Nope thought it was crap. THe headship arrangement never played a part in our marriage at all and we were pioneers and he was a ministerial servant.
meangirl
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The WT Headship Principle (tm): Did you ever REALLY buy it?
by Open mind ini believed that god was the big boss and his first-line supervisor was jesus.. .
everything beyond that got a bit shaky for me throughout my jw life.. .
but this bit, i never bought into for even an instant: the husband is the head of the wife.. .
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Why Women Love Jerks
by compound complex indo nice guys lose to bad boys?.
[see advert.
i'm afraid to look ...].
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meangirl
I think it is because we as a society do not hold men accountable. We almost expect men to be jerks. It is almost as if men get extra credit for any act of kindness. If men were held accountable for their actions then they would have to change their behavior. Also most people do not stop and think for themselves and just follow what is considered "normal". Normal in our society is the alpha male. It is acceptable for a man to be domineering, rude, loud, aggressive but these same qualities are still not acceptable for a woman. I despise these kinds of men and believe that a "real" man does not need to put on some kind of facade.
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Did having a Bethelite travel to your congregation and deliver a talk motivate, encourage, or excite you?
by miseryloveselders ini ask this, because i just got wind that at my hall, we're paying the travel expenses for a bethelite to come and do our memorial talk.
i don't know how much this is going to run us, but i fail to see the practicality of it.
he's not delivering a special memorial outline or anything.
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meangirl
No never inspired or motivated me. They mostly annoyed me. I hated how everyone fawned over them....I was like they are just a freaking person. They were usually geeky ones at that.
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seperating anger for WT from my mom
by dogisgod ini posted this earlier under the bitterness post.
how do i seperate the anger i have being raised in the borg from my mother who forced it down my throat even after i left.
she justwouldn't leave it alone.
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meangirl
So sorry to hear about that. Your mom sounds like she was crazy and that is why she was attracted to the JW's. They tend to draw the crazies. There must be some sort of physocolgical condition where moms treat their daughters like crap and put their sons on pedastols. I don't understand it at all. It is almost as if they expected us to be nurturing towards our brothers.....I myself was molested by my oldest brother at the age of 4 and so I can relate to your pain. I also know the pain of when you finally have the nerve to come out and tell your parents who are supposed to protect you and they just dismiss you as if you don't count. There are no answers. The only thing I can say is time heals all wounds. I tell myself I am an adult. I am in control of my life now and the best thing I can do is to get on with MY life. I call the shots now. ME. That is what keeps me sane. Hang in there.
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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?
by brotherdan ini thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.
i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.
no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.
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meangirl
Fader. Only meetings we have been to as a family in the past 2 years is the memorial and I don't even know if I will go this year. I sent a letter disassociating myself to an elder through email and copied that letter to all my JW's including friends/family about 2 years ago but my mom called the elder and begged me not to disassociate myself. So I did not. Just recently I even sent an email to all the JW's I know including an elder in my old hall attaching the letter saying how sisters were not to bind the elder book and even put a snarky message with it like "I know I am just a lowly sister but if you need help binding your new elder's book I will be happy to do so." That has not even gotten me in trouble!!!! I think they all know how badly we were treated and honestly don't even try and defend the society anymore......So I guess I am a very successful fader and I AM THE MASTER FADER!
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seperating anger for WT from my mom
by dogisgod ini posted this earlier under the bitterness post.
how do i seperate the anger i have being raised in the borg from my mother who forced it down my throat even after i left.
she justwouldn't leave it alone.
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meangirl
I think what people are missing here is that dogisgod said her mom did not force it on her 2 brothers but shoved it down her throat. I can totally relate. I had 3 brothers of course 2 were over 18 when mom learned the "truth" but the youngest brother was only 16 and he was not forced like me. I think it would be easier to take if you could look at it and say well mom did that to all of us but no she cannot say that. She has to painfully admit that it was only done to her and believe me that is VERY difficult to come to terms with. It is hard not to be a "victim" or take it personally when it so obvious was. Maybe it was because we were females and they were afraid we would get pregnant? I don't know. I can't wrap my head around the double standard.....All I can say is hang in there. Maybe try and focus your energy on something YOU enjoy and focus on YOU. That is what I am trying to do...
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WT Society's Paranoia Over Spiral Binding of Elder's Textbook - Crazy
by flipper inthis letter was sent as an addendum to the elders regarding their latest elders textbook.
i think you'll find this interesting and also disconcerting as well.. to all bodies of elders.
re: spiral binding of shepherding textbook.
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meangirl
Oh and 3mozzies love it!!!!
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My story
by whathappened inhi, i am grandma jones sister.
i have been a naughty girl lately.
i have missed an entire month of meetings and have no fs time for november or december.
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meangirl
Welcome and thanks for sharing your story. All I can say is wow and I am so sorry you had to go through all that. Sending hugs your way.
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2011 district convention
by obarac insomebody know the theme of this years district convention or is still top secret?.
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meangirl
I don't know either but welcome.
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WT Society's Paranoia Over Spiral Binding of Elder's Textbook - Crazy
by flipper inthis letter was sent as an addendum to the elders regarding their latest elders textbook.
i think you'll find this interesting and also disconcerting as well.. to all bodies of elders.
re: spiral binding of shepherding textbook.
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meangirl
Aw thanks Flipper! Very SweetOh and Mary that is freakin awesome!!!!!! You just made me laugh soooo hard!