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  Were you JW squealer?

  by asilentone in

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  my answer is yes!

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  wantstoleave

  Yes, I guess I did. Told my parents Id heard a witness girl talking about how she'd been smoking. My dad rang her dad. Dont suppose anything was done, she wasnt baptised. She left the organisation as soon as she left home.

  When I was unbaptised, I tried a cigarette, felt SO guilty, told my dad and he had the elders come over immediately. Ive never been so embarrassed in my life. They read me a whole heap of scriptures, got me to read some, cracked some joke saying that I wouldnt have even been able to 'inhale'. I said, 'actually I did and I didnt cough'. He sat there blank.

  Kids do silly things. Kids experiment. My dad was just overly zealous and feared 'for my life' *shrugs*
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  DO JWS REALLY WAIT TIL MARRIAGE???

  by sweet in

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  do jws really wait til marriage to have sex?.

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  wantstoleave

  Id love to say I waited, I fully intended to....but I had a fiance who was very pushy and pressured me into it :( JUST before the wedding day. We were each others 'firsts' however, so it worked out ok. The elders didn't find out about it until many years later, for which we were both put on private reproof.
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  Welcome Pack for Newbies!

  by tigeress in

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  following on from a thread by dissed the other day about how the jw's are offering a "come back to us" pack.

  i wondered if we should have a thread decicated to welcoming newbies and telling them all the things they might need to know.. eg.

  we all know about the un, 1975, j rutherford etc etc etc etc etc etc but they don't.

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  wantstoleave

  Yes please :)
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  Thoughts on NOT dating

  by wantstoleave in

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  just throwing some thoughts out there.

  wondering if anyone feels the same as i do.

  you know, being brought up not being allowed to date until you were 'of marrying age'.

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  Praying4justice...Yes, same rules still apply. Chaperone ALL the time. Even when driving in a car from the KH to field service, or if say your fiance was to pick you up from your home to take you to the KH, then a chaperone would have to tag along too. Age is no barrier.

  I too was once asked if I was gay. I was only 17! I was considered 'odd' because I hadnt had a boyfriend.
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  My JW SIL is crazy

  by Beachwalker in

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  hi, a little background.

  i've been out for 20 years or so.

  my partner and i got together about 3 years ago.

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  wantstoleave

  Wow....hard situation to be in. Can you maybe ring helpline or something and ask what their advice is? Im sure there are some free numbers you can ring, or even health services....just to ask for advice. Im not sure that acknowledging the cutting would do her any good. Maybe they will suggest ignoring it? I dont know. Wish I could be of more help ((hugs))
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  Anyone been wiretapped, burglarized, otherwise spied on by elders/wbts?

  by avishai in

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  i want to know what criminal extent they have gone to to "get" you.

  i know of them spying, shadowing, etc.

  to get their way.

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  wantstoleave

  Ive definitely heard of 'stake outs'. One lot of elders did so to an upbaptised publisher, who was living at home. They never got any 'dirt' (even though he indeed was having sleep overs with his girlfriend)....but instead, they DF the mother! She appealed to the society on grounds of being 'no proof' and it was overturned.
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  Hey, My JW Wife Went to a Catholic Church Funeral

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  this is huge (to me).

  my wife won't clink glasses.

  she won't watch anything r-rated or any shows/movies with a mystical or religious theme or undertone.

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  Oh, and for something a little bit funny, at the wake, I was serving cups of coffee/tea to guests and went up to the priest, and without thinking said 'excuse me Father, would you like tea?'. I thought nothing of addressing him as that, because that was his title to all my worldly relatives. Oops did I get told off by my mother later. I shouldnt say 'told off', she quietly told me I should only address Jehovah as Father.
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  Hey, My JW Wife Went to a Catholic Church Funeral

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  this is huge (to me).

  my wife won't clink glasses.

  she won't watch anything r-rated or any shows/movies with a mystical or religious theme or undertone.

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  wantstoleave

  Wow about the pall bearer thing! My relatives (baptised) were both pall bearers at a relatives funeral, in a catholic church. They never got in trouble, though I don't think they advertised it. But still, I did not know it was a DF offence. How unchristian!
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  Have you Overcome Guilt & Fear Since Exiting Jehovah's Witnesses ?

  by flipper in

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  minimus had a great thread recently asking if any who were witnesses felt guilt as a jehovah's witness.

  thought i would build on that a little dealing with how you have moved on after being a jehovah's witness ?.

  one definition of guilt in the american heritage dictionary is : " self-reproach for supposed inadequacy or wrongdoing ".

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  wantstoleave

  ((hugs)) Flipper :)
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  Feeling so pooped - ugh!

  by LouBelle in

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  these past 2 days have been so so exhausting mentaly, physically, emotionaly, spiritualy to the point where i am drained of it all.

  i now have all the feeling of a slab of cement that is being rained on.. it such an odd feeling for me - i'm 99.9% of the time a warm, loving, cheery person (in saying that i'm not unhappy or anything like that)just done.. .

  phew..

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  wantstoleave

  Yes, lets go shopping! That sounds good! Hope you feel better soon x