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  has your life been "blessed" since leaving?

  by tigeress in

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  while in the org we are constantly told that if we just tow the line and behave that will we be blessed and everything we want will come to us.

  personaly i havn't found that to be the case in the 30 years i spent trying to tow the line.. but now i've left wonderfull things are starting to happen in my life and i'm so very happy!.

  so i wondered, have you encountered more "blessings" or less since leaving?.

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  wantstoleave

  Good topic! This is one of the things hampering me right now. I was always told the same thing. And, I must say, to some extent, I had alot of good things happen to me (especially when ex left)....that everyone always attributed to Jehovah. So much so that the past few days I've been on this board, I've been going back and forth in my mind with the 'what ifs'....such as blessings. If I were to leave, how would I cope? I would lose Jehovah's blessings. Then I have to ask myself, were they ever really there? Or, like with other human beings who have good things happen to them - was it just luck, or my own hard work or things just 'falling into place'. I know for certain that if I left, my parents would say 'but Jehovah has blessed you so much, don't abandon him'.
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  Garrido was a "very absorbed" Jehovah's Witness

  by skeeter1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the most disturbed people flock to the most demanding religions..... this article gives me yet another perspective as to why the jehovah's witnesses attract and retain child abusers and molestors.. http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2009/09/12/us/ap-us-garrido-and-god.html.

  garrido's twisted path led often to god.

  by the associated press .

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  wantstoleave

  Thanks for the clarification Black Sheep :) I knew it was some time ago, wasn't sure when exactly. I wonder though if the elders ever visited her, shepherding calls? Surely they did? Or they would have at least had others visit her? I find it strange that if she were still a witness, and brothers visited her, that they never picked up on anything. Then again, some of the man's neighbours didn't even know what was going on in the backyard.
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  1914 - what is the gist?

  by wantstoleave in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  so, i'm totally confused about the whole 1914 thing.

  maybe i missed out on hearing the new line of thinking regarding it, i don't know.

  so what is the latest thinking regarding it?

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  wantstoleave

  :) Tigeress
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  Just worn out

  by EmptyInside in

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  i thought it best i stay a lurker.

  it's just right now, i'm going through some doubts and just plain discouraged.

  sometimes, trying to do everything just wears me out, and i feel like i'm suffocating.

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  wantstoleave

  Welcome to the board :) Reading your story, I could sympathise completely. I felt exactly as you did, in my early 20s. I would cry myself to sleep, wondering what was wrong with me that no brothers had taken interest. I was spiritual, though had a weak family at the time, but tried my very best. I'm not unattractive, yet I couldn't seem to find anyone. I must admit, I never actively sought anyone, rather I prayed that Jehovah find me someone when the time was right. That was what I was always told to rely on, so I did. Unfortunately (in my case and maybe not others), I found a brother via the internet, who turned out to be a total idiot. I was now more lonely being married then I was being single. It happens.

  I don't know what to say, because my sister is headed down the same track. She doesn't say much, she's very quiet, but I know she wants to be married and she'll be 24 next month. Searching for a mate within the organisation can become a very small channel. If you indeed want to remain a witness, but marry a non-JW, then you will still be lonely at conventions. You may eventually marry a brother, but chances are he'll be alot older than you, and divorced. Unfortunately for sisters there isn't the same ratio of brothers, so brothers can be choosy, while sisters generally have to take what comes.

  I am now a single mum and I find conventions terrible. I am all alone. But, you must remind yourself that even those who profess to be happy aren't always. Sometimes what goes on behind closed doors is an eye opener. My advice would be to enjoy the freedom you have, because if you marry a brother, headship comes into play (Im talking in a JW sense here folks) and you will be expected to tow the line. I don't know you enough to know how you are with authority, but there are some real doozies of brothers out there who take the headship thing to extremes.

  There's alot to be considered. But please don't for a second think that there is something wrong with you. I've been there, thought that and married the first one that came along - and it was a crock. Be choosy. But be happy. And, we're all here for you :) I too am still exploring things, having only just begun visiting this board. It's been a real help so far :)
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  1914 - what is the gist?

  by wantstoleave in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  so, i'm totally confused about the whole 1914 thing.

  maybe i missed out on hearing the new line of thinking regarding it, i don't know.

  so what is the latest thinking regarding it?

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  wantstoleave

  So, I'm totally confused about the whole 1914 thing. Maybe I missed out on hearing the new line of thinking regarding it, I don't know. So what is the latest thinking regarding it? Is it that those of the remnant will not die? Some will see Armageddon? Or that they will all be 'taken' just before it? What is the 'generation' thing? Sorry for the questions if it's already been answered. Just trying to piece the puzzle together :)
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  Garrido was a "very absorbed" Jehovah's Witness

  by skeeter1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  the most disturbed people flock to the most demanding religions..... this article gives me yet another perspective as to why the jehovah's witnesses attract and retain child abusers and molestors.. http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2009/09/12/us/ap-us-garrido-and-god.html.

  garrido's twisted path led often to god.

  by the associated press .

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  wantstoleave

  I heard his mother is still a witness (she was living with him but bedridden) but that he no longer belonged to the faith.

  I know this because I know someone who lived in the same town (some time ago), and knew the mother personally. She hadn't had anything to do with her for a long time however, since she became bedridden. I presume the elders visited her though, right?
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  Do you play the lottery?

  by asilentone in

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  if you do, would you let me choose the numbers for you, if we win, we can split the money.

  deal?

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  wantstoleave

  This is where I dont agree with the whole JW lottery ticket buying no no. To me, its no different then going into a store, buying a particular product because you can 'win' on it. Often, you dont even need or want the item you're buying, but only do so in hopes you may win a prize. Im sure most witnesses do that, yet to me, its like a lottery. There are no guarantees you'll win anything. I think I'll buy a lottery ticket one of these days :)
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  My First Kingdom Hall Wedding

  by garyneal in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  during our last "bible study" session with the elder and his wife, we were invited to attend a wedding of a dear and close 'brother' and 'sister' of thiers at their hall.

  my wife made me where a suit .

  the wedding overall was nice.

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  wantstoleave

  Lol....Ive learnt, only go to weddings that invite you to the reception...hehe
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  How Did You Handle Sitting At The Meetings?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  did you pretend to listen?

  did you actually follow along, listening intently?.

  at the end i was listening more intently and getting more irritated by the whole sham..

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  wantstoleave

  The Sunday meeting is much shorter these days. Goes for about an hour and a half now. Still hard to sit through though...LOL!
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  Watchtower Quotes on Mind-control

  by OnTheWayOut in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  many are not sure or deny that wts is a dangerous mind-control cult.

  here is some food for thought on the "dangerous mind-control" part of that.

  (cut and pasted from http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=122936768817 jehovah's disfellowshipped witnesses/facebook).

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  wantstoleave

  Are there any more recent articles? I notice alot of those mentioned date way back. I wonder if they have changed their stance on some of those things since?