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  stepchildren!!!

  by fern in

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  2. friends

  ok, i just have to vent for a minute!

  i have known these two teenage girls for six years now and in that time they have wiped buggars on my furniture and walls, pooped their pants and continued to deny they had done it and refused to clean up and change their clothes.

  they also routinely get poo and menstrual blood on the toilet seat and don't clean it up until i make them.

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  vikesgirl101

  Jamie always has the best advice, doesn't she?

  I was actually very pleased to find this thread, because I have two daughters ages 8 and 13. My 13 year old can be very manipulative and selfish. My 8 year old has full grasp that she is the center of the universe. Actually the younger one is better. The reason I find this thread so interesting is that it made me realize that in my relationships with others (my boyfriend of 8 months) that parenting is tough. It could easily destroy a relationship of good potential.

  So now I put myself in your husband's shoes, because I am that person. If my signifigant other came to me, complaining of petty problems, I may roll my eyes. But if I knew that it drained him emotionally, well then he would have my attention. I agree that you are not going to get far being the evil stepmom, and making extra rules. But your husband should realize that he is being walked on.

  Two months ago my 13 year old pulled the garbage your stepchildren did. I walked into her room, and gave her a list. I said "You picked the wrong day to piss me off Missy..." Her punishment was she pays her cellphone bill. Any more attitude, and she spends the days I work with her overbearing grandfather. She has chores on a daily basis. Laying down the law and standing up was the best thing I did. She cried, she apologized, and ultimately, she changed.

  A kick in the ass (hypothetically speaking) isn't always the worst thing. It reminds them that they are NOT in control. Coddling them will only encourage it.

  JUST IMHO
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  Have you Overcome " Fear " and " Guilt " Instilled in us by the Witnesses ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  steve hassan mentions that the 2 main tactics mind control cults use to control people is " fear " and " guilt " .. definition of fear in the readers digest oxford dictionary : " an unpleasant emotion caused by exposure to danger , expectation of pain, etc.

  a state of alarm.

  anxiety for the safety of, danger, feel anxiety or apprehension about.

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  vikesgirl101

  Flipper: I just love your posts. It is like being wrapped in a big hug. I love how you acknowledge everyone on the board, and are so encouraging.

  You are right, I did not have a choice; most of us didn't have a choice. We were born under the ill fate of being in a JW family. You are not allowed to question doctrines, or to choose a different path. A friend of mine told me that some stricter religions allow their teenagers to have one year to decide what path to follow. I think it was Menonites, but I am not sure. There are no questions asked, as to what they decide in the end. I wish my fade could have been that pleasant. It is easy to feel like a hideous beast when your blood relatives scatter like termites, afraid that they might catch "The Apostate diesease" if they acknowlege you.

  As far as the overdose, I learned that suicidal tendancies are common in people trying to leave the BORG. I choose to count it as a rite of passage, at this point, and a dark time that is to be overcome. No use wallowing in it. Life is too splendid to not enjoy to the fullest!!
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  Committee Meeting Wants Details, oh BS

  by Leprechaun in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i remember when i like a real stupid ass went to a committee meeting for enjoying committing so called immorality, when in my view i was making love and i enjoyed every dam minute of it.

  well any way those stupid elders whom i knew personally for many years wanted to know every juicy (no pun intended) tid bit of what went on between me and this good friend of mine, a long time sister in good standing, i told them what the hell, you guys dont know what sex is!

  you stupid asss!

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  vikesgirl101

  I do not doubt for a single moment this poster's story. I believe it did happen. It happened to me as well. There was no brushing it under the rug. I had two THREE hour meetings (that is six hours!!) of questioning. They wanted ALL DETAILS!!

  I have talked to other ministrers, pastors, and etc in recent months. They were mortified by this. They also felt it was extremely inappropriate. That is the way I feel too.

  Sorry for your bad expeience.
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  I am sure you need to see this

  by mouthy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  http://rocnow.com/article/local-news/2009907050364.

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  vikesgirl101

  “One of the things that Jehovah’s Witnesses are known for is the love among them

  Until you do or say something out of line. Especially doubting or asking too many questions. Then you're kicked to the curb.

  Heaven: Amen to that! That is exactly what I was thinking.
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  Theocratic parental horror stories

  by vikesgirl101 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  so i am reading my new favorite book "i'm perfect, you're doomed" and the flashbacks have started.

  this book is like my childhood all over again.

  anywho, it reminded me of the horror stories my parents would create.

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  vikesgirl101

  Loving parents use the rod Beating kids mentally and physically to mold them is Godly training.
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  Have you Overcome " Fear " and " Guilt " Instilled in us by the Witnesses ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  steve hassan mentions that the 2 main tactics mind control cults use to control people is " fear " and " guilt " .. definition of fear in the readers digest oxford dictionary : " an unpleasant emotion caused by exposure to danger , expectation of pain, etc.

  a state of alarm.

  anxiety for the safety of, danger, feel anxiety or apprehension about.

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  vikesgirl101

  I overdosed twice last year, due to guilt. I felt too unworthy to live. It makes me feel psychotic to think about it now. But I had to start seeing a therapist. She was initally leery of a JW client. But I stripped myself of all the things that were making me mentally sick. I was better without meds. My husband was a controller, and the borg, well they were always what they have been. But I pulled away from all that and started fresh. My therapist told me to look into recovering JW's. It was great to find others JUST LIKE ME: struggling. Then one day it hit me that I apologize for everything. I stopped that. Some things are beyond my control. I had to realize that. The guilt still lingers, but I have a second voice now that tells me to move forward, and not look back. I think it is my confidence being born.
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  July 2009 KM

  by vwagen01 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  anyone have a copy of the july 2009 km?

  i can't seem to find it anywhere.

  thanks!

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  vikesgirl101

  vwagen01 : Welcome!!! I apologize, I didn't see your post earlier. However, I don't have a KM. Sorry.
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  Minnesota drunk drivers

  by vikesgirl101 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  minnesota has a policy that if you have been nailed for too many dwi's, they give you what are called "whiskey plates".

  this is a license plate that starts with a big fat "w", so everybody knows you are a lush.

  yesterday, as i driving to the mall, i see a wheelchair van with whiskey plates.

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  vikesgirl101

  Minnesota has a policy that if you have been nailed for too many DWI's, they give you what are called "Whiskey plates". This is a license plate that starts with a big fat "W", so everybody knows you are a lush. Yesterday, as I driving to the mall, I see a Wheelchair van with whiskey plates. Is it me, or is this just a bad omen?
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  OK Magazine Puts MJ's Death Photo on the Cover

  by jamiebowers in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i could hardly believe it was true when i read about this on msn.

  here is the link.

  don't click on it unless you want to see the cover:.

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  vikesgirl101

  I think it is just tacky. He can't even have any peace in death. The media should be ashamed of themselves. This is low, even for them.
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  Theocratic parental horror stories

  by vikesgirl101 in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  so i am reading my new favorite book "i'm perfect, you're doomed" and the flashbacks have started.

  this book is like my childhood all over again.

  anywho, it reminded me of the horror stories my parents would create.

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  vikesgirl101

  This is so in the wrong thread. Sorry. I don't know how to move it to the right topic.