My son takes Aderall and he has done great with it. (not sure how much ritalin is used anymore?) but on aderall he has appetite issues-at least for the first 5 hours after taking it and it inhibits sleep. It used to be used as a diet pill....however he can concentrate again! It's like day and night on the days he doesn't take it.
milligal
JoinedPosts by milligal
-
21
Do you take Ritalin?
by purplesofa ini am sure i have add, and am trying to decide if i want to take ritalin.. i am interested in your experiance in taking it, how it effected your life.
your thinking abilities, etc.. thanks.
purps.
-
-
-
6
Ex has gone to Convention with my kids
by cyberdyne systems 101 ini dont know why, but this has left me feeling angry.. it could be that normally i go and pick them up to take them to school on this morning.
i think its more than likely that i know they are staying there in a hotel and that part of things will be made fun for my children - not that i have a problem with that, its because its coupled with the knowledge that they will be associating it with going to a jw convention, and all that will be is an indoctrination session and self praise for the society.. whilst i think the children will see things from both sides, from me no longer being a jw and living a typical non jw life, and then with their mother (who is a good woman) who is a devoted dub, i think the control techniques and cult thinking and propagander are designed to place mental barriers to which someone like me should be unable to penetrate.
whether in practice that turns out to be so, we'll have to let to time show.. its just so frustrating to think someone can be so blinded, and suck up everything thats spouted out from the leaders, and try their very best to bring their children up with that too.
-
-
milligal
You don't even know how much I have been feeling the same thing. My child now lives with his JW dad after the first deven years with me. I handed over custody voluntarily-well sort of voluntarily, I was basically harassed, followed and taken to court once a month until I ran out of money and resources anyway....
My son just came down for summer visitation and he is being such a little borg. Not his fault; and we expected it, but how disapointing everytime they return from the witness ex's to be so judgemental and holier than thou. It makes me angry, because I constantly have to figure out how much of it is being a kid and how much of it is from the brainwashing. My son always becomes balanced again, but it takes so much effort and skill (in a way) to help him adjust to normal life again.
I feel your pain....
-
59
Worst Rules
by DoomVoyager inwhat are the worst rules you've ever heard being dispensed from the platform?
"christians do not dance to ymca, as it promotes homosexuality.
"hairstyles that defy gravity also defy joe hoobie.
-
-
milligal
I don't know if anyone has said this one yet; but I heard from the platform that witnesses can never fully love their worldly mates because loving Jehovah is the biggest thing they have to share, if they can't share it with their mates, it will never be a truly close union. The drive was to put pressure on worldly mates to conform.
That is THE stupidest thing to say ever. Talk about tearing family's apart, nothing is ever good enough for them; they have to have complete mind control.
-
23
playing along with the disfellowshipped game
by milligal inmy son has come to stay with me for the summer, and this morning i got a phone call which showed on the caller id as my son's grandparents (my jw ex's parents who are also jw).
i assumed it was my ex calling from their house and answered handing the phone to my son.
that's when i heard his grandma's voice on the phone.
-
-
milligal
That's the thing-especially when you're raised JW it seems like part of your psyche. You simply accept this is the way things are just like the sky is blue- a fact of life. Then once you break away, it takes this whole process to undo. When kids are involved it's even more challenging because you have to face the df'ing issue everytime your child does-after every meeting, every parenting visit, every assembly....that's why it's such an accomplishment for those who have decided not to accept those rules any longer...
-
28
growing up witness
by milligal ini grew up a witness and i never felt bad about my lack of material belongings a.k.a.
not having nice clothes in school, it didn't bother me that the other first graders were stuffing their faces with birthday cupcakes and i was in the school library researching fossils; but what did bother me?
my cool cousins.
-
-
milligal
justhuman-I am really sorry to hear about what you have been through and I know your pain. My husband also quit school because of being forbidden by his mother to attend college. In our case the happy ending was that he finished his highschool diploma later in life and is now in college. But it has been rough, and I certainly know that with kids and three jobs it is nearly impossible to get your education. I do hope you find a happy ending, even if it is giving your children what you did not get-freedom to have an education and career. Best wishes.
-
28
I thought you might enjoy (or puke) the daily text .....
by New light for you inso ladies and gentlemen..... i was going to throw out my daily text, then just decided to read todays.
now i know i'm going to throw it out, but first, lets share in jehobahs (gb) spirit, shall we?.
wednesday june 18th.
-
-
milligal
I choose puke.
That brings back memories....and not good ones.
