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  Ozzie, Have you gone Completely Mad??

  by Stephanus in

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  2. friends

  what happened to panorama?

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  Yeah, what happened? I was looking out for it too.
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  How do you deal with dub friends?

  by In_between_days in

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  2. friends

  i would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone for their replys to my thread titled "i cant move on", and express my gratitude for your genuine and helpful advise.. i am happy to say that i am certainly in the process of moving on and healing the wounds that have been inflicted by the wt.

  there is only one problem that remains............. i have a few dub friends who i do still consider to be very good friends.

  i made a decision that i would never try to push my discoveries of the curroption within the org on them, and keep our conversations very neutral.

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  How did you feel when some of the friends that shunned you also left the JW and contacted you wanting to still be friends? Did you find it hard resuming a relationship with them? Were you able to "forgive them" for treating you cruelly?

  I would welcome an ex dub who had previously shunned me with open arms, personaly. I only say this because my best friend left the org and I shunned her for over a year. When I then left myself, the first thing I did was call her and she was happy to resume our freindship. I wouldnt have got through it without her, so I would always do the same.
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  How often do you get called on?

  by In_between_days in

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  those who are not "blacklisted" by the wt, do you often get dubs at your door?

  ive been at this address for almost a year and i have never had the pleasure of their witnessing work!

  whats going on?

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  Those who are not "blacklisted" by the WT, do you often get dubs at your door? Ive been at this address for almost a year and I have never had the pleasure of their witnessing work! Whats going on? Do you think my cong has a record of who I am and where I live (even though I was never baptised) and avoid me. or is the cong just plain slack?

  Do you get called on often?
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  How do you deal with dub friends?

  by In_between_days in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone for their replys to my thread titled "i cant move on", and express my gratitude for your genuine and helpful advise.. i am happy to say that i am certainly in the process of moving on and healing the wounds that have been inflicted by the wt.

  there is only one problem that remains............. i have a few dub friends who i do still consider to be very good friends.

  i made a decision that i would never try to push my discoveries of the curroption within the org on them, and keep our conversations very neutral.

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  They'll be mere acquaintances

  You are right hmmm, they are kind of becoming that now. I told all of my friends my decision and out of HEAPS of dub friends, I kept about 3 - who I considered true friends - now even they rarely talk to me or answer my calls, the more I reveal my true feelings, the more they back away. Does anyone ever feel like they were only ever friends with certain people just because they were dubs? I mean when I think about some of the friends I had, that was just about the ONLY thing we had in common, so I guess its understandable that once that one thing dissapears, so does the friendship.
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  How do you deal with dub friends?

  by In_between_days in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone for their replys to my thread titled "i cant move on", and express my gratitude for your genuine and helpful advise.. i am happy to say that i am certainly in the process of moving on and healing the wounds that have been inflicted by the wt.

  there is only one problem that remains............. i have a few dub friends who i do still consider to be very good friends.

  i made a decision that i would never try to push my discoveries of the curroption within the org on them, and keep our conversations very neutral.

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  you'll meet new friends, w/ the same interests you have

  I do have new friends, but I just still love my dub friends too. I guess sometimes you know its just time to let go, I suppose I am feeling that now, as the last of my friends are slowly fading out of my life. I guess my friends I can deal with, but what about my family? They are always going ot be around, and since I recently told my mother that I do not "hate" Jehovahs Witnesses, she has been eagerly talking about dub events and giving me suggestions on books I should read *sigh* I just cant win with her. I just want to get on with living my life, thats all.

  So, don't worry, it hurts too loose friends at first, but eventually you'll move on.

  I know, but yeah, its hard and yeah, it HURTS!!

  I try to stay very neutrel.I hate it when they say stuff like "well,when were in paradise" or "Jehovah will take care of that" or whatever.I just cringe.

  Oh, I know that feeling......... I hate it when they say "THE TRUTH"!!
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  How do you deal with dub friends?

  by In_between_days in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone for their replys to my thread titled "i cant move on", and express my gratitude for your genuine and helpful advise.. i am happy to say that i am certainly in the process of moving on and healing the wounds that have been inflicted by the wt.

  there is only one problem that remains............. i have a few dub friends who i do still consider to be very good friends.

  i made a decision that i would never try to push my discoveries of the curroption within the org on them, and keep our conversations very neutral.

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  Hi All,

  I would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone for their replys to my thread titled "I cant move on", and express my gratitude for your genuine and helpful advise.

