my dad is an elder, who i thought i could trust with a big personal family issue. he in turn told his best friend ( also an elder ) the whole thing. then his friend told his wife who in turn told a COUNTLESS amount of people. It turned into a HUGE mess. When I found out about it, i called my dad who denied telling anyone. I asked him "Daddy do you swear on Jehovah?" He said of COURSE! I then said " Daddy I know you are lying. So-in-so just called me and told me that they heard all about what I told you"
Then it was like complete silence. He didnt know what to say, he was caught in a lie. And a huge one at that. I had a really hard time for a LONG time dealing with him lying to me and even SWEARING on Jehovah's name with him being an elder and all. My mom even told me that I needed to forgive and forget and get over it. Hello, how am i supposed to have any faith in ANY elder if I cant even trust my own FATHER!!! I had been before a judicial commitee before and it just makes me think that everything i ever said in that meeting was never confidential and everybody knows about it...
Anyway that is how my fading slowly started..which followed by seeing people i used to talk to at meetings in public places and having them completly ignore me. i mean that really hurts!!!