Hi WKMII -- I don't think they are evil; it is actually they who think i am evil! I looked them in the eye kindly as they were leaving, and said in all sincerity that it was too bad we can't really be friends, as i would be 'bad association' to them. She didn't reassure me that this is not true, they don't look at me that way, etc, she just said nothing.
I have a more personal connection with family members of one of them too. I have welcomed them into my home, entertained them, and spent time talking with them and getting to know and love them. As a matter of fact, because i know and love the kids, this is one of the reasons i did bother to spend all this time with them. -- (OTOH, they don't give my offspring the time of day, have only met her once, never had her in their home, and act like they don't know her when they see her.....) So, yah, sorry, but the fruit thing just felt a little fake/manipulative.
It took all the self control i have to sit there, and have someone in my living room, telling me they would let their kids die before giving them blood! It's one thing to read about it online or in books, but to experience it in reality..... i'm still reeling from it.