Maybe I misunderstood you. Perhaps we can try over and see if we can nail down where we agree or not.
First off, I am (obviously) against censorship as well, as well as letting the various apologists for Islam get screentime (such as Glenn Greenwald or Reza Aslan). I am also against deplatforming. For some reason it is assumed in this thread and other places I somehow accept or apologize for these things and I can't tell where this confusion originated.
My issue is that the only reformers I am aware of (Ali, Newaz, Rizvi or, to mention someone without a Muslim background, Sam Harris) are in some form or another combining a critique of Islam with the idea Islam can and should reform into a more benign form. I would very much suggest you read Alis report to get an idea about the things she is proposing.
But that idea, that Islam can and should be reformed into a moderate form, can insofar as I see it only be promoted if one believes that Islam CAN exist in such a form. I.e. there is a "moderate Islam".
Similar to the above critics of Islam, I don't think moderate Islam follows easily from the Muslim scriptures, which arguably combines the worst of Judaism (legalism and brutality) with the worst of Christianity (promotion of faith-based thinking and dispensationalism), but as far as I understand them they all believe such a form of Islam can nevertheless exist, even if few "true moderates" exist today.
I do not know if you agree or disagree with the above points?
This gets me to the point about what it means to be a "good Muslim". I don't think that the premise that a "good Muslim" is by definition bloodthirsty is compatible with the view moderate Islam exists. We will essentially be saying: Come be a moderate Muslim. Sure, you won't be a good Muslim, but you will be moderate.
I don't think that this is the view that Ali, Nawaz or Rizvi is promoting, that is why I believe they too think there are ways to be a "good muslim" that does not involve acceptance of Sharia or the darker parts of the Quran, even though it requires mental gymnastics to adopt such a definition -- but fortunate, if there is one think religion teaches its members, it is mental gymnastics.
This again comes down to how obvious the view of Islam that e.g. ISIS is promoting follows necessarily from any reasonable definition of "A Muslim". According to e.g. ISIS it is 1:1; you can't have Islam without the view they are promoting. Proposing you can be a Muslim and not believing hands should be cut off for stealing is like saying you can be geologist and believe the earth is flat.
I don't think that is true (despite my comments regarding the morals of the Quran) and where I again refer to the beliefs of reformers and scholars such as Haykel. Fundamentally my disagreement with ISIS on this view comes down to how they see Islam as offering a 100% coherent view of the world and I don't. If you don't believe Islam is coherent, you got to cut things out and bend the truth to make it mesh with reality, and so you might as well cut out the things that prevent you from being a moderate. Again I refer to the discussion found in e.g. Alis policy proposal.