-
23
playing along with the disfellowshipped game
by milligal inmy son has come to stay with me for the summer, and this morning i got a phone call which showed on the caller id as my son's grandparents (my jw ex's parents who are also jw).
i assumed it was my ex calling from their house and answered handing the phone to my son.
that's when i heard his grandma's voice on the phone.
-
-
milligal
jamiebowers: My sister responded the same way-they do have some nerve. I have been around the 'legal' block on this one and unfortunately now is not the time for a religious debate in the courtroom-at least not with the judge I currently have. I am studying pre-law so once through law school you can bet I'll play every card available
sacolton: good for you, and...the other thing was kinda funny : )
Thechickenest: thank you, I really needed to hear that! It is so good to have the support of others who understand. I hope that this is a stepping stone for me.
-
28
growing up witness
by milligal ini grew up a witness and i never felt bad about my lack of material belongings a.k.a.
not having nice clothes in school, it didn't bother me that the other first graders were stuffing their faces with birthday cupcakes and i was in the school library researching fossils; but what did bother me?
my cool cousins.
-
-
milligal
Asimpleservant: I think I understand what you are getting at. I think another aspect of this topic is that -while the JW way of doing things did convince people-it typically convinced people who were simple in a likeminded way-not educated or 'down and out'. When you think about the countries that JW's have the most success in, it's always the third world countries where people have nothing else and are easily swayed to believe something better.
Maybe you picked up some good tips, maybe we are the strong ones who survived and moved on, but I wouldn't credit the JW mindmelt too much for that. They simply took advantage of emotionally needy people. That's not a good thing.
I'm glad you got yourself to a good place in your life and that you had the courage to do it at a young age.
-
23
playing along with the disfellowshipped game
by milligal inmy son has come to stay with me for the summer, and this morning i got a phone call which showed on the caller id as my son's grandparents (my jw ex's parents who are also jw).
i assumed it was my ex calling from their house and answered handing the phone to my son.
that's when i heard his grandma's voice on the phone.
-
-
milligal
My son has come to stay with me for the summer, and this morning I got a phone call which showed on the caller ID as my son's grandparents (my JW ex's parents who are also JW). I assumed it was my ex calling from their house and answered handing the phone to my son. That's when I heard his grandma's voice on the phone. This is what makes the story interesting: when I call her home to find my son, she NEVER answers the phone, sometimes her husband will, but she ignores my phone calls. My son has only been at my house for about 5 days into his summer break and already she called....
After their conversation I started thinking about this; why am I not allowed to call her house to speak to my own son, yet she can call my home without batting an eye? So I picked up the phone and called her-expecting to get the answering machine, but she actually answered, maybe thinking it was my son calling. I simply told her I had a quick question for her-I asked her why when I call her home she never picks up the phone, but then she feels free to call me to talk to my son.....she stuttuered for a moment and then said-'whenever you call I listen to the message and if it's important I pass it on'. I said 'you are welcome to call my home and talk to my son anytime, but I want the same respect in return, that's all I had to to talk to you about' and I hung up. I kept it calm, (I was surprisingly nervous) and slow and respectful, but I put her on the spot all the same.
This led me to question whether those of us that have been programmed into the JW ways, sometimes unknowingly, unwittingly play along with the whole 'you're df'd and shouldn't be treated with respect' game. This is the FIRST time (in 7 years!) I have ever confronted someone in the process of shunning me and asked them to explain themselves. I think she was as surprised as I was nervous. I know this is automatic for so many of us-but why should we go along? Do I need to feel bad that I'm making her uncomfortable by talking to her even though I'm df'd? Why doesn't she feel uncomfortable talking to me after her son beat me for five years?
Why should we assume that we understand why they are behaving the way that they do? Why should we continue dancing this dance with them? Anyone else have a story to share?
-
28
growing up witness
by milligal ini grew up a witness and i never felt bad about my lack of material belongings a.k.a.
not having nice clothes in school, it didn't bother me that the other first graders were stuffing their faces with birthday cupcakes and i was in the school library researching fossils; but what did bother me?
my cool cousins.
-
-
milligal
That's really the point isn't it-not that JW ruined your life forever, but that you couldn't start living your life until you left. You had to trade in friends and family for your freedom to operate as an individual. That's not right. It's not right to raise a girl as I was, that she has no opportunity/support/encouragement to go to school or have a career all you had was to marry some nice witness guy and pionner. Not that I didn't finally get to where I wanted in life, but it was after a lot of pain and unneccessary suffering.