No, do not go to any elders about your affair. Leave that cult for good. Do not look back. Go on with your life. Get some counseling. Evaluate your own life and your actions. His wife called you a skank. Are you? I think you need to think about it. Become a better person but don't think that will happen by being a JW. Make new friends that aren't skanks.
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Should I go to the elders about the affair?
by weeone ini am a sister that kind of "fell away" from the organization.
i felt that i wasn't accepted by my brothers and sisters (long, long story).
whatever i did i wasn't "perfect" enough.
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The Day you Knew.....Armaggeddon was Here!
by OUTLAW ini`m a dubkid,i was raised in a crazy cult,the jehovah`s witness`s........death and destruction were constant topics of the day.........................you heard it every day,then you went to meetings and heard more of the same thing..........................one of my first children`s books was "paradise lost to paradise regained"..mom wanted me to have a nice big book,with lots of pictures of death and destruction!...............................i feared armageddon everyday............when i was about 7 or 8,i remember walking home from school..and....we had a huge thunder storm!..sheets of rain!..lightning bolts lite up the sky!..and..the thunder was deafining!................i was frigg`n scared!..armageddon was here!
!.......................do you remember the day,"you knew armageddon was here?!
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Oh, Outlaw! Wow! I don't remember the concentration camp stories. Thank God I was spared that one. I remember Paradise Lost though.
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A witness dinner- Puts on Samuel Herds {Gov.body} talk I nearly choked!
by Witness 007 invisiting my mum she made me go to my first meeting in years.
a brother i studied with invites me to dinner....nice change i thought!
rumor has it that i have become in-active....true!
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I'm well aware of how emotionally persuasive mothers can be! Even so, each son or daughter will have their personal limits on how much compliance their mother can extract from them!
That is very, very true and it applies to many situations, not just JW stuff. You have to set your own limits of what you will take as an adult.
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how do you prove to a JW that they they were wrong about 1975?I
by paybacktime19 ini need written proof in their own publications ..
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Terry,
Great post. You really summed it up well. I'm a little younger than you so I was a child/teenager when all of this crap was going on. I had already left before 1975 but my family still attended meetings and assemblies at least part-time. My younger sister was terrified when September 5, 1975 approached. My family went to the next convention. I think my father wanted to hear what their explanation was for the 1975 fiasco. My understanding is that no explanation was mentioned and he never attended another meeting.
My father had been a Jehovah's Witness for about 22 years at that time. He had served as an elder in 2 different congregations and had headed the building of a Kingdom Hall for one of those congregations. As 1975 approached my father seemed to become more and more disillusioned. We had moved to a 3rd city in 1967 and he never attained the title of elder at that congregation. But 1975 was the end for him. My sister still has nightmares about 1975.
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My grieving process
by OnTheWayOut inperhaps my personal thoughts will help someone else.. even if they don't, they help me to write them.
feel free to .
in my life treated me like it was wrong of me to examine my core beliefs and .
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Way Out,
You're thoughts have helped me. I have gone through the same feelings as you. Some of it was a long time ago but I remember. It sounds like you are doing well. Don't leave us entirely. Check back in and let us know how you're doing. I know from my own personal experience that it takes a lot longer to heal than you might think. But you are well on the way. It is a process. I hope things work out really well with your wife in all respects.
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Hey! Guess what!
by Lady Zombie indid you know that i have really smelly dog poop constantly on my shoes whenever i go to a making-the-folks-happy meeting?.
you're wrong.. see, i never could figure out why a few of the so-called brothers and sisters would look at me with a really weird look on their faces.
it was a combination of disapproval, disgust, and offense.
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So they're still good at that "dog poop" look, huh! Things haven't changed much since I left. I think they train for that on Thursday nights.
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Ray Franz emailed me today
by Mickey mouse insorry to name drop.
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here's a question: if i wrote a letter to any of the current governing body members, what chance would i have of receiving a personal reply?
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Awakened at Gilead,
Thanks, I have ordered it on Amazon. He "left" after I did. I can't wait to read it.
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Ray Franz emailed me today
by Mickey mouse insorry to name drop.
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here's a question: if i wrote a letter to any of the current governing body members, what chance would i have of receiving a personal reply?
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When did Ray Franz leave WTS? I remember him from back in the very early 70s. I'm sure he spoke at a convention that I was at. Everyone was so excited that he was there.
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Nervous break down because of being a JW?
by easyreader1970 ini know it's sometimes hard to pinpoint causes of things when there could be several potential causes.
i am wondering if anyone here knows anyone (or maybe you yourself) who has had a nervous breakdown directly or indirectly because of being associated with the jehovah's witnesses.
i am not on the verge yet, i don't feel like, but then again maybe these things just snap in a person.
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Yes, I knew a man about 36-37 years ago that had a nervous breakdown and had to be hospitalized directly related to JW. I left the JWs not too long after that. It would not surprise me at all if there were many.
I also have a cousin that is paranoid schizophrenic. I absolutely believe that being a JW contributed to her mental health collapse and her lack of getting any help or support from her family. She lives now as a homeless person.
I have another cousin that was a Bethelite. Some years ago he was DF. He has been a chronic alcoholic ever since and has been married several times and had several other affairs. He has never maintained a stable relationship since then.
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From Know It All Religon to a simple Know It All?
by AllTimeJeff ini was just curious for those of you who have left for at least a little time if you look back on yourself when you first left the borg and had this happen; because you were suddenly free to think, you thought you were right about most things soon after you left........ my jw experience groomed in me a disposition that i was always right.
that personality trait didn't leave just because i left jw's.
i realized one day last year that i thought in much the same ways i did as a jw, that is, i never questioned my own assumptions.. we were told that jw's were "the most educated people on earth".
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Their world view is very, very narrow. That's one of the best and exciting things about getting out. You can now go out and experience and see it all. There's nothing to stop you. The world is beautiful place with wondrous sights and mostly wonderful people. Open your mind, your eyes and your heart!