Posts by bluecanary

I'm about an hour and a half from the NC border. I used to live in NC. I've got some (non-Dub) family there. I'm glad I'm not the only one in this area.

kurt, I went to pioneer school with some people from Martinsville. I used to live in Danville.

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Question on Divorce when NOT scrip free.

by wantstoleave in

hope some light can be shed for me here :).

to cut a long story short, ex left me well over a year ago and filed divorce proceedings on me from another country.

was thrown out of court as the jurisdiction wasn't correct.

bluecanary

You can lose "privileges" like commenting at meetings, being on the school and auxilliary pioneering. That's what they did to me.

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Watchtower Quotes on Mind-control

by OnTheWayOut in

many are not sure or deny that wts is a dangerous mind-control cult.

here is some food for thought on the "dangerous mind-control" part of that.

(cut and pasted from http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=122936768817 jehovah's disfellowshipped witnesses/facebook).

After a week, this is where I'm at.....

by wantstoleave in

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i have been active on this board a week now and i think for the most part, my head is alot clearer now.

previously when i'd considered leaving the organisation, i had no other knowledge to back up my feelings.

i simply just wanted to leave and thought that come armageddon, i would die.

bluecanary

I didn't realize you were getting divorced. My heart goes out to you.

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Just worn out

by EmptyInside in

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friends

i thought it best i stay a lurker.

it's just right now, i'm going through some doubts and just plain discouraged.

sometimes, trying to do everything just wears me out, and i feel like i'm suffocating.

You may have heard this before but I will say it here because it's important: Being in a bad marriage can make you lonlier than being single. Unfortunately, a lot of us who married JWs experienced bad marriages. As bad as you feel about being single (and I know, I've BEEN there; those conventions were such a miserable experience) you are fortunate to have escaped a worse fate. That's little comfort right now, I know.

There are two points I want to make to you. First, the world (and I mean that in the normal sense, not just the JW sense) is full of wonderful men. Give yourself permission to find one of them. It is not too late for you to find love. Get yourself a book on dating so you can do it the smart way and not fall prey to the risks that us naive JW girls aren't always savvy to.

The second, and most important point is this: the emptiness inside of you cannot be filled by another person. It can only be filled by you. You may feel scared or depressed by things that you're thinking right now, but they will only go away with MORE thought, rather than less. Let yourself think. Let yourself research. Let yourself become YOU rather than what you've been told you ought to be. In this way you will find happiness as well as make yourself a more attractive person to some of those wonderful men.

Much happiness to you.

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Apprehension about the holidays

by greenie in

so...i've been feeling a tightness in my chest thinking about the upcoming holiday season.

you know, october = halloween; november=thanksgiving; december=christmas, etc.

i'm not sure how to approach them with my dub (for those who don't know, i'm a non-jw, never have been one, never will be).

bluecanary

If it helps, this is the particular scripture that PS mentioned: Romans 14:5-10

5 One person considers one day to be above another day. Someone else considers every day to be the same. Each one must be fully convinced in his own mind. 6 Whoever observes the day, observes it to the Lord. Whoever eats, eats to the Lord, since he gives thanks to God; and whoever does not eat, it is to the Lord that he does not eat, yet he thanks God. 7 For none of us lives to himself, and no one dies to himself. 8 If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. 9 Christ died and came to life for this: that He might rule over both the dead and the living. 10 But you, why do you criticize your brother? Or you, why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God.

If he mentions the scriptures where someone gets beheaded, ask him if it's ok for JWs to play soccer. Then inform him that soccer originated with kicking the heads of conquered enemies around.

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Trying To Make JW's Seem "Normal", One Cult Member At a Time

by AllTimeJeff in

it hasn't been till the last couple of months that i have even given a passing thought to jw apologists.

as welcome as they are to post their opinions, i am struck by something that i recognize in myself and others as i reflect on my jw past.. basically, there comes a certain point, where if you are going to stay a jw and you are of a bit more "liberal" mindset, that you will try to change the focus a bit.. i recall this happened to me.

as a ms, i was very gung ho for most jw dogma and ways of dealing with people.

bluecanary

What an excellent thread.

willyloman, thanks for sharing your experience. Your comment about becoming an American reminds me of an episode of M*A*S*H; when BJ had to make an impossible decision between lives, he said at that point he became a soldier.

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Question about your spouse or ex

by bluecanary in

i've noticed we have a few male posters here with wives who are still in the jws.

and i can think of one female poster (cognac) with a husband in the jws (although things are looking up for her).

of course we have a few spouses that came out together.. is it me, or does it seem like the women here are more likely to have divorced their jw husband--even before leaving--whereas the men are more likely to stay with their wives?

bluecanary

Thanks for responses everyone.

the real life, welcome to the board

Flipper, I'm very glad you found Mrs. Flipper.