pop" by. but I do still get a voice message every 4 months or so.
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  Door-to-door JW's rang my bell today.

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i live in a predominantly spanish neighborhood.

  i primarily speak english.. i am not listed on the terrritory cards that i know of, but i should be because i .

  have answered the door and told them i was already a jw in xxxx (foreign lang.).

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  searchingforfriends

  FS used to seem to be about the presentation, but in recent years it seems to be all about the placements, hence all of the campaigns....
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  Will Remarrying Lead to DFing?

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the wtb&ts states in this or that circumstance* the offended jw may separate or divorce but never remarry.

  neither can the discarded mate remarry.. what could the local congregation do if they learned that either one of the above (faded, ex, whatever) remarries?.

  *one's physical or spiritual life (usually that of the wife) is endangered; one (always the husband) refuses to provide for one's family, .... thanks,.

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  I think it's rediculous to limit women in their options for dealing with an abusive relationship! I made the choice to divorce my abusive JW ex-husband and all through the process I have been made to feel like the bad-guy. Within the first week of leaving he was "sorry" so the elders felt I should try and reconsile. I told them that you can't do something for years and then because someone tells on you be truly repentant within days. It just doesn't work that way. I went through with the divorce and have met the love of my life and couldn't be happier. Now I just have to figure my way through the parental issues..... GL to all that are in this type of situation.
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  computer question

  by rekless in

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  xp home edition 10 gigs there are 1.8 gigs free.

  there are two users listed, now i have log on to both and cleaned out the files that are shared, still no improvement.. over the past year it has added vitual memory a couple of times; therefore, i assume (i know the joke) it moves some memory from one section to another and i am running out of memory.. if i removed one would it free up some hard drive?.

  if so, how do i remove one of the users?.

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  searchingforfriends

  There's a program called squoia view you can download for free at http://w3.win.tue.nl/onderzoek/onderzoek_informatica/visualization/sequoiaview/. It provides a very simple visual of your hard drive and you can see what's taking up so much space.
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  What have you done to heal yourselves from the borg & lead a content life?

  by cognac in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  or, at least made progress in healing yourselves.... right now i feel like i have made a lot of progress.. i did the following that helped tremendously:.

  joined this forum!

  faced my husband regarding how i felt and feel that we have met eachother 1/2 way on this - even researched and prepared how to talk to him in a better way (i have a blunt, tactless way of bringing things up - in case you guys didn't notice, lol.

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  Hi, I'm new here. I'm pretty new to all of this and I'm hoping to start healing by making new friends. Also I feel that the more I learn about the org the more validated I feel in the choices that I have made. I am inactive and am already having some parental issues as a result and unfortunatly I feel it will get much worse with them. I look forward to meeting all of you and have enjoyed browsing the threads here over the past few weeks.