Good post, Eman.
I couldn't agree more with the sentiment that ye olde "I've been stumbled" claim is only dragged out to impose one's will on others. "Do things my way, or I'll say you stumbled me."
I've even known it happen that a male has asked the PO to view the ministry record card of a sister, prior to him proposing marriage.
In my area in the early '90s, brothers and sisters talking to the PO about a prospective mate's service time and meeting attendance almost became the norm. It was like going on a job interview!
Hmmm