"i believe unless a person is born again there is no salvation"
You have eternity, right? So, why not slow down and keep ALL of these thoughts to yourself, UNTIL you have the benefit of having meditated on this topic for a year or so.
When you make statements like the one above, this is what your wife (and JW landlord) are thinking: "This man has been taken over by the demons."
Question: Are you less likely or more likely to influence your wife, if she believes you are posessed by demons?
The answer to that question should dictate your strategy.
Facts/truth/doctrine are not the issue, here. Thought Reform is the issue.