I was a second generation Jehovah's Witness. Raised in the organization, baptized at 15, and an MS for ~12 years. When I realize what the organization is (At best no different than any other religion, at worst a destructive cult), I had to stand for truth and honesty above all else.
I am married without children and studied with my wife's parents for years to bring them into the religion. My parents, brother, two sisters, and entire mother's side of the family are JWs. My father side of the family for the most part was cut out of my JW family lives a long time ago for the obvious reasoning of them not being JWs.
Regardless, my plan was to present the truth about the organization to my wife first and the rest of the family (Parents and siblings) simultaneously thereafter and whatever the result...Even if I lost everyone, I had to stand for truth and honesty. Indeed, the facts and history of the organizations current doctrinal problems, history, among other things needed to be known to those I loved most. Additionally, one of the huge problems I have with the organization was the hypocrisy I educated myself about...And I could not be a hypocrite myself - which I felt I would be if I remained in the organization. I am not speaking for others, just about me and how I felt about the situation.
The results?
My wife and her parents were able to see the truth about the organization and left it along with me.
My parents, siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins all shun me now. My father talks/talked to me a few times, but the last time was close two 2 months ago (It use to be bi-weekly to monthly). Anyhow, for my parents and other members they have been in it for over 35 years. I understand why they stay in it and even refused to listen or read anything I provided to them. My father, I believe knows all I have said and shown him is true, but can't leave for the sake of my mother who has centered and focused her whole life to obedience to the organization. In her mind, loyalty to Watchtower Society = loyalty to God. I understand the stand they are taking, but still hope someday they will come to their senses and be able to break free of the indoctrination they have and continue to receive...Probably not, but I remain hopeful. My motto for this situation is to hope for the best, but expect the worst.
Nonetheless, for me it is the best thing I have ever done, and do not regret the decision. I am so happy, grateful, and appreciative that when my wife and I have children that they will not be raised in the organization and be more educated and have more choices in life than what I was limited to or had fears about. Furthermore, right now our marriage, happiness and joy have never been more evident in our lives since we disassociated ourselves. My wife and I, as well as mother and father-in-law have been more relaxed, at peace, and joyful since leaving the organization of Jehovah's Witnesses.
I am understanding to those who are or remain a Jehovah's Witness, despite not necessarily agreeing with the person's choice.
