Moshe's comment that the needier your are the faster they forget you, or something like that is very true, in my experience, i remember a family years ago, father laid up in a bed at home had major major back surgery, no money coming in, it was brought up to the elders and not once did the po, secretary, his book study conductor, or any other but a new elder ever come and see him, His situation was brought up in an elder's meeting and then quickly shoved aside as there were more than a few there that didn't like him and thought he was missing too many meetings. My family tried to help as we could as they had absolutely no $$$ coming in and were really destitute, the congregation didn't even pony up any $$$ to help that family, no did any bro's come and mow lawn or help out in any way. It was out of sight and out of mind.