Posts by Cadellin

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What can I do when I feel i can't keep going....

by Free!! in

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friends

i have been having an awful week/month/year/life and i just feel like i can not move forward anymore... is like life is passing me by and i am just observing from the side lines.... i am so tired, i just want to sleep and never wake up..... has anyone felt like this?

i tried therapy (twice) an it did not work, i tried volunteering and surrounding myself with other people and things to do, and it works until i have to come home, then that feeling of emptiness returns.... .

i am so tired... i do not know what else to do.... .

Cadellin

Talesin, I'd forgotten how much I love Desiderata. Thank you for posting that.

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What can I do when I feel i can't keep going....

by Free!! in

jw
friends

i have been having an awful week/month/year/life and i just feel like i can not move forward anymore... is like life is passing me by and i am just observing from the side lines.... i am so tired, i just want to sleep and never wake up..... has anyone felt like this?

i tried therapy (twice) an it did not work, i tried volunteering and surrounding myself with other people and things to do, and it works until i have to come home, then that feeling of emptiness returns.... .

i am so tired... i do not know what else to do.... .

Cadellin

Free, I went through the same thing when I was waking up a few years ago. I saw a therapist--a good, competent therapist--and she got me on Zoloft. A very low dose, I might add, but oh, wow, what a difference it made. Any doctor worth her salt will take your symptoms seriously and get you on meds if you need them. There's no shame in it. My depression is caused by a seratonin deficiency. If you have something like that, all the homemade measures in the world MAY NOT be enough to help. That's not to say they can't help somewhat, but it may not be enough.

Physical activity is also a huge boost. Take your dogs, get outside, and run until you sweat and think you'll die from the pain. Then walk for a while. Then run again. Do this until you're exhausted. Oh, get yourself some good running shoes. REgular exercise releases endorphins which make you feel so much better. Plus, you firm up and end up looking great, which makes you feel better all the way around. Plus, your dogs will love you for it!

You might also want to try yoga. I think another poster suggested meditation. Well, yoga is like meditation along with body movements and its really fantastic for feeling good about yourself.

Take care of yourself, please. You are the only you you'll ever have! And we care, here on the board. We do.

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Telling family / friends about researching JW religion

by dozy in

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when a jw husband of a friend of mine found out that she had been researching online about jehovah's witnesses , he described it as a "breach of trust" and a legitimate reason to break up the marriage (or at least separate , citing the wtbts "spiritual danger clause").. thankfully my own wife has been more understanding but is this kind of reaction common?

and is it in some way justified on the basis that snooping around online , talking to others on messageboards , not from day one telling one's mate etc is perhaps dishonest?

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Cadellin

I will echo the sentiments already expressed--It's very common to the point of being ubiquitous. I am very careful what I tell my husband. If I say anything critical of the borg, the wall goes up, the shade comes down and the lights go off within his head. I can literally see it happening. It's freaky.

So, we don't go there. He knows how I feel; we've reached detente and I guess this is where it will stay for the time being.

Be careful.

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The impact of Governing Body policy on higher education: read this!

by Terry in

excerpt:.

does your religion affect your income?by mari cockerell, ktxs newsabilene, texas -- the pew forum on religion and public life recently put out the results of a survey on wealth and religion in the united states.. you may be surprised to learn which religious groups in this country have the most and the least wealthy members.an infographic produced by the folks at www.good.is breaks down information gathered by the pew forum on religion and wealth.

it maps out distribution of income for the 14 major religious groups in this country, charting those whose income is less than $30,000 a year all the way up to $100,000+.. what they found is interesting.the religions whose members earn the most money are jews and hindus.

Cadellin

It would be more useful if the survey differentiated b/w Hindus that emmigrated and those born in the US. Those that come to this country are often wealthier to begin with, so that might skew results, even when it comes to 2nd generation kids. As far as LDS, they encourage education--heck, they even have their own University (Brigham Young).

I'm surprised that the college degree rate is as high as it is among JWs, according to that survey. I would have put it at 3-4% for an undergrad degree and around 1% for anything beyond.

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New light emerging?

by breakfast of champions in

so, just recently ( i believe it was the september 1 wt) there was the thought that only the "incorrigibly wicked" will be destroyed at armageddon.

at the recent visit of the co, several times he brought up the idea that the "great crowd" will be far more people than just the 7m jws on earth today.

all my life i was raised thinking only jws would be the gc, and the other 99.9% of humanity would be fertilizer.

Cadellin

There is no doubt that this is a major contradiction in doctrine. The WT has repeatedly put in print their explanation of Ezekiel's vision of the man with the secretary's inkhorn that marked on the forehead those sighing and groaning over the detestable things being done. The mark on the forehead indicating those who would be spared destruction corresponds to modern day baptism into Jehovah's organization. They have stated this unequivocally on more than one occasion, and I'm sure someone (Blondie?) who has easier access to the WT CD could pull up a multitude of citations fairly quickly.

So, if you need the mark on the forehead--supposedly a mark of identity, that everyone can see--to survive (and in Ezekiel's vision, NO ONE survived w/o it) aka public baptism--any supposed "reading of hearts" is meaningless.

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WT Nov. 1, 2011 (public) - When Was Ancient Jerusalem Destroyed - Part 2

by AnnOMaly in

out now.. yes, yes, yessssss!

on p. 26-27 they talk about how the lunar positions on vat 4956 fit 588/7 bce!!!.

"clearly, much of the astronomical data in vat 4956 fits the year 588 b.c.e.

