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  Three latest....opinions please

  by SheilaM in

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  this is the poem i wrote about my fear of my son going into the military.. .

  my fear.

  it should feel soft as silk,.

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  Each deal with one emotion, which I think is good for poems, right? And I think I felt a bit of what you felt in each one. My favorite is the Lilacs and Marshmallows. I thought I would give a shot at specific comments. Please take these as constructive, not critical. I can't do what you do. A poet I am not.

  I wonder if description could be tightened up in spots.

  In My Fear, everything is shiny and presentable except for the crumbling earth and death, which simply heightens the irony. How we do try to cover the awfulness of death.

  New shiny mahogany I believe It’s first and only début

  how about something like

  Shiny mahogany or rich mahogany or rich, shiny mahogany or glorious, rich mahogany (new can be inferred)
  on display just this once, it's first and only showing, in view for this short, short time (sigh. I don't like any of my suggestions. I just found debut a little forced, first and only a bit conversational rather than poetic.)

  I like how Jagged pieces skeets across the page. Much how a fractured person must feel sometimes.

  Guilt tripping,

  Tragedy Vampires (could you use something other than cliches to describe what they DID to you? Can you describe by actions, body language? Screaming, shoving, cooly rejecting, )

  Each Having

  Clear

  Specific expectations of me.(clear but conflicting, right? Pulling you in different directions. Again, could it be described by specific actions or events?)
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  Comment to JW's on latest KH Meeting (Please add your comments!!)

  by bk62 in

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  i again went to the sunday meeting with my wife, in order to "keep abreast" and look for any flaws to exploit.

  lo and behold, this was a "special" meeting b/c the "circuit overseer???

  " was there to put his spin on things.

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  My honey had a similar chair experience at his KH. The wife of his bible study leader (whom he had been in the habit of joining) made a point of placing her book bag on the chair beside her. They were moved when a young woman joined them. One can never be to careful whom one sits with. Even those attending may not be the best association.
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  Still do not know where I fit in the picture.....

  by LyinEyes in

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  today is easter sunday, my younger kids went with cousins to hunt for eggs.

  i saw many people out and about in their sunday finest with family going to church......... i go to the grocery store in my hooter's tshirt......... i know it takes time after leaving the borg to find your place,,,,,,,,,but i am wondering if i will ever feel differently than i do now?

  i can't put my true heart into celebrating xmas, or easter,,,,,,these religious holidays mean nothing to me.

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  Dede, I still have trouble around Easter. Let me know if you relate to some of my feelings. I think the trouble stems from not having a foundation of tradition and memories around the Easter holidays that have significance for me. My old church, just like the JW's, frowned on the whole easter bunny-egg thing as pagan. Instead, we treated ourselves to a drama reenacting Jesus' death and resurrection. His death still makes me cry. I guess I could watch the drama again, but I am more in the mood to celebrate. And I have decided that chocolate eggs and bunnies are harmless. But without a foundation of memories and traditions, I feel adrift.

  I think I know what the cure is. Develop a brand new set of traditions that give me and my family pleasure. The joy on my Naomi's face was priceless as she opened her little basket. I forgot to hide the eggs, so she hid them instead. My honey saw where, and teased her all night that he would take them. Keeping him away from her eggs occupied her for most of the night. I had my children over for dinner. I guess the meal was non-traditional (potatoes, turkey breasts and vegetable slouvlaki) but it was tasty. Naomi entertained herself by spearing the vegetables she didn't like and waving them around like little flags.

  I might just incorporate a lovely family tradition shared here, where a mother told her son she would always be there for him, as they gazed at the full moon. After all, isn't that what Jesus wanted to tell his dear friends as they ate their last meal together, that he would always be there for them?
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  I hate my Grandaughter's father!

  by Thunder Rider in

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  friends,.

  i have a bit of a dilema.

  years ago a young man began to pursue a relationship with my daughter.

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  You are not going to like what I have to say. Your daughter is a grown woman, so she shares some of the blame for playing this on-again off-again game with this man. She picked him, and keeps picking him.

