Wuz:
No wonder you are peeved... I would be too if I owned the house
Were you a witness? IT seems like there is a lot of pent up anger other than the Truth... separations and divorces are bad enough but when there are religious differences everything is compounded -- holidays, vacations, etc.. is there any way things could be worked out when the kids are not around.. what have the lawyers said? Legally this should all be worked out with schedules being set up so the kids are not feeling the heat of two adults trying to kill each other with their words and anger..pick up times would have to be adhered too--maybe you both could video tape your meetings with each other and play it back to see how it looks to the kids.. I bet they are scared to death... if your husband was being logical, he would not be approaching you in this manner.. after all he is not in charge of where you live anymore ...and neither parent could talk about the other to the children to keep the children upset --and this could be a point of visitation also for both of you.. anger will make you both sick and takes a terrible toll on the body.. this should all be worked out by a lawyer so every one knows their limitations....
As an outsider, I pray you and ex can make it work for the kids..