JD... awww, thanks! I love it. This is something me and my Dad would have done when I was little.
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by John Doe ina little 10-year-old girl was walking home, alone, from school one day, when a big man on a black motorcycle pulls up beside her.. .
after following along for a while, he turns to her and asks, "hey there little girl, do you want to go for a ride?".
" says the little girl as she keeps on walking.
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Need help learning how to be better organized in an office and how to handle office politics
by Elsewhere ini'm starting to take on more and more responsibilities at work, which i'm happy about, however i keep finding myself bumping into problems where it is obvious i *should* have handled something one way as opposed to another... or i should have interacted with another group one way instead of another.. does anyone know of any "self help" books that i could read to learn about such things?.
to give some context, i work in one of those massive multinational corporations that most people have never heard of.
because of the scale of the business it tends to be a very formalized environment.
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Elsewhere... I personally don't think your manager is a good choice as a mentor since you may not feel free to express yourself and he may not be available when you need him. Regarding a formal 'Mentoring' program, it should be a choice... people are matched up according to certain criteria, including the Mentor having similar experiences to the Mentee so that empathy and understanding are used to create a bond that facilitates the process. I feel that if there is someone you work with that may be a bit more experienced in office etiquette, etc. this may be a better choice.
The first book you purchased sounds like it may be helpful but be careful with the second. 'Dirty Tricks' can backfire on you if this is indeed part of the content of the second book.
One suggestion I would have is when handling any sort of political situation, keep it professional and keep the emotion out of it. This can be difficult to do but with practice, it has some amazing results. I have a Technical Advisor who gets hot under the collar at times and I just dial back my urge to become defensive and respond in like kind. What I do is I assume a calm and rational tone while he's freaking. He usually comes back down to earth when he realizes he can't get a rise out of me. So basically, treat people the way you wish to be treated. Where have we heard that before?
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Need help learning how to be better organized in an office and how to handle office politics
by Elsewhere ini'm starting to take on more and more responsibilities at work, which i'm happy about, however i keep finding myself bumping into problems where it is obvious i *should* have handled something one way as opposed to another... or i should have interacted with another group one way instead of another.. does anyone know of any "self help" books that i could read to learn about such things?.
to give some context, i work in one of those massive multinational corporations that most people have never heard of.
because of the scale of the business it tends to be a very formalized environment.
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Elsewhere... at my company, the Stephen Covey books '7 Habits Of Highly Effective People', 'First Things First', and 'Principle Centred Leadership' are recommended reading.
While these are all excellent books that I would highly recommend, to deal with your immediate situation you may want to look into asking someone at your company to 'Mentor' you. It doesn't have to be formal if you don't want but if there is someone who is experienced in the company that you feel comfortable with that you could go to for advice on these matters, that may be your best option. Does your company have a 'Buddy' or 'Mentoring' program? Perhaps ask your manager if no one you work with knows.
I informally mentor people that I have worked with in the past and also presently work with. The 'mentees' have always found it to be helpful to have someone to go to that they feel comfortable with and that they can trust.
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I am sorry to hear this... I loved his humour! Rest in Peace, Dom. You will be missed.
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Why do Witnesses think the world is so bad? Here's another reason
by BonaFide ini know the fact that the publications say the world is bad, and the beginning of so many public talks.
and the introductions in the field ministry.. but here is something i have been thinking about.. jw's are not exposed to people from all walks of life.
growing up in the truth, most of the bro's in my hall worked in construction, cleaning, office workers, or ups.
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JWs are the epitomy of the Universal Law of Attraction. "What you focus on expands" and since they are focusing on the 'bad', that's what manifests in their lives. I've seen it in my family. It was very evident after I left home and would come back to visit. Being out in the working world exposes you to all different kinds of peoples and beliefs. At work we are taught to focus on the positive and the "can do". Then, going back home, there would be all this negativity, and "can't do" -- I just couldn't fathom it. No wonder so many JWs have mental health issues.
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Somewhere in between.
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What finally pushed you over the edge?
by keyser soze inwas there one issue or incident, final straw, so-to-speak, that made you leave once and for all?
i know there was for me.. i had been having doubts for years, and had stopped believing it was the truth.
but i labored on as a jw, in part because of my family, and in part because i had invested so much of myself in it.
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1) Subjugation and inequitable treatment of women.
2) The fact that my parents' marriage wasn't going well even though they espoused the JW religion (they weren't baptized then).
3) My Mom saying that, after 16 years of denying evolution, there may be something to it afterall.
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Emotional Abuse & Cults
by rebel8 inany therapist worth his or her salt who has skill in treating victims of emotionally abusive, controlling relationships should be able to successfully treat these same issues in someone who has been in a cult.
they are similar issues.
you may need to educate your therapist about the similarities, but he/she should be able to use similar treatment strategies for these particular issues.. here is a comparison chart i created today: http://www.lulu.com/ex-jw.
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Heaven
rebel8... thank you! I am somewhat worried about my father, who is an MS, because if they ever decided to give him 'the big size 9' (i.e. The Boot/DF), I want to be prepared to step in and facilitate damage control with a support structure to help him move forward with the rest of his life. He has had some warnings in the past so I figure they may be 'watching' him. He does have depression off and on and one of his closest friends is Catholic. I am monitoring the situation so hopefully I can be of help should anything transpire. Thank you again! Heaven
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Humourous and Inspirational Church Sign Messages
by Heaven inour little evangelical church has a sign out front and often times has funny or inspirational messages.
i really like the current one which is:.
by his wounds .
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Our little Evangelical Church has a sign out front and often times has funny or inspirational messages. I really like the current one which is:
By His Wounds
We Are Healed
And I'm sure you've all seen or heard of this one at some point in the past:
http://www.thestar.com/News/GTA/article/295250
How about you? Please share with us the cool or funny messages on your local church signs.
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Heaven
This is why I could never, EVER be a JW! This whole 'submission' thing caused an enormous breakdown in my family. And my Mom died because of it. When my folks were moving, one of their JW brothers was asking the others why 'Headship' wasn't working in his marriage. I bit my tongue BIG time then since these people were being kind enough to help out my parents. I could have said a lot. By the mere fact that he is asking that question proves that it's a load of BS!
I am a single woman and have my own house. So who is the head of my household then? Heaven