JW's are molded through the Borg mindset to be egoists and more accurately narcissists. Worldly people are beneath them. The witnesses have superior knowledge and belong to God's only earthly organization.
Plus, they have to think highly of themselves because to acknowledge what they really are would be depressing.
Many are depressed because they realize that they are not happy within the borg and instead of placing the blame on the WTBTS itself they take the blame solely. The borg then reinforces that preception.
Unfortunately, some come out of the borg with that same egoist attitude and the entitlement mindset of government should provide all things to me. It is understandable because that is what the borg purports that God's new governement will do.
It is hard to break through that frame of mind once it has been hardened, glazed and fired into an individual.
But if you are a Dub, then you are afforded enhanced stature based on your rank within the borg, which is what your wife observed.
MTM