The Rebel said: its maybe not so much asking the question " what is the purpose in life?
that is important, but " having a purpose in life that's important"
Rebel, this is a very astute statement. I think as we grow up and age, our purpose in life changes. I would say the majority of us can define and architect our life's purpose (assuming we have certain needs met first) but there are also circumstances that thrust themselves upon us, which we cannot deny or ignore, that are not choices but obligations or responsibilities. These also become part of our purpose in life.
Slim, you asked about personal references or experiences. I suspect many don't want to share that here on the forum for fear of revealing who they are. But I will give you a glimpse into my life.
Did I want to be my Father's Power of Attorney and his primary care giver during this last chronic and progressive disease stage of his life? No. But I have an obligation, a responsibility here and my personal integrity does not allow me to relinquish this to any one else. He chose me because I am supportive and understanding. He is vulnerable now and I am the guardian, the gatekeeper. I also love my Father despite all the bull shit the JW religion heaped on our family.
So I have had to put a lot of my own life on hold while this all plays out. And I have had to do things that many would not. This is the survival mode/piece of the purpose of life - ensuring that life can continue as long as possible, that the needs of someone incapable of providing them for themselves any longer, are still met.