Cadellin

I was speaking to a friend high up in the WTBTS who was talking to a Brooklyn Bethelite about the spurious experience in a Watchtower earlier this year (an Ethiopian schoolgirl who was allegedly offered a 2000 euro a month job but turned it down to serve Jehovah.) The Bethelite admitted that after it went to press they realised that the experience was a load of rubbish but once it was in the magazine they could do nothing about it & they couldn't amend it & to print any kind of correction in a subsequent magazine would "stumble the brothers".

Dozy, have you posted about this before? How did they find out it was rubbish? Do you have any more info? (Sorry, I'm not trying to hijack the thread).,,

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Stressful Session with Uber-Zealous Parents--The Mermaid needs a hug!

by Cadellin in

okay, for those of you who don't know, i was raised jw by really great though uber-zealous parents.

i'm now an adult and have been inactive for about two years due a bunch of reasons, the primary one (or at least the one that got the ball rolling) being the pathological intellectual dishonesty of the wt in how it handles secular quotes and citations.

anyway, my parents are aware of all that and have left the issue alone for about the last year.

Cadellin

What something means to me and what it means to a JW are two very different things.

Franklin: Yes, this became clearer the longer I talked to them. They prioritize information differently. At one point, after I had pointed out the dishonest quote used in the CReation brochure, my father said, "Yes, but it still points to the truth about creation!" That response underscored for me the difference b/w using ideology to shape your world view vs. using facts. Idealogy in the JW world takes precedence--the Bible is the a priori inspired Word of God--and therefore material, measurable phenomenon (facts, we could say) are valuable only to the extent they serve such ideology. Beyond that they have no purpose or, what's worse, are outrightly denied as false and from Satan. The Truth is the ultimate and only truth and therefore, any use of measurable facts to support that truth--or that can be made to look like it supports that truth--is acceptable because Truth is being promoted. Chilling, really.

Of course, we all, JW or not, use ideology to shape our views. But when a person is under the thrall of a cult, it's just more pronounced, more entrenched and inflexible, more resistant to examination.

Scully, your point aligns with the foregoing as well. Of course they wouldn't suggest that! That's because the Catholic Church doesn't have the Truth. And JWs do, silly!

Mickey Mouse: I feel for you right back--be aware that such a response will be opening a potentially very stressful and painful conversation, depending on how close you and she are. How are you going to tell her?

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Stressful Session with Uber-Zealous Parents--The Mermaid needs a hug!

by Cadellin in

okay, for those of you who don't know, i was raised jw by really great though uber-zealous parents.

i'm now an adult and have been inactive for about two years due a bunch of reasons, the primary one (or at least the one that got the ball rolling) being the pathological intellectual dishonesty of the wt in how it handles secular quotes and citations.

anyway, my parents are aware of all that and have left the issue alone for about the last year.

Cadellin

THanks everybody! I so appreciate your comments. It's a new day and I"m feeling way better. Scully, yeah, the reasoning is just crazy. The scary part is that on other non-WT subjects, my dad is so friggin' smart!! And when we get onto the WT, you can just see the cult mentality take over. It's like Invasion of the Body Snatchers.

JRK: Well, I guess its not really a "story." My elder husband swings b/w being understanding and supportive to lapsing into cult-think (or non-think) like my father. One interesting moment came about a year after I'd become inactive. I was still going to Tues. night meetings. Near the end of the meeting, my husband had been up and about, like most elders are during meetings, and he came back to his seat and whispered in my ear, "As soon as the prayer ends, stand up and leave immediately." He wasn't joking either.

"Why?" I asked.

"The brothers want to talk to you. If one of them stops you before you get out the door, just be polite and tell them that they need to talk to me as head of the house. Don't worry." He was dead serious.

Of course, I BOLTED for the door as everyone was saying "Amen." My husband came out to the car about ten minutes later. He told me he'd talked to the other elders and said that he would prefer to handle the situation himself. I've never had any problems or questions from anyone since then. It's AWESOME. THat's why I say my fade has been easier than so many other folks. Who knew the stupid headship rule would actually come to my aid someday????

And though I get frustrated with my husband for his refusal to do any critical thinking when it comes to the WT, we have managed to negotiate a truce and keep our marriage afloat. For now, anyway.

((((((((((((((((( EVERYBODY ON THIS THREAD )))))))))))))))))

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Suggestions for finally talking to my parents about my doubts?

by stillstuckcruz in

i'll give my story again:.

i was raised a believing witness.

i had a normal life and very loving parents who would do anything for me and my brother(who is 21).

Cadellin

Hey, stillstuck--that's great news! I read your story with interest b/c our situations are very similar except I'm about 20 years older than you. I recently went through a grueling session w/my own parents who are uber-zealous and I have to say, you are getting excellent advice from folks in this thread.

Anyway, if your brother reads CoC, then it will be game over for him, if he's got half your brains. I think it's one of the most--if not THE MOST--power ful books written about the organization.

Please keep us posted.

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WT Nov. 1, 2011 (public) - When Was Ancient Jerusalem Destroyed - Part 2

by AnnOMaly in

out now.. yes, yes, yessssss!

on p. 26-27 they talk about how the lunar positions on vat 4956 fit 588/7 bce!!!.

"clearly, much of the astronomical data in vat 4956 fits the year 588 b.c.e.

Cadellin

Welcome, Muzikman! Thank you for contacting Sack; yes, please post his response and your email to him, as well, if at all possible. That would be really useful. Actually, I'm just as interested in the WT's continuing misuse of other people's words and research as I am about the chronology. Okay, that's not true--I'm more interested!! I find it fascinating in a horrible way that they (the writer/writers) either don't understand that they're mising those words or they don't care.