Posts by happytobefree

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My Story, Finally..... Feels so "Good"

by Casper in

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i am a survivor:.

i was born in one of the largest cities in the us, lived there for the first few years of my life, during that time i was molested twice, once atthe age of 3 and again at the age of 4, the second .

time being a group thing.

happytobefree

Casper,

I have a motto that I live by and that is never take advice from someone you wouldn't want to trade places with. You are one person that I would sit by and just listen to for hours. Not that I would want to take on the death of two husbands, but your wisdom. You are the type of friend that I pray will come into my life.

I have a big hug for you and look forward to reading more of your post. This board has been a god send for me (because of posters like yourself) and I hope you find it helpful in your spiritual journey.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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"Survival Kit"

by DevilsAdvocate_DA in

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"an everyday servival kit".

toothpick.

rubber band.

happytobefree

In my congregation a sister made up bags with all of those things in it with the little quotes for our WHOLE congregation. Believe it or not I still have mine.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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can you stop the preaching work

by stephenw20 in

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in light of the recent media on the pdophiles with in the organization and the wtbts stand on how these shoulld be dealt with , especailly in states where there is no law regarding reporting this to authorities.,............does any one here feel the neighborhood, town council or neighborhood watch in their town might have interest in know ing , child molestors are walking thier side walks.. .

knowing that summer is coming and lots of outdoor activities along with children being out of school, the community i am sure would like to know who is knocking on their door.. after all, how many pedophiles get an opportunity to get into the community and actually see homes where kids live , see the surrounding s of the house, all in such an innocent trusted manner....put your self at that door answering it with this person at the door.......if you knew this.

can we go door to door after the witnesses are there to say.....by the way the folks who were just here, are part of an organization that shields pedophiles, and doesnt come clean with even its own members as to whothe said offender is .........perhaps a petition against the house to house could be signed......and then offered to local officals.

happytobefree

I like the idea of a flyer. We could put them on top of the WT and AWake in the laundry mats and seven eleven's. lol

I really need to work on the flyer and give them to my neighbors. When I first moved into my community, I was an active JW. While gardening with my neighbor one day, the JW were getting out of their cars to start their preaching work. My neighbor says to me, "I have to let you go, I have to call the neighbors and warn them of that the JW are in the neighborhood. I gave her this appalled look, and said didn't you know I'm a JW. Her face was as red as a beet, and she walked away without saying a word......Well now, she is aware of my exodus from the JW and I receive the JW/Mormon alert call. So I think if we would have flyers to let the neighbors know of their intrusive record keeping, that would be priceless.

And as you think about it, isn't disconcerting to think that people would keep records of this nature on you.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Should JW's and Gays Be Allowed To Adopt?

by Englishman in

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this morning my nearest and dearest were discussing issues relating to adoption.

a close relative of the family has been turned down as an adoptive parent because he and his wife are too wealthy!.

the adoption people say that it is important that children have some negative input into their lives, apparently not having money worries can be bad for you.. we carried on talking and her ladyship asked me whether jw`s ever adopted children.

happytobefree

Larc,

Everything in my post I was relating to myself. And no I REALLY have not heard anyone say honkie, except George Jefferson on the fictional TV show the Jefferson. Yes I have heard the term cracker, redneck, nigger, spike (daily), you name them I have heard them and have thought and said them myself. The case of the police harassing my family, I called them everthing but a child of god and meant every word.

And I REALLY WISH NOT TO DISCUSS THIS ISSUE FURTHER IN THIS topic, because we are off the topic, which is JW/Gay's adoption.

Bad Associate,

What you describe is not racism, it's predjudice. I feel we all are prejudice, being that we have preferences.

Racism is where a person feel they're more superior than another race just because of their ethnic background. And America is a great example of where laws were made to specifically exclude a group of people or even their sexual preference.

Yes I am predjucie. I'm more comfortable with people I can relate to and in my experience not because they are black (because I have two very very close friends - one is Bolivian and the other German). I have made predjudice judgements against blacks, indians, germans, asians, you name it. But I have never wanted to cause unnecessary harm to someone because of their ethnic background. So I totally agree with you post.

And Englishman you are totally on the mark, when you say....

......but, on the odd occasion that it has cropped up it has made me feel very ashamed of my fellow man.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Should JW's and Gays Be Allowed To Adopt?

by Englishman in

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this morning my nearest and dearest were discussing issues relating to adoption.

a close relative of the family has been turned down as an adoptive parent because he and his wife are too wealthy!.

the adoption people say that it is important that children have some negative input into their lives, apparently not having money worries can be bad for you.. we carried on talking and her ladyship asked me whether jw`s ever adopted children.

happytobefree

Kismet,

Of course I'm close to the situation, but not so close that I don't see the attitudes I fight everyday. Most don't even see me when they are making such absurd comments, because they really think I'm stupid. And most are made about hispanics, because I work in the construction field.

