Posts by imissthedub

Btw, RF's response did not hit me at all as offensive. I assumed he was talking about this happening to everyone here, not singling out Spice's. I was totally confused when I read MrMoe's and had to reread RF's response several times to see how it could be taken harshly. That just proves how easliy things can be taken out of context when you cannot hear a voice nor see a face....and also proves how RF is right when he says we all need to develop a shut-off valve for being hurt easily on here. Cuz sometimes what hurts you was not meant to hurt at all. No one was "wrong" here.....just different people interpeting things different ways.

Spice, I hope you are ok. I always look forward to hearing what you have to say on here.

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Facing the inevitable....how will you handle it?

by Makena1 in

or - how are you handling it?.

my subject is how we deal with getting older - realizing that we are headed in just one direction, aging and eventually dying.

for most of us born after wwii, raised as jw's, we did not give a thought to getting older.

imissthedub

Mike:

Thanks, but was also stupidest woman in the world when I did the online thing. Ouch. Big ouch....hurt bad. And was with a dub who is a MS ( I am not and have never been a dub) so I thought he meant every word he said to me. Started out as a possible solution and ended up the biggest mess of my life....a total mindscrew.....really gets deep into ur head.

Scotter, you go girl! I will be next to you with the speakers blaring my faves!!!!!

Edited by - imissthedub on 11 July 2002 23:32:49

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Facing the inevitable....how will you handle it?

by Makena1 in

or - how are you handling it?.

my subject is how we deal with getting older - realizing that we are headed in just one direction, aging and eventually dying.

for most of us born after wwii, raised as jw's, we did not give a thought to getting older.

imissthedub

I know exactly what you are talking about. I am 46 and my husband is 51. We are childless by choice, so don't have college or weddings to worry about. I had always been used to having the future stretching out before me endlessly. I would always have choices, always have a great body, my face would always look young, there was always time to try 1 million different careers.

I have found success in a career but, of course, I sometimes worry that I should try others.

Even though we have had tons more fun than many others....there are now things I probably won't ever try....downhill ski-ing (I need to drive for my work and I KNOW my body is less flexible than in 20's or 30's), and sailing for another. We could do whimpy sailing with people who already sail...but will never REALLY sail and I wish we would have. I think, though, that no matter what you do, you always panic about what you missed.

I look in the mirror and see that I am no longer someone who could cause someone to drive thru a red light. Always you take your looks for granted. I am not complaining, and please do not tell me how shallow this is. I still look decent for my age...but that is just it.....for my age. Noone is gonna say "WOW" anymore. On one hand, that panics me. On the other hand, it is a blessing. Women are not as threatened by me and are actually nice. Men take me more seriously. People assume I may actually know something (finally have them fooled)

I went thru a period where my hormones went nuts and I went nuts about it.....wanted sex about 4 times a day at age 45. I had never cheated on my husband, luv him dearly, and did not want to. But how do you tell a then 50 year old man (who was making luv to me daily) that once a day is not enough?!! Talk about putting pressure on an already good thing. So, brilliant me....I decided to have an online affair. It has been over for a year, my husband knew, I almost died from it...and he almost left me. However, now we are closer than ever and our sex life is even more fun.

I don't know, I am ramlbing here. I just know what you are going thru and want to say you are not alone. I asked one woman who is 60 "Does one make it thru this or become warped?" And she said "A little of both, dear. A little of both."

I worry about my body....I have something going on that makes it hard to exercise or do things like gardening (typical old people hobby) or anything.....I am scared. To top it off, my 82 year old mom lives with us. That makes me feel old. On one hand, I am glad for the time with her. On the other I wonder if I am losing valuable years we could be doing even more. We do go out of town alot and our sex life has not suffered (good sound proofing), but the responsibility weighs. Then, I think about her dying and feel guilty.

I worry about my husband dying or getting sick and not being thankful enough for what we have had or have now. And how does one go on if the person you have been with since age 14 dies??? Do you give up and die too? Do u go crazy? Does life go on?

The wierdest part, though, is how I have become invisable to so many people. To many people under 30 it is like I don't exist. I can have on a great outfit, great make-up and nice hair...have something somewhat witty to say....and I don't exist. Strange. I don't want them to find me sexy, but it would be nice for them to realize I am alive for goodness sake!!!

Anyway, I think you will make it thru as we will.....and mostly.....man, isn't life great? The beauty of nature, the wonder of human relationships, and power of God. I am so thankful I was created, even though I spend alot of time worrying I am not experiecning enough.

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Male and Female Friends

by StinkyPantz in

my husband and i have had sort of a disagreement of sorts.

he says that men cannot be friends with women.

he says that any man that appears to want to be friends with a woman really just wants to get in her pants, and if they end up friends it's purely by accident.

imissthedub

I agree Heaven.

