flower,
Some of the symptoms you have mentioned are the same symptoms that children of alcoholics experience. Some people go to the Adult Children of Alcoholic program because they have similar family issues. It's called ACOA. Religiosity can be an addiction and have the same effects on children as alcoholism. They have meetings that are free and you may make some good friends locally.
I would recommend a book by John Bradshaw "Family: the Revolutionary Way to Self Discovery” I have no doubt that you will see yourself in there as I saw myself. He does discuss addiction to religon in this book.
"Not part of the inner circle class"-Larc