I don't want to debate the white elitism and yes there are cases of reverse racism, but please be real. Do you have to discuss with your children how to DRIVE BLACK. Have you been driving your family on your vacation, to be pulled over and asked to take all of your luggage out of the trunk for fucking dogs to sniff, then to be humiliated with the question of how can you afford to drive a particular car and even comments on the friggin luggage. (Well my husband is a drug dealer and I prostitue on the side is always my response to stupid questions as this).

Or do you have to explain why you have an education (and not for people to assume you got through on a handout from the government) or a promotion because quotos. Or to go through life explaining how you are able to live in a certain area.

So I will end this topic. Because I choose to see and live pass racism with love and education on my part.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Should JW's and Gays Be Allowed To Adopt?

by Englishman in

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this morning my nearest and dearest were discussing issues relating to adoption.

a close relative of the family has been turned down as an adoptive parent because he and his wife are too wealthy!.

the adoption people say that it is important that children have some negative input into their lives, apparently not having money worries can be bad for you.. we carried on talking and her ladyship asked me whether jw`s ever adopted children.

happytobefree

Larc,

I'm sorry if my post came across as harsh and put you on the defense. After reading your response and rereading my post, I must apologize for putting you on the spot. But the racism issue is something that I work to educate and fight against daily because of my chosen occupation and also because I live with four wonderful black men who also feel the burden of rasism daily.

But I will have still have to disagree with you on the percentage per the individual groups. Because blacks or any of the other groups cannot and do not make up the norms or policies for racism. And I personally can count the number of times on one hand where I have seen blacks directly do anything that would hinder another's progress.

But thanks for the clarification.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Should JW's and Gays Be Allowed To Adopt?

by Englishman in

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this morning my nearest and dearest were discussing issues relating to adoption.

a close relative of the family has been turned down as an adoptive parent because he and his wife are too wealthy!.

the adoption people say that it is important that children have some negative input into their lives, apparently not having money worries can be bad for you.. we carried on talking and her ladyship asked me whether jw`s ever adopted children.

happytobefree

Larc,

I usually enjoy your post, but I have to take exception to this comment......

In my opinion, there are just many black racists as there are white racists.

and on your statement about white couple adopting black children.

I have worked in the construction field for my whole working career and know first hand what a rascist, sexist attitude encompass. And believe me there are not just as many black (hispanic, asian, indian, etc)racists as white american (don't know about other countries first hand). I'm not one to call wolf on the race card (yes I'm a black female), because I personally want to be judge on my merits and take any racist, sexist challenge head on, that's how I have been able to prosper in my chosen field. I have many friends (not acquaintances) that are white and have many times been apologetic to me for the behavior of white racist (which is not necessary because they are not responsible for an ignorant sob). I myself was raised in a all white environment in Ohio, 5 black, 2 asian and 1 hispanic in my high school population of 1500.

And on the topic of white adopting black children. I understand the agrument to a point. I do think the white should be able to adopt black children, if they are educated on the defense mechanism required for black children (especially black men). And my white brother in-law who is raising a black male and female, understands this racism and know he has to teach his son about somethings that he is clueless about, and has said he is thankful that his children have strong black male models to help assist where he is lacking. But if whites are spewing such garbage as your above post, then HELL no, because those children would be living with a person who is not equipped to help them in the struggle they WILL face in this America.

Happy to be Free (Me)

And I know this is none of my business, but do you have any personal friends that are black.

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Elders' Gems of Wisdom

by stephenw20 in

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my dad asked the co about this one.

mat 27:52-53. and the graves were opened; and many bodies of the saints which slept arose, .

and came out of the graves after his resurrection, and went into the holy city, and appeared unto many.

happytobefree

Farkel,

All I can say about your story is, "Oh Shit, that is funny as hell.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Evidence of "Independent Thinking"

by COMF in

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you need some history to understand what i have to tell.

i have two grown sons.

son1 is single and a staunch jw whose goal for years has been to go to bethel and to become a missionary.

happytobefree

COMF,

Now that's an experience I want to spew to others. I'm so happy for you and your family.

May you continue in your blessings.

Happy to be Free (Me)

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Elders' Gems of Wisdom

by stephenw20 in

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my dad asked the co about this one.

mat 27:52-53. and the graves were opened; and many bodies of the saints which slept arose, .

and came out of the graves after his resurrection, and went into the holy city, and appeared unto many.

happytobefree

That is so funny Venice,

I have one to add in that department. During the break between the Public Talk and WT, my son (he was 3yrs. old at the time) and I were in line to drink at the water fountain. This large sister (I know she weighs at least 500lbs, height 6') was behind us. She spoke asking him how was he doing and all... he then ask her, "I just want to know how much do you weigh, you are the largest person I have ever seen. I gave him this strange look and he say to me, Mom, for real, I want to know.

This is a non KH related story. I was headed into the drug store (pharmacy) and there were two teenagers walking behind this very large female. They were saying 500, 600, a ton, etc. and laughing hysterically (sp). I didn't realize what was going on at the time....but once I was in the store I passed this lady and she had on a sweetshirt with the designer name Guess on it. I almost wet my pants laughing...

Happy to be Free (Me)