  I am happy to say that I am certainly in the process of moving on and healing the wounds that have been inflicted by the WT. There is only one problem that remains............

  I have a few dub friends who I do still consider to be very good friends. I made a decision that I would never try to push my discoveries of the curroption within the org on them, and keep our conversations very neutral. Throughout time although, I see my friends being effected and hurt by the borg, and I find it extremely hard to bite my tongue when they are feeling depressed.

  For example, my very close friend recently had a close family member DF and she is absolutely DEVASTATED,as she is no longer able to speak with him - she is hurt and this hurts me, but whenever I express my opinion on the shunning issue I am cut down completely. Last time I said anything about it, I myself was shunned for a while, even though I was trying every day to get in contact with her to simply see if she needed anything. I also recieved a visit today from another close friend, a young JW guy who is looking forward to attending university and has to move out of home because of the pressure from his mothers objections to doing so. He feels extremely bad about this (pursueing his dream), because of the intense emotional blackmail that is delivered from her. His mother had always planned for him to go to Bethel, as she constantly tells him that when he was born she made a promise to Jehovah that she would give him to him!!!!

  Now, my point is, I cant deal with this. I cant stand seeing my friends writhe in emotional turmoil over something so insignificant and bogus. The WT has gradually became of less and less importance to me, until now, these days its basically a shrunken cartoon, led by a bunch of silly muppets. When I sit there, listening to my friends babble on about how their lives are effected by this organisation, my blood boils, I just want to sit them down and tell them everything I know. I know also, that if I did so, I would lose them forever.

  I want to live a normal life........ I want to talk about important things now, have normal friends, partake in normal discussions. I am tired of listening to loved ones traumatic experiences at the hand of the WT and knowing that I can do nothing. What can I do? I feel this is pulling me back in my process, it is consistantly biting me in the heels when I am just trying to walk away quitely. How have you dealt with this situation?

  Sorry the post is long, even if I get no response just the process of typing out how I feel makes me feel better. I hope everyone is having a good week and full steam ahead for the march tomorow, I cant wait to see how it goes!!
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  Sunday Programme

  by Stephanus in

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  2. friends

  just saw it (tried to tape it, but taped simpsons instead - dohh!!!

  ) i must say, if robert souter wasn't in gaol and still lived in wollongong, his life expectancy would be dramatically reduced after today's broadcast.

  wollongong has a direct way of dealing with high profile paedophiles... .

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  I agree Beck, when I watched the assembely footage, I was so embarrassed that I was ever part of this ridiculous and destructive CULT!!!!!
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  Sunday Programme

  by Stephanus in

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  just saw it (tried to tape it, but taped simpsons instead - dohh!!!

  ) i must say, if robert souter wasn't in gaol and still lived in wollongong, his life expectancy would be dramatically reduced after today's broadcast.

  wollongong has a direct way of dealing with high profile paedophiles... .

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  I watched the program this morning, they certainly didnt beat around the bush. I got calls from people while I was watching it to ask me if I was watching, so I guess alot must have seen it - I hope so, I was a little worried about the timeslot so early in the morning (for a sunday anyway) I thought it kind of ironic that the show was aired when the JW's will most definately be doing their rounds around the neighbourhoods. I wonder how many people were interupted while watching the show by the dubs at their door!! LOL

  The story was great, very well covered, the two elders approached were extremely defensive and arrogant. I was really surprised one elder answered the reporters questions, and couldnt help but wonder whether he will be in trouble with his congregation by doing so.

  The womans story was heartbreaking as well as the younger man.

  I truly hope this story will be re- visited on other programs.
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  Silent Witnesses: here it is!

  by ozziepost in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  this weekend's "sunday" program on channel nine in australia features a report along the lines of dateline and panorama.

  just up on their site is the following report: .

  silent witnesses .

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  Any ideas from anyone when the time slot will be for Brisbane?
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  IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT FOR AUSTRALIANS

  by ozziepost in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  we've been advised by australia's major network, channel nine, that their investigative programme entitled "silent witnesses" will go to air this sunday, september 22nd.

  it'll be on the 'sunday' program much like dateline and panorama and will screen from 9 am to 11 am.the story itself will be around 40 to 45 minutes in length.

  depending on the response from this story, they may decide to run the panorama story with a follow up on the aussie story the following weekend.

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  This is fantastic news. Thank you to everyone involved, cant wait to see it.