s+g, with regard to your last post, while the question as to who should be included as confidants can be complicated, my point was that parents being included is simple and straightforward, if not obvious.
The notion that even a repentant child abuser might be offended if he found out that the parents had been warned by the elders, and that he might sue the Watchtower for slander, is simply absurd. Even if that happened, wouldn't that be a more noble case to fight in court than what Watchtower now finds itself fighting?