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  Have you hit your 50's? Are you feeling it, or do you still feel young?

  by restrangled in

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  i'm curious, because in my 40's i felt like a million dollars.

  i am starting to feel it,....i just don't have the stamina of working in the yard all day, coming in making dinner and getting the laundry done at the same time, or working full time.. i see the years in my face when i don't get enough sleep, and no amount of makeup makes a difference.

  my eyes seem to always look tired.

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  mindmelda

  Funny you should ask this...I turn 50 in a couple of weeks.

  I actually feel better in some ways than I did when I was younger. Worse in some ways physically.

  Mentally, much better without trying to be something I never was good at, being a JW.
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  Yay, I'm a registered voter!

  by mindmelda in

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  i went to renew my driver's license today, and decided to become a registered voter too!.

  i got a temp card and i'll get a permanent one in few weeks.. one more step out of jw bizarro world!.

  i had a turtle sundae at dairy queen to celebrate!

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  mindmelda

  I went to renew my driver's license today, and decided to become a registered voter too!

  I got a temp card and I'll get a permanent one in few weeks.

  One more step out of JW bizarro world!

  I had a turtle sundae at Dairy Queen to celebrate! It was good.

  Not that it's any of your beeswax, but I'm an Independent.
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  Whats with the karate chops????

  by highdose in

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  something i can't explain and i'm hoping someone here can: i've seen footage of people doing karate chops against bricks etc, when they slow the footage down to slow motion it shows that before the blow has struck the object breaks????.

  now whats going on there please?.

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  mindmelda

  One of my best friends is black belt in three kinds of martial arts.

  The physics of karate or "open hand" is interesting. It takes many years of literally micro fracturing certain bones of the body and forcing them to rebuild into amazing thickness to create a really awesomely strong weapon.

  The longer a person practices hitting objects (you start off with light things, obviously and work up!) the thicker the bones become until they are literally stronger than steel. Bone is ounce by ounce comparitively stronger than steel.

  The skull, hands and other parts of a long time karate practioner are amazingly thick and strong, like getting hit by an actual metal weapon. Then, you learn a technique that drives the whole energy of the blow through the body part used, the hand, the head, the foot...whatever.

  Karate is one of the harder MAs to really master, obviously. Kendo, tai kwando, and other forms of MA are somewhat less hard as they can use weapons to augment the blows. Karate uses only parts of the body made into weapons.

  There are also martial arts that use chi manipulation like Russian systema,(very freaky...there's youtube demos about it that will totally amaze you, it involves blows to precise areas that control certain nerves and can do all sorts of things to the opponents body functions...it's where the idea of the"Vulcan Nerve Pinch' came from on Star Trek) and those that use kickboxing/judo/boxing techniques.

  Kung fu or "gung fu" is a very generic term, and isn't necessarily about MA. It means becoming highly skilled at anything, mentally, spiritually and physically. One can become "gung fu" at cooking, or making a sword, or at scholarship.
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  What kind of Witness were you?

  by EmptyInside in

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  there always seemed to be some witnesses who seemed to be in it for the social aspect of it.

  the ones who planned most of the gatherings and trips.

  and the ones who got invited to the parties two states away.

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  mindmelda

  The worst kind, most of the time. I swore a lot, I read worldy books about all sorts of thing, watched R movies, watched porn, occasionally drank a lot (Oh, wait, most Witnesses do that!) made out in secret with other women and men, and occasionally sang Christmas carols. I stopped short of actual sexual intercourse with men, because I never wanted to get pregnant. Thanks to the Witlesses, I didn't know any way to prevent pregnancy aside from abstinence. I guess you could say I was immorally chaste. LOL

  I never shoved it down my kids throats and was accusing of "killing them" by other Witnesses. I spent most of my time feeling horribly guilty because I couldn't be a good girl and conform and believe wholeheartedly like the other Witnesses. I hated nearly every freaking goddam pointless minute of it.

  It's a wonder lightening didn't come out of heaven and kill me on the spot.

  Amazingly, never happened. The Devil must have been protecting me or something. LOL oh wait, that would mean that Satan is stronger than Jehovah.

  LOL, god their theology is hilarious when you start analyzing it with REAL logic, isn't it!

  Every day I wake up now and no matter how terrible things are, I think, At least I'm not a JW anymore.
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  When you were a loyal dub, did you ever turn down sexual advances?

  by asilentone in

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  when i was a loyal dub, i have turned down some gorgeous women.

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  mindmelda

  Oh, I was going to add...the Witnesses made me gay. LOL

  No, seriously, they made me so afraid of the opposite sex, that I hung around women thinking it was sexually safe.

  Because I'd never heard of bisexuality, I was very upset and confused when I kept being attracted to my female roommates and friends, all Witnesses of course. It was driving me nuts and I kept thinking I was demonized or mentally ill, something. I finally started going out with women on the sly occasionally, and some men too, and found I liked all of it. Very guiltily, but yes, like anyone else, without some mild sexual experimentation, no one can figure any of that out.

  I'm happily married to a guy and have been for years, but yes, I still find women sexually appealing too. He knows that, and fine with him. No biggie.

  Boy, does that Witness crap about sex totally screw with your brainmeats. I feel so sorry for all the kids reading what my gay BIL (also raised in the Truth, but wasn't allowed to get baptized a million years ago because he had a BEARD...LOL) calls the little Blue Book of Sexual Confusion, Unusuable Stupid Advice and Rabid Homophobia. Otherwise known as Young People Ask.

