Thanks everyone :)
Bluecanary: If I were to lose 'privleges' like answering up, then I would've been reproved by them right? That would be the last straw for me, and I'd tell them to shove it. Simply because I am divorcing primarily for financial safety, as ex has a substantial amount of debt that I do not want to be responsible for. Thank for pointing that possibility out though :)
Flipper: Thankfully my ex is in another country but I know he tries to keep tabs on me. Not quite sure how, other than his friends (non JW) that live in my area. Even then, I've had nothing to hide. I have dirt on him on the other hand, which I took to the elders, and they told me 'pity we hadn't known this sooner, nothing we can do about it now'. I stood there with my mouth open, like pardon??!?! I'd only just gotten this 'dirt', so how could I have told them sooner!
CSP: Yes, am close to my parents who are also JW's. I have a brother who is a fader of 5yrs now. Noone elder wise has pursued him, even though when they see him they are polite and say hello.
Keeshondgirl: Wow, funny situation. I wonder if there was some private reproof there? I thought in case likes that though, where everyone sees the divorce and remarriage, that it would have to be public reproof? Interesting.
Chalam: Thanks. I'll definitely bring those scriptures up. It has been a hard slog for me supporting 2 children on my own, but I've managed. I could use the scripture in such a way that shows how he isn't even supporting them emotionally and spiritually as supposed to as well.
I personally think he's biding his time. He is waiting for me to make the mistake first, then he can play the card of him being the victim in this and 'my wife cheated', even though it was he who abandoned us. I don't think I'm ready to give him that satisfaction yet.