  The police dread domestic disturbance calls more than any other. When they step in to arrest the 'bad guy', sometimes the victim will turn on them! The good guys! Come to charge the 'precious, darling' bad guy who 'never meant to hurt nobody' with a crime!

  Thunder, even if it means grinding your teeth to dust, do not run in to rescue a girl who does not want to be rescued. She could turn on you. Instead, concentrate on helping your daughter see where her thinking is twisted. Don't tell her this outright, ask probing questions. Help her to think. Take it slow. Follow your wife's lead on this one.

  My dad knew my first husband was a waste of planet space. He had ground his teeth to dust before I woke up and walked away. Even so, he was my dad, and when push came to shove there were things he just would not do. Like, he refused to sign the papers so that I could marry underage. I was furious with him at the time, but I respect him now for his stand. So, even though you cannot force these lovebirds apart, you can refuse to support something you just know in your heart of hearts is wrong.
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  What was your worst experience?

  by CC Ryder in

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  aside from being interrogated at your jc meeting, what was your worst experience while being a jw?.

  i have two bad experiences, both similar, in that they dealt with the unjust no blood rule.

  i was present while a very close friend of mine died from not taking blood while he was suffering from a burst pancreas.

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  Being a never-JW, all my experiences are second hand. The worst so far is when my honey confessed he was seeing a 'worldly girl'. He was severely counselled for that. He was given a sheet with the "unequally yoked" scripture and other dire warnings. When he explained he had prayed long and hard about his decision, and had decided to trust his eternal reward in Jehovah's hands, he was told, "What makes you think Jehovah hears your prayers?"

  That single statement cost my honey many sleepless nights.

  What earthly human has the power to cut off a man's access to God? Shame on them.
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  The new kid

  by Beanie in

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  i'm new to this site - have been checking it out for the past few nights.

  i was raised as a jw from the age of 6. i am now 26 and have two children.

  being in the truth was always a rather conflicting thing for me.

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  Great to meet you, Beanie! A few days lurking, huh, and you can already taste the freedom? You are a fast learner. It sounds like your hubby could use some support to help grow past the society, too.
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  My 12 year old's spiritual quest..I could use some advice

  by Eyebrow2 in

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  for the last few years, my son has been thinking about what happens when you die.

  it has caused many a nights lost sleep for him.

  today he asked me (for the upteenth time) what i thought happens when you die.

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  How about some light reading - The Lion the Witch, and the Wardrobe - Narnia series? It does come from a christian perspective, but it is chock full of mythological figures and is full of allegory. He might like it. ...or is that too young for this twelve year old? I am so out of touch...
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  More conditional, emotional blackmail...business as usual for the Duds

  by Maverick in

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  my daughter is graduating from high school next month.

  she has lived with me all her life.

  her mother, a good and faithful dud, ran off with a 'worldly' co-worker five years ago.

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  This sounds like typical jerky ex-spouse behavior. The JW's just give another excuse. Children are most impressed if you take the high road at times like these. Even if steam is coming out of your ears, keep your mouth shut about your ex. Make sure the day is all about your daughter. Of course you go.

  I took the high road with my ex-family, and my children are still speaking to me today. Not so for the ex-family.
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  JW Parents refuse to have 8yr old back after transfusion

  by ISP in

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  25 jan 1996 : column 1162to the noble baroness, lady faithfull, if this was a matter with which she had to deal.

  i do so because it actually happened in oxford.

  the child of two jehovah's witnesses aged eight was knocked down, severely injured and was bleeding to death.

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  jgnat

  Here in Canada it is called Hansard, too. Must be part of our British roots.
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  Organization Books.

  by refiners fire in

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  you know, there is nothing like the pleasure of looking on your bookshelf and seeing all those dub books in their hard bound covers and their pretty colours.

  you can arrange them all kinds of ways, putting all the yellow ones together and the blue ones together .then you can put the green graded ones in the middle creating a flowing rainbow effect.

  looks nice.

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  My honey is a dedicated pack-rat. Do these titles ring a bell?

  • Your Will be Done on Earth (blazing mint green)
  • You may SURVIVE ARMAGEDDON into God's New World (yellow)

  This second one was printed in 1955. Any 1975 predictions in there, or did that come later?