  I'm usually not for book burning, but that's the only real use for that fount of total nonsense.
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  Did leaving the WT build greater appreciation for or kill your reading of the Bible?

  by lepermessiah in

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  i am really on the fence on this issue right now and would love some opinions.. i find that i dont sit down and read the bible for long periods since becoming inactive, but on the other hand, individual scriptures mean much more to me now.. i will sit down and look up some favorite passages from time to time and feel like its the first time i really "got it" - without the jw goggles on.

  i love matthew chapter 23, since i think it describes to a tee the situation in jw congregations.

  i think if jesus returned today, he would blast the elders and "leaders" of the borg in a similar fashion (along with most religious leaders) .matthew 24 is actually more interesting to me now, simply because my whole life was waiting for the 1914 generation to end sometime during the reagan era!

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  mindmelda

  I still enjoy examining religion, the Bible, and all sorts of related things. I always did. It was one of the things that made me realize that the Witnesses don't know half of what they think they do about the Bible.

  The more I read, the more questions I had that they couldn't answer, and so I went elsewhere for answers. Best thing I ever did.

  I finally had to realize that there are no definite answers to some spiritual questions because it seems to be the essential nature of spirituality to keep questioning.

  Anyone who tells you they have all the answers is trying to sell you something, in other words. It's the same with religion or spirituality as try8ing to sell you soap, a car or a pig in a poke. LOL

  There's a saying in Buddhism, "One cannot fill a cup that is already full."

  The Witnesses believe their cup is full, so they're incapable of learning anything else. That is contrary to the essential nature of learning, spirituality and it's why they tend to be so depressed, narrow minded and stagnant. One could say the same of anyone who believes they already know everything, already know God, or anything. Aren't those kind of people just annoying as hell?

  The Buddhists say "Learn every way, then find your own way." That is actually what the word "gung fu" means. It's not about martial arts, it's about finding your own way to do everything by learning all ways to the best of your ability.

  It doesn't matter what it is, building a house, making a pie...it can all be "gung fu". "Gung" or "Kung" means skill or merit, fu means "man".

  It means the ongoing process of becoming a person of skill, regardless. Gung fu at spirituality is always a good thing, but the Witnesses...they're doing it wrong.

  First, empty the cup, fill it up, then...and keep doing that. That way, your cup will always be ready to fill.

  How's your gung fu? *G*
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  RANDY WATTER'S DAD JUST DIED

  by Mary in

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  randy watters, owner of freeminds.org father just died a couple of hours ago from pneumonia and alzheimers.

  he was 86 years old.

  as randy has been tireless in his efforts to help countless people come out of the wts, i would like to express my sincere condolences to him at this time.. .

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  mindmelda

  That's so sad, and anyone going through that has my complete empathy. My FIL passed away from the same in January. I'd been one of his caretakers for the previous 6 months, and that is so hard to deal with, but Alzheimers is such an awful condition. It takes everything from you before you die.
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  When you were a loyal dub, did you ever turn down sexual advances?

  by asilentone in

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  when i was a loyal dub, i have turned down some gorgeous women.

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  mindmelda

  Naturally...it's just part of life.

  One of those advances was from a married elder when I was a cute young thing of 23. He later got hand slapped for sleeping with another sister he went to counsel about her marriage to a worldly guy.

  It'd be a funnier story except that he knocked her up and splaining the kid to her husband who had just gotten a vasectomy was kind of tough.

  The pregnancy and her husband going over and giving Elder Can't Keep it In his Pants a punch in the nose was how the whole thing came out.

  The elder was very very sorry and not DFd...but the sister was. Boy, there's some justice for you. Apparently, like Eve, it's always those temptresses fault.

  You know, like if you don't scream and fight when being raped, it's all your fault too.

  Boy, the JWs hate women, it makes you wonder why there are so many women in it?

  Sorry, off on a tangent/rant there.
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  mothers anguish over satanic son

  by Weeping in

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  a cape town mother is living in fear that she may lose her son to a demonic curse.. .

  the frightened mother says her 12-year-old boy has vanished from home four times since an evil voice started luring him away.. .

  local holy men say there are satanic forces at play, trying to steal the boy's soul.. .

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  mindmelda

  Can I pet your puppy, Outlaw?

  I have a great love of dragons...I want one like that on my new denim jacket, I embroider that kind of stuff. I am crafty like that...with thread and stuff, not sneaky.
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  A serious question for Christians and Non-Christians: How Can Love Hate?

  by sabastious in

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  1 john 4:2 - whoever does not love does not know god, because god is love.. .

  what does the statement "god is love" mean?

  well quite simply that god = love.

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  mindmelda

  I'm not sure I can think of the New System as "loving" anymore. Mind control and living forever gardening, sheparding sheepies, petting pandas, tigers and lions and living under the thumb of the elders? *shudder*

  Gee, sounds like Bronze Age Palestine meets Sigmund and Roy, without the tribal wars, or the sparkly fashion sense.

  It's funny how the WTS "New System" always sounds so pastoral and...boring now.

  My idea of paradise these days is decent room service, a daquiri with the right amount of rum, discreet maids and a well hung Greek pool boy rubbing my back.

  But back to the love thing, I'm glad I wasn't the only one confuzzled by that question. I feel a bit smarter now.