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  Life Cycle of a JW

  by Wren in

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  this is an introduction.

  my jw life, i admit now, is typical.

  in ways its typical for: jw demographics, life passages, time in a high control group.

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  HappyHeathen

  Wren,

  Thanks for sharing your story -- you are a talented writer and very easy to follow.

  I left the WT cult in 1975 when I was 24. Being disfellowshipped was the best thing that ever happened to me, though at the time I fully intended to get reinstated. Fortunately, that never occurred -- every time I tried to attend a meeting, I got physically ill without knowing why, at least on a conscious level. I believe once you start living in the real world again, the natural result is to wake up from the nightmare, though it may be a gradual process that takes years. Sadly, some people on this board are having a hard time shaking the programming. My heart breaks for them because until they do they will live in limbo – and life is too short and precious for that.

  Jehovah’s Witnesses were an unwanted presence in my life until about 1993, as I was forced to have a certain amount of contact with my ex-husband and his family when I saw my daughter. Her baptism put an end to that but also our relationship – it was “goodbye, mom” once she got dunked. You all know the drill. On the positive side, I did not have to call or talk to those people anymore – they had such a way of making me feel like a leper.

  For the past 8 years, I tried to forget I ever was a JW – it seemed like it all happened to someone else. Then one day my mom, who left the borg before I did, confessed that she secretly worried that the witnesses might be right in their doctrinal teachings. It hurt me to see these issues still caused her pain. Later it occurred to me there might be some information about the WT on the internet. I found Randy’s freeminds site first and felt like I hit the motherlode. In my wildest dreams, I never thought the WT could be that evil! C of C , the mass exodus of Bethelites, the 1914 coverup, Silent Lambs—it was all there for the world to see. Amazing stuff!

  I so wish I had had access to this information years ago. To all of you who have contributed to this board and spent hours researching and writing – THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. You are helping new people every day to understand that they are NOT crazy and they are NOT alone and that there is life outside the borg.

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  Average age of apostates survey.

  by sleepy in

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  2. friends

  i thought it might be a good idea to find out at what age or after how long we descided to leave the watchtower.. prehaps we my find a patern in it which we could use .. i think what we need to know are ,.

  1.age you left the watchtower.

  (or age you found out it was wrong).

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  HappyHeathen

  1. Left at 24 (and never looked back)
  2. Baptized at 14
  3. Raised from age 11

  Fat, dumb, and happy ever since.
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  Personality Survey

  by ninjaturtle in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what's your personality type?

  take this test if you're not sure:.

  http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp.

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  HappyHeathen

  INFJ
  Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
  Strength of the preferences %
  78 44 33 56
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  NY Telecom & Wonder Woman 77

  by Utopian Reformist in

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  while it may be "politically correct" to jump all over nytelecom, let's face it, how many of you actually laughed at his post, before recomposing yourself and deciding to "grab a rope" and join the lynch mob?

  i wonder who will be honest.

  i am not a fan of nytelecom or fredhall or madapostate.

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  HappyHeathen

  NYTelecom,
  People like you are one of the reasons I left the borg. Your "concern" stems from a need to be superior -- you're judgmental and arrogant, assuming that you can talk down to any JW who is subordinate to you (all women and children and males in a lower position than yours). "Worldly" people you can treat like trash because to you we're just vulture food. Don't try to con us by telling us you're concerned about one of us! If the WT told you to shoot us in the street, you'd be standing in the line at the local gun store right now.

  I get the picture now -- you're one of those incredibly narcissistic assholes who hang out at the gym all the time.

  HH

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  Balmpots Enjoy Being Beautifully Annoying

  by mysteriouslady in

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  2. friends

  what is life if you can't enjoy yourself, not just once in a while, but all the time?.

  life is there for everyone to enjoy, if that is within your cultural capacity, the fact that you can still do this in relative freedom, then that is as well what you might as well get on with doing.. does anyone have experiences or stories to share on balmypots that they know of, that enjoy being beautifully annoying?.

  go on, enjoy life, that is what it is there for.. respect and whatknot(?).

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  Mysterious,

  Balmpots? Huh??? Please elaborate. What do you mean by "beautifully annoying." You've lost me.
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  A DOOM & GLOOMER AFTER MY OWN HEART

  by You Know in

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  the controversy regarding the future is my no means confined to apostate dubs and jehovah's witnesses.

  many other than "bible thumpers" can see big trouble looming just around the next bend.

  of course they are ridiculed too by those with opposing views.

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  You Know,
  In ten years, we will look back at Mr. McIntosh's predictions and laugh, just as we poke fun at all the Awake articles of the late sixties predicting that the world couldn't possibly go on past 1975. JW's waste so much of their energy on negative things -- how they love the doom and gloom. You people eat it with a spoon!

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  GB says NO SPORTS for JWs??!!WHAT??HUh?!!

  by plmkrzy in

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  2. friends

  -------------------s post the other day got me.

  thinking about all the things that really bugged.

  me about the wts.

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  HappyHeathen

  Badwillie,

  I'm so sorry to hear that you had to give up Little League. I'm so glad I left the Borg before my sons were born. I put my youngest in baseball at age 5 and he played until he was 14. I was team mom and scorekeeper most years.

  I think it's a damn shame that JW kids are robbed of this great opportunity to learn about teamwork and gain self-esteem through sports. It is also a great way for parents to bond with their kids.
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  Who was a squeaky clean dub?

  by Marilyn in

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  i'm wondering if the majority here were seriously conservative squeaky clean dubs?

  i took the whole thing very seriously.

  there seems to be such a fun element here - i can't imagine everyone being those dull folk all decked out in their wt uniform with accompanying plastic expressions.. marilyn

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  HappyHeathen

  Marilyn,

  Like you I took the rules very seriously. Felt guilty even over minor infractions like saying "darn" or going to a PG-rated movie. On the outside, I looked so sweet, inside I was torn apart by conflict.

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  I want to partake at the Memorial!

  by BQE in

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  2. friends

  it's been a strong desire of mine for the 20 some odd years since i've beeb df'd.. what do you guys think?

  should i go this year and make everyone's jaw drop??

  any advice as to what i should say if i am interrogated?

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  HappyHeathen

  Fred,
  I'm not sure that we live in a "paradox world", but we sure do live in a "paradoxical" one. Have you heard of spelling or grammar check? Just wondering.

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  What is?

  by getingout in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the sickest thing you every witnessed in your kh?.

  sept 16th, the brothers and sisters were talking about the wtc crashes.

  they felt it was a sure sign that this system of things is about to end.

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  Skipper,
  That is truly horrible, but sadly, not surprising from what I witnessed during KH meetings. I sat behind one sister who continually thumped her little baby on the head with a pencil everytime he wiggled or fussed -- and I don't mean gentle taps either -- she really bonked him good. As far as I know, no one ever counseled her to stop doing it.

  The worst thing I saw was a skit put on by a young brother during the ministerial school meeting in the early 70's. The theme was "being ready when Armaggedon comes" and the setting was right after Armaggedon. It was a pantomime where he walked back and forth on the stage pretending to pick up things and drop them in a bucket. He asked the audience to guess what it was. With big cheerful grin, he informed us it was the bones and skulls of all the people killed at judgement day (bones picked clean, of course, by all the vultures). Most people chuckled at the hilarity. But my friend sitting next to me was not so amused and went home in tears. Since none of her family were "in the truth", she got an overwhelmingly vivid visual that the bones were those of her mother, father, and siblings.

  The young man who put on the skit later went to Bethel and came back a broken man, like Randy and some others here. I wonder if he ever felt sorry about that cruel, thoughtless little skit.

  HH