Hi cantleave (...didleave) ;-)
I am intrigued...dont have time to sift through hundreds of posts and figure it out myself, but could you tell me what was the tipping point for your wife, cause as you mentioned in your 1st post "... she is completely devout as are her family."
a brief explanation or link to a key post would be fine. I am in a very similar situation to where you were 5 years ago. Thanks
TD