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  My experience with the JW's and more...I'll try to make it short.

  by ConnieD29 in

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  well i guess the thing to do here is to kinda tell your story so that is what i'm going to attempt to here.

  even though it makes me a bit nervous.. my experience with the jehovah's witnesses was short compared to lots of people here.

  i was only involved for about 3 yrs.

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  keeshondgirl

  Connie,

  I was 17/18 when i started studying with the witnesses. I was young and naive. I wanted to belong somewhere. I was just a typical teenager unsure what to do with life and the witnesses seemed like they knew everything I asked them. My family was against it as well and would not talk to me. I was told it is persecution and thats how you know its the truth. Sounded neat that I was part of something 'big' but inside I felt empty and lonely. I was in the religion for 5 years. I hid my own feelings from my husband about the religion (we were baptized at the same time) and he did from me as well. We eventually told eachother everything how we felt and miraculously we both wanted out. I now know to always be open with my husband and myself. You can never make everyone happy, I tried as well. Make your self happy, thats what counts.
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  My JW friend de-friended me!

  by keeshondgirl in

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  2. friends

  i hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and i had a good jw friend from another hall.

  she was friends with me before me being a witness.

  we knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me.

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  Diamondiiz-- Thats a good idea about asking her to prove 607 without WT sources. I was thinking of telling her to look up the UN thing, not sure she knows about that, but I think the 607 year is better to ask her. That proves that 1914 is down the drain too. She would probably come up with some excuse about only using Jehovahs organizations books though.

  wildflower,

  I too was deleted from her facebook shortly after I stopped going to meetings. I actually told her this:

  I will never forget the good times we had and hope to see them again. I would never have wanted to act like how you are to me if the situation were reversed. I would have been there for you out of love and patient enough to listen to you when you were ready to talk. True friends are hard to come by and JW make the worse of friends.

  Oh well, I guess whats done is done. When a persons mind is brain washed its hard to get them to see whats wrong with their behavoir. It doesn't matter what I write to her.
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  My JW friend de-friended me!

  by keeshondgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and i had a good jw friend from another hall.

  she was friends with me before me being a witness.

  we knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me.

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  keeshondgirl

  miseryloveselders,

  I like what you said. Out of all the watchtower books made, we only kept the revelation book as a reminder how insane they really are. I know that this witness 'friend' always had friends that came and went depending if they were considered good associates. I don't think she had a friend for more then a few years at a time. Her parents often cut off associations from her and I guess I'm a new one. She is 24 and still listens to everything her parents tell her and who to be friends with. I liken it to a chicken who has been in a cage all its life laying eggs. Thats all it knows and she only knows the watchtowers way of life. I don't think she'll ever break free which is a shame since she will never experience life beyond the box she is in.
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  My JW friend de-friended me!

  by keeshondgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and i had a good jw friend from another hall.

  she was friends with me before me being a witness.

  we knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me.

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  keeshondgirl

  Dissed, I agree.

  My husband and I too did not fit in the club. We were ignored and no one has attempted to help bring us back. We must be beyond saving.
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  My JW friend de-friended me!

  by keeshondgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and i had a good jw friend from another hall.

  she was friends with me before me being a witness.

  we knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me.

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  keeshondgirl

  I guess I realize our friendship was conditional all along. I didn't grow up a witness so I know what real friendship is, unconditional. That is why, even though I was a witness for 5 years, I still can't completely understand that witnesses can toss people around like they mean nothing as soon as something comes up that doesn't agree with what Watchtower Land tells them.

  I was friends, or so I thought, for 11 years with her. If they would teach you during bible study the truth about shunning and disfellowshipping I don't thiink I would have gone any further with them. When studying they make it look like the perfect religion because in their minds it is. Once you are baptized, you really are stuck. Luckily, I have no family that are witnesses and my husband left when I did. I wonder why if she thinks and her elder dad thinks I'm apostate then why am I not disfellowshipped? He could easily call to the hall we went to and tell them his suspicions, but I guess they would need proof of my apostate ideas when there is none. I guess not attending meetings, assemblies, conventions, and memorials is enouch evidence to conclude that we've gone apostate. They are the most judgemental group of people I've met. It's disgusting and I want no part of them. They are the bad associates, really.
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  If you could play any instrument what would it be?

  by restrangled in

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  i have played the piano my entire life and never learned another....i so wish i could play the guitar.

  i would trade my piano in a minute for a good guitar and lessons.. how about you?.

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  I love to play my piano, drums, and trumpet. I am slowly teaching myself to play the flute. I would love to learn to play the guitar and I always fancied the accordian.
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  My JW friend de-friended me!

  by keeshondgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and i had a good jw friend from another hall.

  she was friends with me before me being a witness.

  we knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me.

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  keeshondgirl

  I hadn't attended meetings for over a year now and I had a good JW friend from another hall. She was friends with me before me being a witness. We knew each other from school and she had a hand in converting me. Once she found out I stopped going to the hall she got very upset. I wasn't ready to explain to her yet why and she didn't want to talk to me until I did. It has been like 9 months since we last spoke and I recently sent her a letter in the mail about our friendship. She stopped talking to a mutual non-witness friend of ours ( my best friend) almost a year ago as well and I addressed that. I basically said she has no room in her heart for people who stop attending meetings or aren't being converted.

  She wrote to the non-witness friend and finally admitted she is no longer friends with me because I am apostate and I left Jehovah. I was never disfellowshipped nor did any elders attempt to talk to me or my husband. She says we abandoned our congregation and people that care about us. No one noticed we were doing poorly for some time. I never told her my apostate beliefs but her dad is an elder and I'm sure she hears it from him not to associate with me. I wish she would make up her own mind. She grew up as a witness and said she wasn't forced to be baptized and made it her choice, just like I did. so I turned my back on God which makes me evil now. I think she feels guilty about the non-witness friend because I told her she will never want anything to do with witnesses now and recently told JWs to not come back to her house.

  Anyone else have similar experience or can explain her behavoir of not wanting to talk to me when I'm not disfellowshipped?
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  Did You Have Any Positive JW Leanings When You First Came Here?

  by minimus in

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  were you ever somewhat projw when you first came to this site?.

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  I was confused and didn't know what to think or believe. I didnt know others had similar doubts as myself. At first I supported some of their teachings, but this site helped me discover some of the coverups that I didnt know about such as the U.N. involvement, reality of JW child molesters, teachings that have been changed over and over due to new light and all the dumb dates they come up with. Time made me see them for who they are in less than 6 months. I'm grateful for this site and what people contribute on here.
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  To Ex-JWs: Do You Regret Learning it Was a Lie?

  by leavingwt in

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  2. friends

  this question was inspired by a question on another thread.

  to the ex-jw community here,.

  do any of you regret learning that wt is not god's organization?

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  keeshondgirl

  Wish I found out sooner so I didn't have to waste 5 years of my life. On the bright side, I'm not naive anymore, and I question every little thing when it comes to peoples religions. I could never want to be part of any religion again.
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  What Ever Attracted You To The Witnesses In The First Place?

  by minimus in

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  i have an excuse, i was born in it.

  the thought of living forever and never dying was certainly a draw but when i realized it wasn't true, there wasn't much of an attraction anymore.. what attracted you as a witness?.

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  keeshondgirl

  I agree minimus, when I was in high school I kept thinking...wow, not many people here know the new 'truths' i now know. And I did feel part of an exclusive club, haha. I was dumb and didn't know what to do with my life, and here comes a JW at the right moment to make me feel special and point me in the right direction. Glad I woke up before my life was over.