dub,
My mother got baptized right after I was born. She had no clue what it was like growing up in the religion. You are right about the priorities being messed up, that the organization came first.
JK
Posts by JRK
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25Being a JW kid is hell
by JRK inin therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.
i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.
upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.
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Being a JW kid is hell
by JRK inin therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.
i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.
upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.
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In therapy, I was told I should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents. I really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a Jehovah's Witness. Upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.
I am going to share the letter I wrote to my mother because it describes JW childhood in a nutshell. Please share in the comments some of your experiences growing up JW.
Mom,
I wish you never became a JW and wish I would have never been in a cult. It was because of that, and the idealistic viewpoint you had that got me beat up in school. I got picked on because I couldn’t say the Pledge of Allegiance in school, and not stand for the national anthem. I had to not go to sports “pep rallies” so I had to spend that time in detention.
I got beat up a lot because you told me to “turn the other cheek” like Jesus said. Once kids knew I would not fight back, they picked on me and hit me a lot in school. Being a JW kid is pure hell. That and I was not encouraged to get a higher education. Education was of no value unless it was for the cult. That is why I never brought homework home, I always just tried to do it when I got to school in the morning, and my grades suffered. I could have really excelled in school if I just had any encouragement.
I was very angry at you when finally remembered in therapy and told you about Elder DD molesting me when I was a child. I told you about it, and you were matter of fact about it and not angry. Then when he died, you were sad and tried to tell me how wonderful he was. That hurt me considering my history with him.
I do appreciate all the wonderful things that you did do for me, and you were my closest person in the world. Through thick and thin I could count on you. You helped me so much when I had my crazy times and we never shunned each other. You were always there when I needed you. I am glad that is the one cult thing that you and I did not ever follow.
I wish you were still here, but I am very happy that your suffering is over. I loved you very much! I promise that I will keep feeding your birds.
Love,
JK
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Memorial.. To go or not to go
by Emily1987 inso, as some of you will know myself and my husband are in the process of fading.
haven't been to a meeting since beginning of 2017. .
we weren't planning on going to the memorial, but last week my mother broke down and said that we have to go to the memorial even if it's the only meeting i go to this year.
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JRK
In my city, there are a number of venues for the memorial, including non-Kingdom Halls. Could you fib and say you went to another "celebration?"
JK
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Is porn really such a big problem in the wt?
by purrpurr inin the most recent circuit assembly there was a lot about porn and warning against porn.
even warning against looking at swim wear adverts!
so i was wondering, is porn really such an issue in the wt?.
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JRK
Why else do they hump their pillows?
JK
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After leaving the JWs - Has anyone stayed with Christianity?
by rulehayl ini recently made the decision to stop studying with my study conductor, due to a situation i found myself in that led to a high possibility of my unbaptized publisher "rights" being taken away from me.
i have since told my study conductor i have joined a new church (to which she dropped me like a hot rock, of course).... last time i posted on here, i was progressing nicely towards baptism, and was well into it.anyhoo, i like my new church, very hillsong-esqe.
so just wondering if anyone else has stayed the course of christianity after leaving the jws, and if so - where did you go?
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JRK
My personal experience is no, I was done with religion after leaving the JWs.
I know of people that left and got sucked into other cults. One went into Scientology and another became Mormon.
Some others leave and look for a mainstream religion. One of my best friends started like that but later evolved into a total atheist.
Just do what you want for now, and know that you are free to develop into the true "you" over time. Life is not a race!
JK
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Shunning article on Yahoo appears for second day in a row!
by eyeuse2badub inthe detroit free press article from yesterday that made front page news on yahoo makes it on yahoo again today!
good to see the main line news paying attention to what kind of sh*t goes on inside the watchtower.
and to think that this bad publicity is happening during the "memorial season" (lol memorial season).. just saying!.
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Religious PTSD
by Warren Wilson ini have been clear now for 22 years but i am still obsessed.
after going on and on about my experiences to friends and family i have finally realised that no one is interested.. they have won.
no one cares about my ptsd or my suicide attempts or my alcohosm.. i have no one to talk to about this but i really need to get the infection out of my system because it is killing me..
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JRK
A good therapist can be invaluable. Get one that specializes in Compound PTSD and Cult Exiting. I have recently found my best therapist that helped me with issues 6 years ago. It is like peeling an onion, one layer at a time.
I actually was relieved when I found out it was PTSD instead of me just being fucking crazy. Address the cause, and the other issues may just go away.
Good luck,
JK
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Life is a bag of Sh^t
by JRK inhappy st. paddy's day.. that being said, life is a bag of shit.. so please give me some sort of positivity in this post.. i wish i could get it from whom i would like it from, but that is a bullshit dream.. life sucks then you die!.
jk.
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JRK
Thanks, everyone! I am doing a bit better now. The emotional flashbacks can be hell, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
JK
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The Ides of March - also May, July, and October
by Tara N Seals intoday i learned something new about the roman calendar.. calends, nones, and ides.. education never ceases..
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JRK
Et tu?
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He Loved Her, by Snowbird
by compound complex inhe loved her.
from the time she was a faded-denim-overall/flannel-shirted-wearing 3rd grader until she was a bell-bottomed-jeans/embroidered-dirndl-top/afro'd teenager.. when they graduated high school and went their separate, fortune-seeking ways, he loved her.. hundreds of miles apart, lonely and sad, each let their bucket down into the well of life and drank warily of its contents.
yet, he continued to love her.. forty years, two marriages apiece, kids and grandkids, he still loved her.. divorcing, retiring, selling out, cashing in a 401k, moving back down south - home!
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JRK
I don't have SHIT