And I hope lurkers are reading this and taking it all in.
If you are a JW parent and wondering about leaving vs staying and how it may play out with the kids...behold.
It is unlikely that your kids will thank you for raising them in a cult.
The very minute you realize that this 'religion' is a dangerous scam, and you admit to yourself that you don't believe it...should be the last minute that kids are made to endure this shit.
Yes, I know this is an oversimplification and exits need to be planned and such, but you get my meaning.
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Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier
by new boy ini'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.
not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.
however i didn't lose my children.
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Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier
by new boy ini'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.
not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.
however i didn't lose my children.
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This is good stuff.I would strongly encourage you to apologize to your son, to the degree that you feel comfortable. By acknowledging his anger you'll help him move past that. If you don't acknowledge his anger, he's going to stay angry most likely, and that will impede your ability to have a relationship with him. You did play a part in raising him, and it's clear that you feel regret and some responsibility. Just tell him that.
Anger and resentment serve a purpose. They are a normal and healthy response to threats to our well-being.
Serving a childhood sentence in this miserable CULT certainly qualifies.
The son is entitled to his feelings and they need to be acknowledged and validated before he can choose to start moving past them. -
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Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier
by new boy ini'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.
not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.
however i didn't lose my children.
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Yeah - I have a lot of resentment toward my parents. One is deceased, the other is fully indoctrinated.
I can't forgive their shitty decisions. They don't/can't even acknowledge that they did anything wrong!
New boy, you at least have that starting place with your son. It's something. It's better than nothing - which is what many of us have with our families.
You have offered your son something I've wished for...for years.
Something I will likely never get.
You've done the right thing by your son. I hope that before too long you can both takes steps forward in your lives together.
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My Reflections On a Year of Freedom
by Saethydd inin late may 2017, i told my parents how i really felt about the religion they had raised me in, and by early june i was out of their house.
i've done a lot since then.
i let my hair and beard grow out a bit.
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If you cannot be honest with someone about who are and what you want, are they really your friend anyway?
This was the bomb, right here.
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Why can't Scarlett Johansson play a transgender character?!
by LoveUniHateExams inscarlett johansson was cast to play a transgender role in some film or another.. recently she pulled out.
i don't know whether she jumped or was pushed but trans activists, despite claiming to represent only 0.3% of the population, have quite a powerful voice.. do they want a trans actor to play the trans role, is that it?.
if scarlett johansson shouldn't play a trans role, does that mean a trans actor shouldn't play a cis role?.
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I agree.
Did you ever see Neil Patrick Harris play Barney Stinson? Freaking masterful!
Ought we have missed these performances because Mr. Harris is just a gay man, and not a real-life, hetero serial womanizer?
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Cotton wool jws
by purrpurr inthere was a talk i heard recently given by a top bethel bro, he was complaining that the type of young jws that have been joining bethel in recent years has been totally unfit for work or even life.
he called them "cotton wool jws" as he says that the parents of these young ones have kept them so sheltered from life that by the time they are of age to strike out on their own they are completely unable to cope socially, emotionally, mentally and that they have no practical life's skills or instincts of common sense or responsibility.
he said that the brothers at bethel have to work at peeling off the layers of cotton wool these ones have come wrapped in and that often when exposed to the reality of life away from mummy they quite literally go running back home.. for once i actually agree with a brother on the platform, i've met many a young teen or young adult whose life has been one long warm bath as it were.
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Screwed up sexually
by purrpurr ini was thinking about how the borg screws up and sexually neuters their flock by telling them when single to "deaden their body" and then boom as soon as there's a ring on the finger to not be denying eachother.. do any of you know of jws who have been screwed up by these teachings?
i know 2, 1 elder came back from honeymoon having a nervous breakdown unable to cope with the cd that sex produced in his head.
and the other called up her parents while on honeymoon, crying and begging for themto come and get her, since she was so shocked that sex hurt.
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Do any of you know of jws who have been screwed up by these teachings?
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tommy Robinson --update
by zeb inhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rk8b_xqi_nm.
this is self explanatory.
please if you are in a commonwealth country write /phone /fax your local member to support tr release from his current place of imprisonment.. you may not receive any reply but do so anyway.
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The only reason that we know the name 'Timothy McVeigh'...
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Moving Back to Chicago - Don't care
by LevelThePlayingField inmy wife was diagnosed with ms about two years ago.
we have been living in ohio for the last 5 years but were recently assigned to a new congregation because of the dissolving and sale of our congregation/kh.
my wife's symptoms spiked after being relocated to our new hall back in january.
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I like the advice all or nothing and OTWO gave...
Leave behind the JW life and just see how much better life feels for both of you - without all the unnecessary stress.
Moving is a great opportunity to get out of the cult, either cold turkey or a rapid fade. Wish you the best and better, brighter days ahead. -
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If the Gov. where you live outlawed the JWs would you turn in your family?
by blownaway ini guess it would depend for me.
some of my family i would take out bill boards pointing to them.
many of the elders it would be he is over there and set off a neon sign.
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No, I could never directly cause a negative law enforcement encounter in such a paradigm.
In fact, I'd hope such a situation would cause my insane cult family to take a step back, and ease up on the strident cultiness.
If they stupidly persisted in their religious behaviour and caused their own law enforcement encounter - well, that's on them. I'd loathe living in such a society, anyways - and I would never rat and cause someone to lose their liberty for shitty reasons.