Um, yeah. When you have a set of rules that imperfect humans are doomed not to be able to live up to, it creates a culture in which pointing out others "wrongs" thrives, since the more you snitch, the more those in charge are looking at others and not you.
Ilovebirthdays
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Is Being A Snitch A Popular Activity In The Kingdub?
by Yizuman inhow often do dubs hear someone snitch about a wrong doing from a brother or sister?.
how often do you hear of a snitch going to the elders to stir up a lynch mentality against a brother or sister?.
is there some points being earned for all this or do they think jehovah will reward them for being a snitch?.
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Did You're Being A Witness Influence You Regarding Marriage or Being Single?
by minimus indid you get married or stay single because you were a jehovah's witness?.
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Ilovebirthdays
Hmm, good question. I know it influenced me in the way that I had 4 broken engagements before I finally married DH. I didn't get married until my mid-20's, which, as you all know made me an old maid in Witness terms. I was horribly unhappy, and looking to get out from under my family's iron rule, and would be flattered with the attention from a Witness boy, and get excited about the big emotional high from getting engaged, and pretty much turn around the next day and be physically sick from the realization that not only did I not love the person, I probably didn't even like him much, and certainly didn't respect him, and knew I'd just be trading one bad situation for another if I married them.
I guess it was quite the emotional rollercoaster at the time, but I really feel quite fortunate in the fact that by the time I got married, I'd finally gotten enough courage to leave, hence marrying a non-Witness, and not having to deal with the enormous problems of leaving and still having a spouse and/or children still in "the Truth". I have immense respect and empathy reading the stories from people on here in that situation, and can't imagine having to deal with that. I know I would not have been strong enough to deal with that also. Plus, I got the added bonus of having a wonderful, loving, caring husband who has helped me through a lot.
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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Ilovebirthdays
Duh, I'm sorry, I'm sick and sleep-deprived, and read it as telling my sister how I felt. I always tell people in that situation, just keeping it brief and calm, and that really is quite an effective tool, which leads to them asking more questions, and getting a good overall glimpse into the ugly side of the religion that they haven't seen. I'm off to crawl under a rock now. Or maybe get some caffeine to jolt me into making sense.
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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Ilovebirthdays
Glad you're feeling better today, homeschool.
No, I didn't tell her, jamiebowers. Right after they got married they moved away to where the need was greater. I am guessing I will never talk to her again. I've only talked to her twice since I left 11 years ago, and only because I ran into her while out and about. She has never met my children, who are now 3 and 5. TBH, it would be like talking to a brick wall anyway. I have used my family situation as an effective "witness" about the witnesses to several people who don't know that much about the religion, and view it as a group of nice, but harmlessly misguided people, and I know it has given them a different view.
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I'm making an anniversary gift & it makes me sad
by homeschool init's my sister's 10th anniversary this friday, and i got all gung ho with making a cd with baby pics through wedding day for both she and her husband.
but as i was getting finished making it, a flood of memories came back as to how i was not only not in my big sister's wedding, but i was barely even invited because i was having jw doubts at the time.
grrrrrrr, kinda left me in a sad mood..... i get so angry at the borg for making both my sisters exclude me from their weddings .
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Ilovebirthdays
I know how you feel. My sister just got married, and I wasn't invited, like I figured, and was dealing with it just fine until I ran into a worldly ex-teacher of hers who was at her wedding and wanted to know why I wasn't.
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Your Best Excuse(s) To Weasel Out Of Going Door To Door
by Yizuman inso what did you do to get out of this door to door from time to time as a dub?.
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Ilovebirthdays
I sprained my ankle multiple times on purpose. I'm surprised nobody figured it out, it was that many times. (I can't say I advise this route, as I'm paying the price by always having an ankle that hurts at a relatively young age.)
I was also fortunate(?) enough to have SVT, a condidtion in which your heart beats hundreds of times a minute and makes you pass out. I pretended to have episodes of that way more than I actually had that happen. I was smart enough to make it to a few doors before having an "episode" so as not to look like I was trying to get out of FS.
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JW School K-12 I went
by outofservice inthe jw academy post brought back my memories of going to a school run by jw's in the late 70's in hollywood fla. i went for 4 and 5 th grade.
i t was quite odd and i do believe i have suppressed most of my memories of it.
has anybody else ever heard of such a thing ?
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Ilovebirthdays
I'm so glad none of those existed when I was growning up in my area. Homeschooling was a big deal, and I was VERY fortunate in the fact that my father was "unable" (read too lazy) to work, and my mom had to work full-time, so I got sent to a public school. Almost everyone else in the hall was homeschooled, i.e. drug out in service every day. I know one of the homeschoolers was fired from a cashier job for not being able to make basic change, and I'm guessing the others aren't doing much better.
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My story in the Monticello Times
by Shepherd Book ini took the advice of some here and "went to the press".
here's the resulting article: http://www.monticellotimes.com/articles/2009/04/09/community/879zimmerman.txt.
i think it turned out rather well..
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Ilovebirthdays
What a great article. I think articles that are well-written and balanced like that make the most impact with people who don't know what JW's are about. Good for you for sharing!
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What Were Your Consequences For Leaving The "Truth"???
by minimus inwas it as bad as everyone says, that if you leave the organization, you'll go back to the world, get into trouble and suffer?.
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Ilovebirthdays
I lost :
Family
"Friends"
Ulcers
Social Phobia
Depression
I gained:
A wonderful, loving husband that I am not ashamed to announce is mine
2 happy, healthy children that will get to experience sports, dances, college, etc
In-laws that do everything they can to give my children and I love, attention, support and holidays.
Friends who are there for me all the time, not just if I do what they say.
Happiness
Birthdays (Yes, I love them as much as my name indicates)
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So what happened in 1995?
by RaraAvis ini keep reading about new light or some big change in 1995. i left in 92, so what is everyone referring to?.
ra.
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Ilovebirthdays
This whole topic amuses me, because I was still a JW in 95, and was not even in fade mode. I heard 1914 was no longer 1914, but thought that it had happened after I left in 1998. It just makes me realize how adept I was at tuning everything out. I guess after a lifetime of doing it, you become a pro.