Posts by trebor

even with the society's whitewashing and trying to make him look like one who was part of the seven trumpet blasts in revelation, i could not stand the guy.

Stole my thoughts...Rutherford is the worst of the lot, but without Russell there would have been no Ruitherford or even Witnesses. I wonder how things would have ended up for any (all) of us if Jehovah's Witnesses never existed. Would would be a part of another cult organization, or with one of the "mainstream" religions, something else?

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How Long Have you Been Out of the Witnesses ? Have you Moved On ?

by flipper in

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i have been out over 5 years now.

i feel we all start healing at different speeds depending on how much hurt we went through in exiting ; and how much we've educated ourselves about how and why we were sucked in by a mind control cult.

at first i felt anger towards the organization , but after learning about mind control within 3 years of leaving the cult i felt sorry for those who are still trapped inside the witnesses being deceived.

trebor

Don,

Sorry to read of the truamatizing expereince. It is one of the things I worry about my family members that are trapped in the organization. The belief that my wife and me will be destroyed ("soon").

I feel bad especially for my mother with respects to that. For a mother to believe such a horrid fate awaits their child must be gut wrentching. Ditto for my siblings who think their eldest brother is going to be zapped/crushed/drowned or whatever for not being a part of the Jehovah's Witnesses organization.

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How Long Have you Been Out of the Witnesses ? Have you Moved On ?

by flipper in

jw
friends

i have been out over 5 years now.

i feel we all start healing at different speeds depending on how much hurt we went through in exiting ; and how much we've educated ourselves about how and why we were sucked in by a mind control cult.

at first i felt anger towards the organization , but after learning about mind control within 3 years of leaving the cult i felt sorry for those who are still trapped inside the witnesses being deceived.

trebor

My wife and I “officially” disassociated ourselves in May 2008. This was after what I recognize as years of having doubts but putting it off as “Waiting on Jehovah”, “Where Else To Go”, “Best Religion Out There” mentality. The months prior to May 2008, I did intense research which originally started with trying to understand the blood stance by the Society – which led to Organ Transplants – and then the rape stance. After bringing the information to my wife, she knew the organization was wrong too. We reached out to our family via a mini-book which assisted my wife's parents to leave the organization, but my side of the family – Parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc…have all shunned us. The exception is my father who “kind of” talks to me every now and then.

I don’t think I will ever “completely” move on. I believe the reasons are several:

1. The aforementioned family members still a part of the organization.

2. The impact it had and the amount of years I was a part of it.

3. The need to want to help others who are genuinely good people understand the organization for what it is.

I realize now that a lot of it was me not thinking it through completely or/and being cognitive dissonant. Factor that with the conscious and subconscious notion of shunning, the ideals that (eternal) life is lost, and all the other mind-controlling techniques utilized, it helped me understand myself, my family and many other things much clearer now.

I also understand now while despite being fairly intelligent I did poorly in history and the sciences, although excellent in math and reading. The history and science I learned and had the opportunity to learn about would have easily disproven many of the false notions and beliefs I held.

Anyhow, this is a great topic and looking forward to reading more responses.