Posts by hybridous

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Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier

by new boy in

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friends

i'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.

not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.

however i didn't lose my children.

hybridous

I would strongly encourage you to apologize to your son, to the degree that you feel comfortable. By acknowledging his anger you'll help him move past that. If you don't acknowledge his anger, he's going to stay angry most likely, and that will impede your ability to have a relationship with him. You did play a part in raising him, and it's clear that you feel regret and some responsibility. Just tell him that.

This is good stuff.

Anger and resentment serve a purpose. They are a normal and healthy response to threats to our well-being.

Serving a childhood sentence in this miserable CULT certainly qualifies.

The son is entitled to his feelings and they need to be acknowledged and validated before he can choose to start moving past them.

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Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier

by new boy in

jw
friends

i'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.

not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.

however i didn't lose my children.

hybridous

Yeah - I have a lot of resentment toward my parents. One is deceased, the other is fully indoctrinated.

I can't forgive their shitty decisions. They don't/can't even acknowledge that they did anything wrong!

New boy, you at least have that starting place with your son. It's something. It's better than nothing - which is what many of us have with our families.

You have offered your son something I've wished for...for years.

Something I will likely never get.

You've done the right thing by your son. I hope that before too long you can both takes steps forward in your lives together.

Keep trying with him. And keep us posted on your progress. Good luck.

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My Reflections On a Year of Freedom

by Saethydd in

in late may 2017, i told my parents how i really felt about the religion they had raised me in, and by early june i was out of their house.

i've done a lot since then.

i let my hair and beard grow out a bit.

hybridous

If you cannot be honest with someone about who are and what you want, are they really your friend anyway?

This was the bomb, right here.

Knowing that I didn't have real friends inside there is what helped make it manageable to leave. It kind of...lowered the cost.

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Why can't Scarlett Johansson play a transgender character?!

by LoveUniHateExams in

scarlett johansson was cast to play a transgender role in some film or another.. recently she pulled out.

i don't know whether she jumped or was pushed but trans activists, despite claiming to represent only 0.3% of the population, have quite a powerful voice.. do they want a trans actor to play the trans role, is that it?.

if scarlett johansson shouldn't play a trans role, does that mean a trans actor shouldn't play a cis role?.

hybridous

I agree.

Did you ever see Neil Patrick Harris play Barney Stinson? Freaking masterful!

Ought we have missed these performances because Mr. Harris is just a gay man, and not a real-life, hetero serial womanizer?

I'd hate to be leaving real talent on the sidelines because of 'other considerations'. What a waste it would be...

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Cotton wool jws

by purrpurr in

there was a talk i heard recently given by a top bethel bro, he was complaining that the type of young jws that have been joining bethel in recent years has been totally unfit for work or even life.

he called them "cotton wool jws" as he says that the parents of these young ones have kept them so sheltered from life that by the time they are of age to strike out on their own they are completely unable to cope socially, emotionally, mentally and that they have no practical life's skills or instincts of common sense or responsibility.

he said that the brothers at bethel have to work at peeling off the layers of cotton wool these ones have come wrapped in and that often when exposed to the reality of life away from mummy they quite literally go running back home.. for once i actually agree with a brother on the platform, i've met many a young teen or young adult whose life has been one long warm bath as it were.

hybridous

So these young folks are rendered exactly as the ORG has demanded them?

That's how I'm reading it, anyways....

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Screwed up sexually

by purrpurr in

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friends

i was thinking about how the borg screws up and sexually neuters their flock by telling them when single to "deaden their body" and then boom as soon as there's a ring on the finger to not be denying eachother.. do any of you know of jws who have been screwed up by these teachings?

i know 2, 1 elder came back from honeymoon having a nervous breakdown unable to cope with the cd that sex produced in his head.

and the other called up her parents while on honeymoon, crying and begging for themto come and get her, since she was so shocked that sex hurt.

hybridous

Do any of you know of jws who have been screwed up by these teachings?

Yes, me. Then again, I owe my existence to these teachings - my parents brought together by these frustrations...

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tommy Robinson --update

by zeb in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rk8b_xqi_nm.

this is self explanatory.

please if you are in a commonwealth country write /phone /fax your local member to support tr release from his current place of imprisonment.. you may not receive any reply but do so anyway.

hybridous

The only reason that we know the name 'Timothy McVeigh'...

...is that he is/was...the outlier, not the rule.

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Moving Back to Chicago - Don't care

by LevelThePlayingField in

my wife was diagnosed with ms about two years ago.

we have been living in ohio for the last 5 years but were recently assigned to a new congregation because of the dissolving and sale of our congregation/kh.

my wife's symptoms spiked after being relocated to our new hall back in january.

hybridous

I like the advice all or nothing and OTWO gave...

Leave behind the JW life and just see how much better life feels for both of you - without all the unnecessary stress.

Moving is a great opportunity to get out of the cult, either cold turkey or a rapid fade. Wish you the best and better, brighter days ahead.

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If the Gov. where you live outlawed the JWs would you turn in your family?

by blownaway in

i guess it would depend for me.

some of my family i would take out bill boards pointing to them.

many of the elders it would be he is over there and set off a neon sign.

hybridous

No, I could never directly cause a negative law enforcement encounter in such a paradigm.

In fact, I'd hope such a situation would cause my insane cult family to take a step back, and ease up on the strident cultiness.

If they stupidly persisted in their religious behaviour and caused their own law enforcement encounter - well, that's on them. I'd loathe living in such a society, anyways - and I would never rat and cause someone to lose their liberty for shitty reasons.

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The biggest news of the year for Mr. and Mrs. Totally ADD

by Still Totally ADD in

jw
friends

this is bigger than christmas and birthdays wrap into one.

thanks to the australian royal commission our youngest son has woke up.

we received a e-mail from him tonight where he apologized to us for shunning us all these years, how bad he felt for doing this.

hybridous

So happy for you and yours! May this be just one among many. Congrats, and keep us posted on the progression of things.

Nothing better than a lost child found.