I doubt they " officially" disfellowshipped you, but once you stop going they treat you as if you are
truthseekeriam
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I ran into an active JW...surprised
by nolongerconfused inso as you all know, i have fully faded...i'm completely out and have not told the elders or da myself...just faded 100%.... so i run into an active jw, different congregation, and as i walk past him i say, "hey so and so, how are you doing?
"....he looks down, doesnt dare look at me in the eyeball and keeps walking...then a split second later he turns around and says, hey man, aren't yuo disfellowshipped?....
i was like wtf?...lol, i said "not that i know of"...i asked him who told him such thing?...he wouldnt tell me who, but he had "heard"...so i just left it at that and told him if he wants to know then to contact my ex-elders.... my thing is, could the elders have df'ed me without me knowing it?...i have not been accused of their so called "apostasy", nor have i received a letter requesting info or to set up a meeting, nor a call...the coordinating elder (formally president/presiding overseer) still texts me all the time saying hi etc...no religious texts or anything like that).
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Have you ever shunned someone and then later regretted it?
by 00DAD inlately, i've been reading a number of thread lately that deal with this topic.
one particularly poignant experience came from simon.
in simon's story he shares: .
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truthseekeriam
Personally, no. I could never bring myself to follow that rule...I would always smile and say hello.
My sister on the other hand newly baptized and with strong advice from the sister that studied with her shunned our disfellowshipped mother. It's something she deeply retreats now and has damaged their relationship even though our mother is now back in the religion.
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Sex abuse prosecution hurdles
by Tylinbrando inwhat is frustrating to me is that even if the wbts and silentlambs, attorneys and parents who have been contacted before law enforcement of sex abuse disclosures were to pick up their phones immediately and call the police to report alleged sex abuse, there is still a huge amount of hurdles to clear before an alleged abuser will be brought to justice.
investigations gathering evidence that is deemed to be prosecutable can take months.
diliberations by district attorneys before a judge can take months.
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truthseekeriam
Yeah...it does take way too long.
I know for my daughter it was worth the wait to see her abuser handcuffed and taken into custody after his conviction.
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truthseekeriam
Good to hear.
hopefully Dateline will do the update!!
We still have Rick McLean to find as well! I so hate child molesters!!
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Sickening Dilemma
by ItsMyLife ini would like to have your opinions on what i should do about a situation please.. i have recently discovered that a 'brother' in the congregation (which i no longer attend) is a child molester.
i've seen documentation from his psychiatrist dated a few years ago, stating that he doesn't feel that this person is likely to offend again.
the 'brother' has said to the elders at some point that he has it under control but cannot be 100% sure it won't happen again.
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truthseekeriam
My heart is racing right now....please, I beg you..please do something. My daughter was molested at 9 years old by a very trusted ex elder who everyone loved and supported. No one believed this brother would molest children and a few brothers and sisters actually testified as character witnesses when the case went to trial. Thankfully, a jury seen right threw him and he was convicted but our lives will never ever be the same:(
If I could do anything to avoid another family from going through what we did, I would in a second...please do something! The studies show that molesters rarely ever stop...always error on the side of protecting helpless children.
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At what age do you think people should start dating? What age did you start?
by MsGrowingGirl20 inhey guys!
i hope that everyone is still holding on amidst all the struggles.. i know that there are parents, older ones, middle age and younger ones here.. sooo, my question isss- what age did you start dating and what age do you truly believe people should start dating?
and why?.
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truthseekeriam
Like Mrs. Jones I have an 18 year old son and a 15 year old daughter. My son had his first girlfriend at 15 and dated with supervision for about a year.Now he's busy in college and job searching. My daughter is not really interested just yet, she enjoys hanging with her group of friends for movies and dances :) I hope it lasts because she's a pretty girl and her daddy is very protective.
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Anyone Else See Les Miserables?
by BizzyBee ini went to see it today - by myself (mr bee is on a golf junket).
i was glad that that i was by myself because i cried so much at the end, i wouldn't have wanted to be with anyone who wasn't crying - and that would not have been mr bee!.
les miserables the current film is adapted from what is considered one of the half-dozen greatest novels of the past 150 years and one of the longest novels ever written.
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truthseekeriam
I agree with Shamus about Rusell Crowe:)
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Anyone Else See Les Miserables?
by BizzyBee ini went to see it today - by myself (mr bee is on a golf junket).
i was glad that that i was by myself because i cried so much at the end, i wouldn't have wanted to be with anyone who wasn't crying - and that would not have been mr bee!.
les miserables the current film is adapted from what is considered one of the half-dozen greatest novels of the past 150 years and one of the longest novels ever written.
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truthseekeriam
Loved it!! My teenage daughter is a big theater and music fan and has been waiting for months to see this movie so of course I took her and we both cried our eyes out.
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Calling all posters! What are YOUR questions for Candace Conti, Rick Simons and Kelly Kraetsch?
by cedars ini am pleased to announce that candace conti, and her key lawyers rick simons and kelly kraetsch are planning a youtube video to answer any questions that people in our community may have regarding the recent conti v watchtower lawsuit.
i have offered to coordinate the gathering of these questions, and i thought it might be fun to do it in a "competition" style jwn thread, with the best answers being chosen by kelly, rick and candace to be addressed in the video.. as you can imagine, there are some provisos to this.... this is an active lawsuit, so for obvious legal reasons kelly, rick and candace will have the absolute and final decision as to which questions are answered and how much information is divulged when they are answered.we need the answers in the next 7 days, so the "cut off" for this competition is exactly 7 days from the time this thread goes live on jwn.we kindly request that all questions are asked in a respectful manner without any malicious or offensive intent.
any inappropriate questions will obviously be discarded and ignored.
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truthseekeriam
I would love to ask Candace how she is doing now?
Is she is satisfied with the outcome of her case so far?
Does she plan on continuing in her effort towards protecting the children of the WTS ?
last question would be...does she know what a wonderful example she has become for those of us who have had to deal with molestation within the WTS?
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Who have you seen in concert?
by pontoon inmy short list; lynard skynard, beach boys, carole king, yes, doobie brothers, rod stewart, ringo starr.. all star band, styx, gordon lightfoot, moody blues.
can you tell i like the older stuff?.
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truthseekeriam
Luther Vandross
Prince
Stevie B and Lisa Lisa
Bruno Mars
Anita Baker
Robert Palmer
George Michael
by the way I just gave my husband of 20 years the evil eye because we haven't been to a concert together in many years :) Time to change that.