I have always had 95% male friends. Have been married since age 17. Never cheated on my husband, except once I had a cyber relationship...and I picked that man specifically for sex ahead of time.....long story. Alot of my in person male friends have been single. Alot have been good looking. Some have asked if I would be interested in sex. I tell them "Close your eyes, take a deep breath, a swig of that beer and then open your eyes. We will pretend you did not ask that, because I love your friendship and have no desire to turn it into something else." They stay my friend and respect my decision. They, after all, can find plenty of "takers".

I have never been interested in talking about kids or cooking or typical female stuff. I am feminine and look feminine.....do the glamour and make-up, etc but I enjoy discussing things going on, sex, jokes, card playing etc. So I have always gravitated to men.

My husbnad would never "forbid" me to have a friendship with, roughly, 50% of the population. If he cannot trust me more that that, we may as well split. He was devastated about the cyber thing, but also realized why I did it....and that I selected the person w/o forming friendship first. So, he is still ok with my friendships, be they male or female. And I would do the same for him and do. One thing we make sure of is we don't spend more time with friends than with each other, we make time for romantic things AND we keep our sex life FUN and exciting...which helps alot.

Any person who told me I could not be friends with someone cause of their gender would be WAY too insecure to even consider being my life partner. I would eat them alive. ROFL

Edited by - imissthedub on 5 July 2002 2:38:50

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Two file sex abuse suit against Jehovah's Witnesse

by TexSham in

i looked and didn't see this posted, so here goes:.

http://www.twincities.com/mld/pioneerpress/3588212.htm.

posted on tue, jul.

imissthedub

We must have been posting at the same time.....ty for filling in the details I missed.

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ANOTHER VICTIM OF CHILD MOLESTATION BY JW'S ON TV

by imissthedub in

did not catch it all on our evening news...and will be gone tonight.

am in mn and the woman who came forward molested 10 years ago by someone in hall.

they showed silent lambs website and said 1,000's have been molested.

imissthedub

I am in such a hurry my spelling above sucked....don't know how to fix. Sorry. :)

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ANOTHER VICTIM OF CHILD MOLESTATION BY JW'S ON TV

by imissthedub in

did not catch it all on our evening news...and will be gone tonight.

am in mn and the woman who came forward molested 10 years ago by someone in hall.

they showed silent lambs website and said 1,000's have been molested.

imissthedub

Did not catch it all on our evening news...and will be gone tonight. Am in MN and the woman who came forward molested 10 years ago by someone in Hall. They showed Silent Lambs website and said 1,000's have been molested. Does anyone have more info???? I will go out tonite so can't cath news. Hey, everyone.......it is beginning for sure.....first a few go pubic and then it will snowball. "When the walls start tumlbin, crumblin, when the walls start tumblin down....."

Edited by - imissthedub on 3 July 2002 1:29:23

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Mom - Why do you treat me like the damned!

by zenpunk in

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not that my mom would ever visit this site - but i have to just vent.

last night my mom promised she would meet me at home to help me move some furniture.

she made it seem like it was a tremendous deal and the only reason why she would be by would be because she had something else to do in the neighbourhood.

imissthedub

((((((to all of u who have experienced this))))))

I too, have never been jw so I know this may sound pointless, but please know I sincerely mean it:

I am so sorry to hear how you have been treated by your family. It actually makes me feel ill. You do NOT deserve this kind of treatment. Just know there are others who do care for you...or if you have just gotten out...that there WILL be friends and family who sincerely care regardless of what you believe. People here on this site are a good place to start.

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Let's talk about my kids (or "pets" i...

by joeshmoe in

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whew!

i was just reading an earlier thread on disciplining kids.

exhuasting!

imissthedub

Zenpunk, I used to have snakes. I had a speckled king snake named Maurice for 10 years! He died of a heart attack going thru his water dish trying to shed.....old age I guess.

Now we have 3 parrots.

White Capped Pionus-male-Kazoo Raised him with baby formula in a dropper. 40 word vocab. Will be 11 in August. Can live 40 years.

African Grey (Congo)-Female Melanie Miracle. Got her at 3 1/2 months and we were her 4th home already. Her name at time was Malachi. Later had her sexed...and since she was used to being called Mal....we went with Mel/Melanie. She was carrying a terminal disease and one year later was healed. Only 2nd grey in world to ditch this disease after carrying it. She has an unlimited vocabulary and can do exact voice imitations. She makes up conversations, doing 2 different voices and answering back and forth. She watches alot of educational tv. Intellect of 5 year old child. Also makes up muis and sings it. Can live 75 years. Just turned 7 this Tues.

Rousey Bourke Parakeet-femal-Cher'e Amore. Pink and white. A little beauty. Will be 7 in July. She is in luv with Kazoo. Kazoo hates both other birds. She could live about 15 years.